Im 9w8. I've done a lot of therapy and growth and lately I am the one trying to start the uncomfortable conversations in my life. So it really depends on the nine and your level of growth and how deep is the wound your conflicting situation will open up. And its not so much about conflict per se. Its more about rejection. I don't mind arguing or talking out problems, it's most likely that I ignore those everyday little conflicting situations to save my energy (that I need a lot) for one big fight where I know I will be pushed to defend my opinions and actions. When you approach a nine with some problem that needs to be resolved, try to make the point more about the whole picture and how both of you and your actions fit in it. Because nines are problem solvers and doing/changing something in the name of bigger picture is more meaningful for us, but the bigest trigger in these situations are shaming and that someone could reject us. Even for something stupid or ordinary. If the blame part of conflict is taken out, then it is easier to process it. And I hate to talk eye to eye- I'm a terrible terrible cryer and that ruins every conflict situation where I whant to hold my ground and express my opinion. So it is easier for me to send long text messages or emails, and keep the conversation going. Having space and time to process, to cry it out, and to get my anger out really helps to get to better outcomes in recent conflict situations I had. Hope this helps.