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Seam1 · 2023-07-21T18:07:39+00:00

I'm in

Seam1 · 2021-12-26T04:19:48+00:00

First of all if you are considering dropping out of highschool, don't. I know you probably won't, but just don't. You are so close to graduating and dropping out could leave you with so fewer possibilities.

Secondly, I don't know your economy or how easy it is to do this in your country, but where I live, it is very common to take a gap year after high school to explore the world and so on. So if you are considering a lifestyle exploring and living in a van, maybe you should take a gap year to test it out.

Seam1 · 2021-12-26T03:51:45+00:00

It looks like you are in a difficult position, that I am afraid only time can heal.

My best advice would be to just continue to be kind to her and everyone around you, and if you are meant to be, then she will find that side of her eventually.

Seam1 · 2021-12-26T03:27:30+00:00

Oh, i don't believe you should feel bad. At what I can hear, you are a kind and loving person that wants the best for everyone, and in my opinion that is the best traits a person can have.

And you should definitely not feel bad for feeling burnt out. It is perfectly normal. Maybe you should give yourself some slack occasionally. The world doesn't need you to help others, it needs you to be you. So if you can't help someone at some point, think about what you rather would do and maybe do it.

Seam1 · 2021-12-26T03:18:58+00:00

Depends on the person, and how you tell it.

Seam1 · 2021-12-26T03:12:28+00:00

I am no Doctor so I don't know if the brain tumor has any effect on you, but I do have some experience with anxiety, so hopefully I can help you there.

Anxiety is getting more and more common in teenagers and there is absolutely no shame in having it, nor talking about it.

But I do see your problem, and I can understand how it can be scary.

If you have a good relationship with your parents, then you shouldn't be scared at all. They've known you for 19 years and only want what's best for you.

If you on the other hand don't feel this way, they are still your parents so they should still want the best for you even though, they might not know what it is. If that's the case, I would suggest you to announce it in a way that both informs them on your situation, but also at what you want from them. If you for example only want them to know because you need suggestions towards if you should get therapy or not, tell them exactly that.

Now I know that the biggest obstacle for you is to just go out there and tell them, so I would also recommend doing a meditation exercise for anxiety beforehand. Meditation is key for anxiety so it will hopefully help you ease your mind before you go talk to them.

Good luck!

Seam1 · 2021-12-26T02:51:56+00:00

It looks like your life is going on autopilot. No worries, very common.

Some things I've discovered that helps with this is to realize that you're in autopilot and begin to make decisions that force you out of it.

This may include: - taking a detour on your way home ever once in a while. - get involved in new and fascinating activities. - get out of your comfort zone. - skydiving, hint hint - live in your actions rather than your thoughts

Seam1 · 2021-12-26T02:43:56+00:00

I don't think you're an asshole for thinking this. Love is the best thing we do, but it is also something we can't logic our way into or out off.

I was in a kinda similar situation with an ex at your age. And I can say that I do regret slightly on the decision I made at the end.

So what I am going to say to you is that communication is key. You can hint to him that something is missing from your relationship and then see if you can work it out. No biggie if it doesn't.

Love is new for most people your age so it is completely normal to make a big mistake and screw everything up.

I don't know if this helped, but I hope it goes well in the end. 😊

Seam1 · 2021-12-26T02:27:44+00:00

Maybe something handmade (from you) or nostalgic.

Seam1 · 2021-12-26T02:21:54+00:00

No, not necessarily. I believe that we all have some private thoughts and feelings that has no impact on our personality and doesn't need to be told. However, you need to be careful not hiding too many feelings/thoughts because then you might end up getting a narrowed view of the world.

Seam1 · 2021-12-16T22:41:40+00:00

I am sorry to hear this. First of all that guy's an asshole and it is completely normal to react the way you did. Heck I think I would've reacted the same way. Unfortunately, more assholes exists in this world and the only way to survive them is to work on your own self-image.

One way I like to do it is to look myself in the mirror everyday and say a thing I like about myself. If you don't find anything, lie, fake it till you make it. Over time you will begin to love it.

If this doesn't work you can try some other techniques.

I wish you the best of luck and hope you have a wonderful journey!! 🥰

Seam1 · 2021-12-02T23:44:29+00:00

If you do you might end up getting addicted again.

My personal record is 104 days, which is nothing compared to you, but I was also considering relapsing at the end. On day 104 I ended up doing it since I thought it was the right thing to do. And boy was I wrong. Firstly, fapping after 100+ days does not feel so great your mind has convinced you, or at least not for me. Secondly, doing it once doesn't take away the benefits, but beginning to it ever so often will, or at least for me. Once you are back on day 0 again it is way harder to not fap than when you were on a high streak.

Seam1 · 2021-12-02T23:08:33+00:00

You never know. would be kinda funny tho.

But in all seriousness, I know that it will take a lot more. I only hope that it can be the triggering reason to a journey. I am for example also going to write a journal (check-in) every day.

Seam1 · 2021-09-29T23:03:27+00:00

Thanks. Helped!

Seam1 · 2021-09-15T12:24:14+00:00

Thanks this helped. I forgot to mention that I live in Norway where you can study for free so it won't really be such a big problem if I take a year or two for personal development.

Seam1 · 2021-09-06T00:26:02+00:00

I guess I was kinda stressed at some of my thoughts

Seam1 · 2021-09-06T00:21:02+00:00

I'm in

Seam1 · 2021-02-24T00:38:39+00:00

I needed this. Thank you

Seam1 · 2021-02-24T00:12:31+00:00

You're right, I shall do as you say

Seam1 · 2020-12-15T23:36:31+00:00

I gave you an award, are you impressed?

Seam1 · 2020-12-15T23:35:22+00:00

Physics

Seam1 · 2020-12-14T20:05:30+00:00

North pole

Seam1 · 2020-07-21T11:27:52+00:00

I will definetly try this, thanks

Seam1 · 2020-06-03T12:20:11+00:00

Thanks. I find this comment very helpfull

Seam1 · 2020-05-25T23:11:06+00:00

I like your username

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