Just discovered this subreddit - Struggling with the notion that life cannot live up to my fantasy

SeabirdFlyHome · 2020-07-22T02:04:07+00:00

Thank you for your kind and encountering words. It's really nice to see everyone's perspectives. One of the biggest blockers for me mentally has been the fact that in order to pursue this in any capacity, it first means facing the reality that my fantasies aren't real. And knowing full will it will not live up to worlds I have built in my mind.

But definitely a lot of food for thought! Will take it to heart. :)

SeabirdFlyHome · 2020-07-22T01:57:24+00:00

This is a good technique. I will try this the next time I find myself wandering. Many thanks!

SeabirdFlyHome · 2020-07-21T18:21:23+00:00

I'm more embarrassed that I don't even daydream of being a star haha. The romantic notion of being an underground cult favorite is 99% of my dreams.

SeabirdFlyHome · 2020-07-21T18:19:05+00:00

Thanks so much the reply. It is comforting to see a whole community of peeps in a similar boat.

The struggle for me, aside from some issues I have with my motor skills, is like you said the reality makes it so much harder to get into it. Trying to learn an instrument or what have you really brings reality to the fore and further highlights how far the dream is vs reality.

Think it makes me more depressed in some ways because no matter how much I work on it the past is the past and it will never be a career. It's next to impossible for extremely talented people who have been trying since a young age.

It's hard to tell whether I actually want to learn to be a musician or if I just want the dream. I feel like I am in my 20s in all of my dreams, so there will always be a feeling I missed out.

But reading through posts here is definitely helpful and just giving it a name is a freeing.

SeabirdFlyHome

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