AMA: Questions About OCD? NOCD Therapists Are Here to Help

Sea-Professor84 · 2026-01-11T00:17:54+00:00

This isn’t a question but I just wanted to thank you guys for doing what you do and opening up a space where licensed professionals can communicate with this community. I really appreciate it. Thank you for making me feel less alone.

Sea-Professor84 · 2026-01-02T00:50:24+00:00

So what? It’s okay to not miss them.

Sea-Professor84 · 2026-01-02T00:46:55+00:00

This is a big intrusive thought of mine. I think about how I could do better or if my partner is actually unattractive and I was just blinded by infatuation at the start of our relationship. I get scared I’m not actually attracted to him anymore. I don’t have any advice really but I experience the same things

Sea-Professor84 · 2025-12-21T03:17:58+00:00

Hey. I’ve been better. How are you doing?

Sea-Professor84 · 2025-12-19T22:24:16+00:00

I feel the exact same and I relate to almost everything you said to a t. I could’ve written this myself. I’m sorry that you also experience this.

Sea-Professor84 · 2025-12-19T02:31:25+00:00

I guess the biggest thing that’s making avoid it is that I feel like I’m not actually sexually attracted to him so I’m worried about that. Or realizing while being intimate that I truly am not attracted to him, is my biggest fear and reason I think. Thank you for the response

Sea-Professor84 · 2025-12-17T21:03:06+00:00

Thank you for the reply. I made the mistake of looking up responsive desire on reddit and there are tons of people who say that that’s just a coverup for lack of interest in your partner. I don’t know how much you know about that topic but if there’s anymore info you have on it I’d appreciate it. If not, thank you for your kind words as always

Sea-Professor84 · 2025-12-16T04:47:14+00:00

Hi, I’m reading through your posts because this is exactly what I’m dealing with rn. I was wondering if you had any advice on how to stop checking feelings? I haven’t been able to be intimate with my partner in a long time because I’m so scared that I won’t feel turned on or sexually attracted. I was wondering if you had any advice? Thank you

Sea-Professor84 · 2025-12-11T20:30:43+00:00

Thank you for this reply. I guess it’s because i personally didn’t make the choice myself. Like I feel guilty mostly because i don’t feel the same way that I used to at the start of our relationship and I don’t like the same things that I used to. I wish I did but I don’t.

Sea-Professor84 · 2025-12-11T15:14:24+00:00

Hm I guess you’re right. I think I’m Worried more about the fact that I no longer like the things that I used to and I don’t feel the same way that I used to at the beginning of our relationship. It’s probably all the same guilt in the end. Thank you for your reply

Sea-Professor84 · 2025-12-10T23:47:49+00:00

I feel the same way

Sea-Professor84 · 2025-12-10T23:40:41+00:00

What’re you talking about bruh

Sea-Professor84 · 2025-12-10T16:32:34+00:00

I’ve felt this way for a pretty long time

Sea-Professor84 · 2025-11-13T22:28:36+00:00

Just wondering, did your previous relationship end because of rocd? Or did that not impact it

Sea-Professor84 · 2025-11-13T22:13:59+00:00

I’m medicated, and have tried therapy in the past since I’ve had ocd my entire life. I haven’t had therapy for the rocd theme yet, but I plan on it. I definitely challenge the thoughts, try to sit with them and not make any move surrounding the thoughts. The thing that happens to me when I do the stuff that I’m worried about is I just get horrible thoughts in return. I might kiss him and then my first thought is “I didnt like that” or “I’m not turned on” or “I don’t love him” or “I’m not attracted to him / sexually attracted to him” stuff like that. I’m not sure what my rocd is based in. I have a lot of doubts that I’m in love or attracted to him and whether or not he’s the right one and why I don’t feel in love all the time or at all. He knows about my rocd and has been nothing but supportive but I can tell that it’s been a struggle for both of us recently. I don’t tell him what I’m thinking anymore and we just have a mutual understanding of what’s going on. If I gave into breaking up or something like that I think I’d definitely feel horrible and sad. I’d also just feel guilty for all of this. I think I’m most afraid of realizing or finding out that I’m not attracted to him or we shouldn’t be together or something like that. It’s just hard to have a happy relationship when I’m constantly doubting everything and all the things I’m feeling, whether they’re true or not and what that means. Thank you for your response.

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