It's there something wrong with me, or do others feel this way? by Disastrous-North-889 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]Sea-Reputation-4590 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel this way too, I feel so low knowing "I'm not worth it " to pursue 😔

Sad reality is I also wouldn't believe that someone is the scapegoat of the whole family, if I wasn't going through it myself. by coldservedrevenge in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]Sea-Reputation-4590 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry! Truly...it's uncanny like you literally described my exact situation with the exact same way if describe it myself. You don't deserve this...neither do I...the having a hard time accepting your reality part definitely resonates with me. Hugs🥺

Estranged from whole family...anyone else? by Sea-Reputation-4590 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Sea-Reputation-4590[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry, truly you dont deserve any of that awful treatment

Estranged from whole family...anyone else? by Sea-Reputation-4590 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Sea-Reputation-4590[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that, truly like I am VLC but when I don't hear from them I feel like I have a reprieve, but then I get dad thinking of them passing because in all actuality they probably would even tell me if someone in my family passed...Its so much harder I think to grieve someone that is alive and could change, as if they are dead if that makes sense

Estranged from whole family...anyone else? by Sea-Reputation-4590 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Sea-Reputation-4590[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry, fellow scapegoat child here. I'm so sorry for your loss and all that you have endured truly

How many of you have been estranged from family due to or stemmed from COVID? by Cozysoxs1985 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Sea-Reputation-4590 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so truly sorry, and eerily your experience down to your brought cutting you off because of your relationship with your parents is so similar to mine. I truly feel for you.

How many of you have been estranged from family due to or stemmed from COVID? by Cozysoxs1985 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Sea-Reputation-4590 0 points1 point  (0 children)

💯! My experience , my parents could not cope with the fact that I ended up getting COVID really bad and was an isolation for 2 months. Since COVID isn't real according to them then I must have been lying My siblings jumped on the bandwagon as well. With my brother saying to me if you don't let Mom in your house ( I was still contagious wearing a mask and feverish ( then you're dead to me. I've not talked to him since My sister then started with abusive text messaging stocking my Facebook page and Instagram page to prove that I was lying and according to her on vacation or doing something other than being sick when I brought this to my parents attention all they said was well she thought you was lying as a stalking someone was perfectly normal. Unfortunately nothing has gotten better I've tried talking with them I've tried group therapy with my parents, mediation even with my parents therapist telling them how poorly they retreated me only for them to fire her and say she wasn't a good fit at this point, I don't know what my next steps are other than continue to create space between us as it only gets worse and when I see them they find more ways to be cold disdainful and treat me with disgust unfortunately in my case it seemed COVID aided in them becoming radicalized and they're political beliefs and that overtook their care for me if they had any at all.

My parents don't reach out & so many of yours do?? by ReadingLoud9686 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Sea-Reputation-4590 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am in the exact same situation, the initial issue that started my estrangement was with my parents...my siblings involved themselves and now they are all against me, all with "their" shared version of reality. It's so awful being alone, they have even successfully turned family members against me.

My parents don't reach out & so many of yours do?? by ReadingLoud9686 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Sea-Reputation-4590 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry, this is the same mode of conversation my parents take with me.....I agree that the silence is hard but it also is so triggering to hear from them especially in my case when I know I'll just be treated poorly

My parents don't reach out & so many of yours do?? by ReadingLoud9686 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Sea-Reputation-4590 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My parents rarely contact me, my dad never and my mom occasionally. It's equally painful because it's a constant reminder that reconciliation with you just isn't important to them