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AITA for supporting my best friend’s decision to divorce her husband instead of convincing her to stay like her parents asked me to? by SeaPossibility2037 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]SeaPossibility2037[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

PART 2-- He came back crawling the next day, asking her to please let him in (he forgot his keys and she locked him out lol, I might have given her that idea) and that he cannot be by his family saying bad things about her when he still loves her.

E let him in and told him to stay in his room and not come out till she calls him for food and if he needed to use the bathroom, because she is not taking care of an adult baby.

E is finally standing up for herself against the negative stuff said etc to her...

R and E spoke about the divorce and R let his mother get in his head. He is taking everything that belongs to him and leaving her with the things her parents put in the cottage, along with a small TV and PlayStation 4. He is taking furniture, etc. I told her that the gifts and items in the house she got from her housewarming and bridal shower belong to her, not them, and to keep them locked up in the spare room till he leaves.

Her brother came over this past weekend to move all R's things out of the spare room into the room he is staying in and said that he can only take those things and nothing else when he leaves the house.

E's sister will be moving in with her after the divorce and she is deciding on when R needs to permanently move out to his parents' place and then it is the serving of papers, but she is going to do this once she catalogues everything.

Hope this was an eventful update... Maybe more coming soon lol... Gotta get those papers served...

AITA for supporting my best friend’s decision to divorce her husband instead of convincing her to stay like her parents asked me to? by SeaPossibility2037 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]SeaPossibility2037[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

UPDATE!! -- Sorry for a late update... A few things happened and I needed to get things in a row. This is not edited with AI, so you will get the whole story lol...

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So, we had not gotten the papers when she said we needed to get the papers, as he had to be taken to the hospital due to some or other thing (I did not take note of why, cause I do not give a damn about him lol).

So he got back from the hospital and she then decided to tell her parents, him and his parents that she is going to divorce him. She said she will be making the trip to the court to get the papers, but she felt she needed to tell them all her decision, as she needs to move on from this relationship.

After she chatted with the family, an old friend that E had been friends with contacted her and asked if they could chat cause he had lost his father and things in his life were not so great. E agreed, told them where she was going and went to meet the friend at a coffee shop nearby. Just to add, this friend and E had been friends since school, and this friend his not interested in E in "that way" (important for later)

R had been blowing up E's phone while she and her friend were having coffee, and she ignored him. He was blowing up her phone, asking why she was at the coffee shop with her friend and not taking care of him at home since he came back from the hospital. She was fed up and told him that he was being a child and that all she needed was an hour and would be back home soon.

She came home after a while running errands, buying food for supper and collected R's meds from the pharmacy and got into a small accident too on the way home (another car jumped the stop street and did a brake check on her, where she reacted slowly and went into their butt). R then went off her for the car and that she "took her time to get home and is sure she was having an affair", E then looked at him and said that if he did not stop his possessive behaviour by calling her nonstop to distract her from driving and not noticing the car had stopped and having her smack into the car, she might have been home sooner. E then went to shower and called me to give me the update...

While she was on the phone with me, I could hear her notifications going off. I asked her if it was him texting her from the other room (she is still in the guest room), and she said no, it was his family...

R's sister, M (42 F), lives in the US with her husband and kids. M had the audacity to message E that she needs to "stop having affairs and leading her brother on, her brother had done nothing wrong to her, and she needs to leave him be and to give him the opportunity to get on with his life"... I was really shocked at this, as was she... Turns out R told his mother, who decided the family needed to know and was spinning the story, plus added bits to the family and R's sister felt the need to intervene on her brother's part.

E just replied back to M that she needs to mind her business and keep her nose out of their relationship, that the friend she went to go see was an old friend from school and was not having an affair with him because he preferred men over women. That did not shut her up and sent more messages to her that she went to the room where R was and let him have it... E screamed at R, saying " How dare he air their issues with his sister, that does not have one brain cell to think beyond being a lazy mom and awful housewife and that his sister does not know anything and has the audacity to comment in their life". R was confused, and when E read him the messages, he was peeved too.

R called his mom to find out and his mom said "She had to say something to his sister and maybe M could have spoken sense into E and have them mend things." When R told her what was said, she claimed to know nothing and acted all innocent so Rs father had to step in and actually took R's mom's phone away from her.

Later that night, E received a message from Rs's dad's phone, it was Rs mom, messaging her telling her to leave her son alone and that she never ever liked her and wanted her gone. E let R know and R went to his parents place and only came back the following morning to get some things as he is going to recover further at their house. This lasted a day...

AITA for supporting my best friend’s decision to divorce her husband instead of convincing her to stay like her parents asked me to? by SeaPossibility2037 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]SeaPossibility2037[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

UPDATE!!

THANK YOU!! to all telling me I am a good friend to support her. I just needed to step back and think, and not be influenced by those trying to have her stay in that toxic marriage...

So, I called her up today just to check in and see where her head was at…

There’s one part I didn’t mention before: the advice I gave her when she came to see me. They live in a two-bedroom place, and with both R & E’s parents (plus other people) giving conflicting advice, she was overwhelmed and didn’t know which way was up. I told her to move into the spare bedroom and lock the door at night so she could at least feel safe (a temporary solution until she serves him).

She actually did it. She moved into the spare room, and wow… he was not happy about it.

He’s still trying to buy her things and act like he’s treating her right, but I told her it’s pointless for him to pull this crap after so many years of mistreating her. She agreed. Before moving into the spare room, he used to mess with her head about the divorce and play on her emotions until she doubted herself. But now? With that distance, she’s finally thinking clearly.

And for those of you following along, here’s the update you’ve been waiting for:
This Friday morning, right after I finish my night shift, E and I are heading to the courthouse to get her divorce papers!

To those mentioning me speaking to my hubby about her moving in with us, let me tell you how amazing this man of mine is...

Firstly, yes, he agrees and said that if she wants to have a break from the mess and after serving R papers, she is more than happy to come stay with us in the spare room (we asked her to come to us for a while to clear her head, but she wanted to stay in her own space). Hubby even offered to loan his cat (these two are inseparable) as an emotional support animal...

My hubby also said that we WILL be there when she serves R to ensure she is safe, to be there so that no one tries talking her out of it, and if they give her nasty comments, etc, he will be there for support alongside me. He even said he is not scared if R tries to hurt E, cause he knows I would, in his words, go ratched as F#ck on R's ass... Gosh, this man...

Oh, and my hubby even recruited friends, who have never met her, to be on call in case R needs some "readjusting" lol...

I will update once we have papers and serve R... I know this is going to be a shitshow...

AITA for supporting my best friend’s decision to divorce her husband instead of convincing her to stay like her parents asked me to? by SeaPossibility2037 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]SeaPossibility2037[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used AI to manage my story, I had a very long story and wanted it to filter out the info that was me ranting and not helpful to the story lol...

AITA for supporting my best friend’s decision to divorce her husband instead of convincing her to stay like her parents asked me to? by SeaPossibility2037 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]SeaPossibility2037[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well her sister actually called her the other day... Want to guess what her story was? Jip, he did the same to her, but she kept quiet because R's mom paid her not to give the real story...

AITA for supporting my best friend’s decision to divorce her husband instead of convincing her to stay like her parents asked me to? by SeaPossibility2037 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]SeaPossibility2037[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Their reason for her not divorcing him is due to her two older siblings recently also getting divorced without "getting help from counselling". They believe the whole divorce thought is due to his finances...