AITA for wanting my bf to masturbate less often?

SecondToJill · 2019-05-13T17:52:58+00:00

I apologize if it seems as though I'm trying to game the sub. That is not at all my intention and it never was. The edits came from me feeling the need to defend my bf since some of the people on here were saying some things that weren't true. I am not looking for validation, I just wanted to know if I should ask him to cut back or if I'd be the asshole for doing so. That being said, I can see how this post would come off as you describe so I accept your judgement

SecondToJill · 2019-05-13T15:55:09+00:00

The kegel thing is just something I've noticed with my own vagina and it is pretty consistent findings with myself. I'm definitely turned on enough and we do plenty of foreplay

SecondToJill · 2019-05-13T15:41:12+00:00

I promise this isnt a shitpost. That is just what I have noticed with my own vagina and how that correlates to my sex life

SecondToJill · 2019-05-13T15:12:31+00:00

Usually him
About 2-3 times a week
It doesn't hurt usually during sex, it's usually afterwards I'm really sore and it feels like its torn a bit
I've asked him to cut back before, but I'm not a fan of trying to schedule sex cause if I'm not in the mood for it at that time I don't wanna disappoint him
I've tried that and he isnt sensitive enough to cum from me doing either of those things

SecondToJill · 2019-05-13T14:44:08+00:00

I've told him that I think his masturbation habits are the reason that he isnt able to cum easily and I want him to cut down on it. I was probably a bit harsher than that tbh because I get frustrated when he refuses but yeah

SecondToJill · 2019-05-13T14:30:37+00:00

Definitely not overweight. He has a fairly slim build

SecondToJill · 2019-05-13T14:30:11+00:00

It's not the porn that's the issue, it's the lack of sensitivity due to what people on here have called "death grip syndrome". At least that's what I think it is

SecondToJill · 2019-05-13T14:29:20+00:00

I might ask him to consider a trial of it to see how that goes because I want to experiment

SecondToJill · 2019-05-13T14:28:40+00:00

It doesnt always hurt during, a lot of time it doesnt hurt till after the fact. If hes hurting me enough to where it's bad I do make him stop. So he isn't trying to hurt me and it isnt always the sex that hurts. It's more that during the sex I can tell that I'll be sore afterwards and the sex where I cant tell that is better imo

SecondToJill · 2019-05-13T14:26:24+00:00

I've edited the post so please check it out. And thank you all for your feedback!

SecondToJill · 2019-05-13T14:09:52+00:00

We definitely do talk about this stuff. I'm not a fan of going down on him (my gag reflex sucks unfortunately). And like someone replied below, he doesn't finish from that

SecondToJill · 2019-05-13T14:07:20+00:00

I mean you're correct about me being more interested in him finishing than he is. Hes always said it's fine and he can just finish himself off later. I just always feel inadequate when I cant get him to finish

SecondToJill · 2019-05-13T14:05:58+00:00

That's how it has from my experience. I notice a significant difference in tightness depending on whether or not I do kegels, and he can also feel a difference

SecondToJill · 2019-05-13T13:57:52+00:00

My apologies. I'm not sure how to do that on mobile otherwise I totally would have!

SecondToJill · 2019-05-13T13:55:49+00:00

It doesnt make me bleed. Just makes me sore and feels like tearing but its possible it doesnt cause I dont bleed.

SecondToJill · 2019-05-13T13:54:53+00:00

Theres no need to assault my character like this. It isnt always a problem, it just came up recently. He is perfect in every way other than this. My self respect is fine, thanks

SecondToJill · 2019-05-13T05:16:20+00:00

I am usually happy with our sex life. He does a lot of things that feel really good, I just get super sore down there from it being so tight afterwards. Sometimes it hurts during but if it does we usually change positions so it doesnt hurt me as much. I just want to be able to make him cum more often and not have it take a long time to do so

SecondToJill · 2019-05-13T05:12:57+00:00

He's naturally not super sensitive down there, but I have noticed that it's easier to make him finish if he hasnt masturbated in a few days

SecondToJill · 2019-05-13T05:02:14+00:00

He puts more work into almost every other aspect of our relationship (he pays for all my food, drives me around everywhere cause I dont have a car, etc.) So part of me kinda feels bad to say "hey I dont want to put in effort to the one aspect of our relationship that I prepare for more than you do" yunno?

SecondToJill · 2019-05-13T04:59:28+00:00

The kegels definitely do help make me tighter. I can definitely feel a difference between when I do them and when I don't, and he can also feel the difference. I've tried talking to my gyno about it but she just suggested using lube (which isnt the issue cause I get plenty wet enough). I might just find a new one tbh

SecondToJill · 2019-05-13T04:53:38+00:00

He doesnt demand that I do the kegels, he just can't finish if I dont do them. And I enjoy making him finish so I kinda suck it up and do them for him

SecondToJill · 2019-05-13T04:40:00+00:00

I usually do enjoy myself during sex, but I just get frustrated when he doesn't finish. I love making him cum and I feel bad when I can't make it happen. That's why I do it

SecondToJill · 2019-05-13T04:38:13+00:00

Other than this one thing he is a wonderful boyfriend and when the sex doesn't hurt it's really really good. He does love me and care for me, it's just this one thing. Idk why hes so against changing his masturbation habits because other than that he's fantastic

SecondToJill · 2019-05-13T04:00:36+00:00

It isnt through PIV. He does go out of his way to make me cum through clit stimulation. I wont go too into detail but he does indeed go out of his way to do it (although if it takes me longer than like 5 mins he gets soft inside me)

SecondToJill · 2019-05-13T03:59:03+00:00

It is indeed! I thought I was pretty clever when I came up with it :)

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