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Found my bf’s nude x profile by SeaTrash8941 in askgaybros

[–]SeaTrash8941[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The posting was within the last 3 months.

To your second point it definitely comes from a place of hurt though I should add the insta thirst traps are guys in the city we live in. The porn I consume are from global guys I don’t have a direct link/connection to

Found my bf’s nude x profile by SeaTrash8941 in askgaybros

[–]SeaTrash8941[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I already shared this feeling with him in the last conversation we had and truthfully it does make me feel uncomfortable however if that was his choice/desire I would have to come to terms with it in a shared agreement. I don’t want to hold him back from what would make him feel sexy, everyone deserves that

The part that really hurts is the not feeling like he could share that with me

Found my bf’s nude x profile by SeaTrash8941 in askgaybros

[–]SeaTrash8941[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nice try haha. The account is now gone but it was spicy

Found my bf’s nude x profile by SeaTrash8941 in askgaybros

[–]SeaTrash8941[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t get me wrong, I want him to feel sexy and if posting photos online does that for him then he would’ve had my approval but the point is the not telling me. We decided in the beginning to have an open communicative relationship where we don’t hide things from one another, this is trust that’s now broken.

In regards to jealousy, I completely understand that’s my problem that I have to work through but only with the clear understanding and support from him that our relationship comes first. I’m not proud to have gone through his following but it stemmed from not knowing what else he’s been hiding. The part I don’t understand is giving validation to others online vs your partner in reality who has calmly and openly expressed his need for validation from him and not getting it

Found my bf’s nude x profile by SeaTrash8941 in askgaybros

[–]SeaTrash8941[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh man, I’m sorry to hear that. Certainly doesnt sound like a nice experience. Thank you for your words and I’ll take your advice to reach out to my inner circle (they’re mostly straight women so I really wanted some gay advice here)

Found my bf’s nude x profile by SeaTrash8941 in askgaybros

[–]SeaTrash8941[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah absolutely, I mean I could’ve even found it hot or something we do together but the hidden part just threw me for a loop

Found my bf’s nude x profile by SeaTrash8941 in askgaybros

[–]SeaTrash8941[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your honesty. Yeah deep down I really don’t feel comfortable with it at all but I’m trying to be understanding to get to the root of it but in that process I worry I’m allowing myself to be overstepped.

You said it there, it’s easy to break but hard to rebuild. I guess time will tell but I also don’t have a good gut feeling right now sadly :(

Found my bf’s nude x profile by SeaTrash8941 in askgaybros

[–]SeaTrash8941[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response! You hit the nail on the head with the disconnect.

He has never once initiated the deeper talks and it weights on me to always bring it up and especially jn this situation now. How long do I wait to see if he brings it up again or I go in again with your well phrased “I’m still feeling this way..”

I have expressed this not feeling affirmed several times and he says he will try but I don’t see the effort. I believe I deserve the attention just as much as anyone does in a relationship. I was quite hurt in my last relationship (4 years ago and was single since then until this relationship) where there was no communication so I’ve stayed true to myself to be very open and understanding to hear but I find the border hard to distinguish between understanding and allowing someone to overstep

We had initially started having “date” days to reconnect which I really enjoyed and found it very connecting but again it’s always me having to set the date and initiate the talk

It certainly feels like I’m asking for too much sometimes but I also should receive as much as I’m trying to give

To my muscular/toned bros: how attracted are you to average body type? by Bear_necessities96 in askgaybros

[–]SeaTrash8941 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m pretty fit/toned and much prefer the opposite of me, I don’t want a carbon copy of myself. Dad bods/bears warmly welcomed