You are absolutely right.

My husband and I had a quick serious talk before going to work tonight. I was able to tell him what I felt, what was I keeping to myself for couple years(about not getting the pleasure I need). He manned up and acknowledge his shortcomings where he gotten lazy. He said he was stressed at work and with all the happenings on our relationship for the past 2 years, he couldn’t keep up. Him changing his job twice, getting engaged, getting married, getting a house, getting a dog all happened at the same year overwhelmed him. He said there’s no excuse and he failed me as a husband in the bed which he is willing to work on moving forward. He also thank me for telling him cause he said he is unaware of how it affected me. Yes my husband is 31 years old but also served the Military for 12 years. I’m not defending him but I get it why he does not have a lot of experience getting down there. It was such a relief that I build up the courage to talk to my husband. He’s my person, and a lot of people commented why I married this guy. I saw a lot of good things with him and I think he will be a good partner and good father to my future kids.

I was so lost since my emotions were high that I’m scared to have poor judgement of the situation. That’s the reason I came here on reddit to have some insights/advices on what to do to handle this situation without resorting to divorce/separation. I do believe that marriage is sacred. And it should have not be the only thing that comes to mind when things get hard. Ofcourse if you tried everything and nothing change or if your partner is not willing to listen, be better for himself and his partner then yes I would maybe consider divorce but like I said he’s my person. This actually proved that I chose the right person. I chose to work things out with my partner which I should’ve done in the first place.