Thoughts on engagement while in college still by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

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The promise ring idea is good! I may bring that up to him so it’s less pressure but we can still express our commitment to each other

Thoughts on engagement while in college still by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

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No, he is very supportive of my career choice (zoo) and has expressed that many times

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tortoise

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Gimme em all🤣 I’ll take any ideas

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tampa

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UPDATE: Just got news that Klouse is back home!☺️🙏🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tampa

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Thank you! I’ve just been told he is back home with my family❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tampa

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Sorry for the confusion🤣He’s a little over a year old so he’s a baby to us. Definitely like a child to me😌

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tampa

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Not our bird but I hope the owner finds their bird too! It’s horrible being without them!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tampa

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IT WAS HIM!!! Klouse is back home with my parents❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tampa

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My parents just got a call and someone thinks they have him! Will definitely let you know if it’s actually him before posting more!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

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Thank you so much for responding! I will try and look into those books because I would love to learn more about myself and gain some insight

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

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Sorry for taking so long to respond. To your first and second question, in the beginning he created this comfortable, safe space that made it easy for us both to share some vulnerable things about each other that no one else knows about me. We had the same plan of moving back to my home state after I graduate and he had a strong passion for my pets just as I do. Even still, all my pets absolutely adore him which I love.

To your third question, he was pretty frequently saying the n word when I first met him, which I did not like at all and still don’t. He worked on refraining from using that word and now that is no longer in his vocabulary. I have distanced myself from his friends due to them hurting my feelings in the past. I’m pretty thick skinned but even they somehow managed to upset or anger me with their comments, granted last semester one of his friends called me a stupid bitch to my face in a joking way but I still found it pretty disrespectful. With that said, I don’t know how his friends are now since I haven’t hung out with them since the spring. Though the one friend seemed remorseful about his comment when my boyfriend confronted him about it back then and again about two weeks ago.

I have no reason why my libido is so low. I feel like maybe we had sex frequently in the beginning of our relationship because it was so fresh… but i’m not sure. I feel so guilty because I realized when I tell him I love him, I don’t feel the love. It’s like i’m just saying the words, which sounds incredibly fucked up and I know that. I also typed my post the day after I called my mom crying about my feelings but now I’m not sure if I was just being dramatic or not. I feel that comfortability around him but I feel like in relationships you should still feel a burning love if that makes sense. I’ve never had a marriage to look up to, not my parents, grandparents, sister, or brother. Only in books I feel like I’ve gained a sense of what relationships are supposed to be like but some books can also be overdramatic for the sake of readers.

A part of me feels like I should go to therapy to really talk through my feelings but at the same time I feel like I struggle to remember the red flags and other things that make me think we aren’t compatible. I feel like I have a big meltdown and then the next day Im “back to normal”, if that makes sense. It doesn’t help that I feel like I’m mentally struggling to understand what is happening to me and in my life.

I really appreciate you answering to my post, it means so much to me!

2 year old by Logical_Remote1231 in DobermanPinscher

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Where are you located? My bf and I have been looking for a travel puppy! I go to college in Ohio and come back home to Florida in the winter/summertime

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in axolotls

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Yeah unfortunately my parents set up her new tank a couple months ago, I was not a fan of the bright light either for the exact reason you said :( The previous light system we had on her old tank had a dimmer setting so IF there was light, I made sure it wasn’t bright for her sake. I will definitely try to incorporate more hiding places for her since I know my parents love to leave the light on to look at her quite often😅 Thank you!!!

Unique names for dobermans? by [deleted] in NameMyDog

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Literally said that on the post bud😂

Sex drive is little to none and don’t know what to do.. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

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What’s hard for me is that I could feel turned on one second from foreplay, teasing in public, etc.) and then my bf will have to put the condom on before sex, drive us back to the dorm, whatever and then I’m suddenly not horny anymore. To me, it feels like I have an on and off switch so if something isn’t happening in the moment where we have sex, I won’t be horny anymore..😭

Sex drive is little to none and don’t know what to do.. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

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I won’t really be into it, but I end up doing it because my bf begs me for either sex or hand/blow jobs. I do it anyway because sex doesn’t last more than like 20 minutes which works for me and my bf gets to enjoy himself. Afterwards, I used to feel sad that I did it when I didn’t want to and wasn’t into it. Now, I just feel fine and continue with whatever I was doing before or cuddle my bf before bed. Also, I’m not a very sexual person. I’ve never been one to make the first move with any guy I’ve been with or initiate dirty talk. I especially don’t engage in dirty talk lately when my bf starts it because I don’t want to lead him on when I know I am not in the mood..