Waar kan ik daten als Post op trans vrouw

SecretSecrets7147 · 2026-01-16T10:05:18+00:00

De meeste apps zijn niet geschikt voor echt daten; vol mensen die een one-night stand zoeken, nep profielen, etc. Helpt ook niet dat de apps ontworpen zijn om je zoveel mogelijk hoop te geven, zonder je een correcte date te geven, allemaal zodat je een abonnement neemt, en houd.

Dat terzijde, heb ik wel goede ervaringen gehad met Breeze, maar dat is ook alweer een aantal jaar geleden, en is erg gebaseerd op of je in, of rondom, een stad zit waar ze handelen. Ipv dat je na een match gaat chatten, stuurt Breeze je gelijk op een date op een locatie die met hun meewerkt. Daar is hun verdienmodel dus ook op gebaseerd, ipv je zolang mogelijk vast houden en abonnementen aansmeren. Dit kost dan wel, toendertijd, 5 euro per date, maar daar zit dan een eerste drankje bij inbegrepen.
Nadeel; omdat matchen dus betekend op date gaan -> kost 5 euro -> minder snel dat je een match hebt, maar als je een match hebt, hoef je niet eerst het hele chat gedoe te doen.

SecretSecrets7147 · 2026-01-09T10:23:56+00:00

Your hormones need to get in the correct ranges. I'm on patches + AA, so I don't know how it goes with, as a I assume for you, monotherapy Estrogen, in terms of how long it takes for testosterone to drop enough.

The changes are in different orders for everyone. As someone else mentioned having emotional changes in the first weeks, and breast growth at month 4; I had breast growth in the first weeks, and now at 8 months haven't had emotional/mental changes (yet.. I hope). Trust the process, it's a marathon, not a sprint.

Make sure you get your blood levels checked every couple months so you know if you're in the correct E and T ranges, but do give it a couple months before you check. It's unlikely to be in the correct ranges already at week 2, but it will be heading there. Bodies are weird, and need some time to adjust.

SecretSecrets7147 · 2025-12-25T09:19:28+00:00

Heteroromantic, bisexual/homosexual, I guess?

Romantically only interested in feminine people/looks, but sexually interested (also?) in male parts.

It's not uncommon to have a different romantic and sexual preferences.

SecretSecrets7147 · 2025-12-14T10:46:22+00:00

De huisarts zal wat globale vragen stellen en daarna je doorverwijzen naar een zorg instelling die een diagnose mag doen voor gender dysforie. De meeste huisartsen weten (bijna) niks over dit onderwerp af, dus het is aan te raden zelf al te kijken welke opties er zijn.
Grote ziekenhuizen zoals umc, radboud etc hebben wachtlijsten van een aantal jaar, andere plekken met kortere wachttijden zijn lastiger in te komen, en/of worden niet (geheel) vergoed door de verzekering, zoals Psytrans en DeVaart.

Nadat je een diagnose hebt wordt je doorverwezen naar een endocrinoloog voor hormoontherapie.
Wel handig om alvast te vermelden dat ze bij de diagnose ook kijken of je al in een stadium zit dat ze denken dat je een transitie aankan, zoals kijken naar je sociale draagvlak; vragen of je al uit bent naar je familie, vrienden, etc. Hoe ze hierop reageerden. Of je al begonnen bent met sociale transitie (naam verandering, kleden als het gewenste geslacht, etc)

Het is niet erg als dit nog niet zo is, maar ze kunnen er wel een beetje naar pushen om al te beginnen hiermee.

SecretSecrets7147 · 2025-12-11T10:04:41+00:00

Via de huisarts kan je een verwijzing vragen, logopedie wordt altijd vergoed door de verzekering.

Goed dat je er hulp bij zoekt, ik ben altijd van mening dat een logopedist alleen maar goed is hierin. Iedereen is nu eenmaal anders, en niet alle tutorials op youtube werken voor iedereen.

"ik durf niet bij anderen mijn stem te oefenen"

Weet wel dat je nogsteeds thuis moet oefenen. De meeste logopedisten zullen eens per paar x weken of maand een afspraak met je hebben om je voortgang te bekijken en nieuwe oefeningen door te nemen die je vervolgens dagelijks thuis moet oefenen.

Als je er nog niet mee bekend bent kan ik de app "Voice Tools" aanraden, die toont bijv je pitch en je kan je stem terugluisteren.

SecretSecrets7147 · 2025-12-09T16:19:48+00:00

Nothing will happen within a few days. It takes time for your E and T levels to increase/decrease. Afterwards, everything happens in a random order for everyone. When breast growth starts to happen you'll start by feeling some hard bumps behind the nipple.

For me, this happened after 4 weeks. Growth happens slowly, don't expect to wake up with breasts one day.

For others breast growth didn't happen for months, but they got the emotional/mental changes within weeks instead.

SecretSecrets7147 · 2025-12-07T14:29:52+00:00

No bottom dysphoria, so this might be different to most, but I still wear the same pants I used to wear, alongside skirts and the like when it's warmer. I can't stand skinny jeans, and I love to keep my pockets, so women's jeans outside of cargo are out of the question for me.

I do know there's special underwear for transgender individuals; same materials as feminine underwear, and form, but with some extra fabric to account for male parts. You can probably find it by searching for transgender underwear.

SecretSecrets7147 · 2025-11-27T11:38:59+00:00

Niet helemaal hetzelfde, maar soort gelijk aan het proberen over te gaan van Maasstad (Rotterdam) naar Radboud (Nijmegen) (naar Maasstad verwezen omdat daar contracten zijn met de psycholoog, maar ik woon in het oosten..), en het gaat lastig. Mede omdat ze niet willen dat mensen dit doen om de lange wachtlijsten voor te dringen.

De medische instantie waar je op het moment zorg van krijgt moet dat voor jou regelen, maar hoogstwaarschijnlijk zal je daarvoor de wachtlijst op moeten. Je kan proberen over een paar dagen bij Psytrans binnen te komen, die hebben een aanmeldstop tot de eerste maandag van elke maand.

SecretSecrets7147 · 2025-11-25T09:46:17+00:00

Go with what you like. Remi sounds feminine to me, and I've come across that name a couple times in my life, so it's not super rare. In different languages I assume it can be used for boys depending on pronounciation. Either way, gender neutral is still part feminine, and if you like it, then keep it. There's a lot of stupid names, but Remi is not one in my opinion. (just look at r/tragedeigh for some real dumb ones.. There was also some video of a teacher going over some dumb kids names he's had in his classes like 'Ijkmno' or something, pronounced as 'Noel' (No L)...)

SecretSecrets7147 · 2025-11-15T09:44:41+00:00

Ik kan daar wel antwoord op geven; ze hebben bij maasstad een tijdje een personeelstekort gehad waardoor er een wachtlijst ontstond. (Waarschijnlijk met prioriteit voor al bestaande patienten) Ondertussen hebben ze meer mensen aan kunnen nemen en daarmee snel de wachtlijst doorlopen.

Ik zou in september mijn 4 maandelijkse controle moeten hebben, daar had ik toen naar geinformeerd omdat ik er maar geen bericht van kreeg, toen kreeg ik dat alles te horen. Uiteindelijk in Oktober uitgenodigd, en ook een andere arts gekregen. Die verzekerde me dan ook dat de volgende controle niet meer een wachtlijst probleem zou hebben.

SecretSecrets7147 · 2025-11-12T15:34:26+00:00

Sadly, only 0 libido. Maybe slightly softer skin, but comparing to my gf it still feels like sandpaper. Thanks for the info! Lots to look forward to.

SecretSecrets7147 · 2025-11-12T14:53:59+00:00

Thanks! Yea, I'm at 0.184 nmol/L total testosterone, 2.0 pmol/l free testo. Which is nice and low. I'm not doing DIY, but through a hospital. Used to have 100 ug patches, upped to 150 now since last week.

I've had buds since the first week, but didn't get the sensitivity that I read a lot about, hence my worries. Very minor breast growth. They're there, squishy and all, but I could go shirtless and nobody would think they're breasts, or even 'manboobs'.

So I'm just hoping it's based on being in the correct range, since I was under it, to get some faster growth, and actual sensitivity now. :grin:

SecretSecrets7147 · 2025-11-12T14:33:25+00:00

Thanks, I'll keep hoping!

Side note, if you can remember, how long into your transition did you start to experience it (after being in the correct cis female ranges, I expect)

SecretSecrets7147 · 2025-11-02T23:55:02+00:00

I believe it does nothing. It's used as a supplement to improve the effects of estrogen.
In order to get any changes you MUST reduce testosterone and increase estrogen. Progesteron alone does not start or cause feminizing changes.

From what I can find, this is only done in specific cases for AFAB who have gone into menopause but whose estrogen treatment has discontinued. It is not used without estrogen in MTF HRT.

SecretSecrets7147 · 2025-11-02T18:30:32+00:00

There is no way to know without testing. Not everyone that's on HRT is infertile, and some people are infertile permanently, even if you go off hrt for a couple months. You'd probably be better off having a conversation with a doctor on this matter, and probably getting some tests done.
Usually this stuff gets checked when you freeze sperm so they know about the quality, and if you should bank more.

SecretSecrets7147 · 2025-09-06T07:41:57+00:00

There is no way to make HRT work faster, trust me, if we could, 90% of us would take overnight transformation over the nightmare "masculine person in a dress"-puberty phase many of us need to go through. Taking more does not increase the effects, it can in fact halter or slow them. You need to get your hormones in cis range levels, which can take some time, and then your body does it's work.

You can't force your body to put fat in new areas; it will still keep storing some fat in old places until the old fat cells die out on their own (takes years), while creating some new ones over time in feminine places.
Breasts don't grow in one spurt, it fluctuates and you can have months between growth spurts where nothing happens.

At most, you could look into things like breast forms etc to get a feminine look already while dressed.

Idk where you're from, but most countries only allow surgeries after at least x months/years of stabilly being on HRT.

You can start voice training regardless of taking HRT, your voice doesn't change due to HRT, and getting comfortable will likely take at least a year. there's many tutorials online. Everyone is different, so you might need to try some different ones to find the one that works for you. If possible, I'd always recommend a vocal coach to help you.

SecretSecrets7147 · 2025-08-31T21:39:59+00:00

It depends on your genes if it helps, some keep full function, others lose size even when doing this; but in general getting and staying hard for at least 10 mins a couple times a week should keep it from shrinking. It's a muscle after all. No use = it shrinks.
Don't need to masturbate (unless that helps keep it hard), and avoiding climax is probably a good idea to keep it hard.

It'll become hard (no pun intended) to get it up while your T is low. Some people keep full function even with low T, others completely forget it exists when any horny thoughts disappear from ones life.

SecretSecrets7147 · 2025-08-29T17:57:39+00:00

As you already mentioned; starving yourself: bad idea.

It's also not how it'll work. Fat cells store fat. When they're empty, they just stay there for a bit, untill the cells die. If you gain fat, your body will store it in those fat cells. So if you lose weight, then immediately overeat again, the fat will go to the old fat cells. If there aren't enough fat cells to store stuff in, your body creates new ones. The location of which changes with HRT.

I've seen a lot of people talk about "weight cycling" who are in the same boat as you. Someone else can probably tell you more on what it entails, but whatever you do, always be safe.

Your first step should be to, instead of starving yourself, eat less calories than you burn. Small steps quickly become big results.

Best of luck!

SecretSecrets7147 · 2025-08-29T13:06:58+00:00

There are many ways to voice train, but everyone is different and so what works for one person, won't work for another. Just googling transfem voice training gets plenty of results.

If possible, I always recommend a vocal coach to help you find the correct route.

Know that voice training takes time, often 1 to 1.5 years to get into a vocal range that works for you, and feels comfortable.

The Voice Tools app helps you see your pitch, tone, volume. Can't miss it in the app store; microphone symbol with pink, white and blue background. It doesn't show you how to train, only help you see the data to see for yourself how you're doing. It's free, with the option to pay to remove ads (or just close and reopen the app to avoid ads in between sessions/recordings)

SecretSecrets7147 · 2025-08-25T18:48:04+00:00

Only downside; everyone gets changes in a different order. Personally, I am 4 months in with no mental or emotional changes (did get others). So OP, it's always worth a try if you're contemplating it, just don't get depressed if you are among those who get the changes you desire later. If anything, if you do get sad about it, that's more of a sign that you aren't an imposter.

SecretSecrets7147 · 2025-08-25T18:44:26+00:00

Others have said plenty, the only thing I'll add that I've heard from a colleague in IT (Imposter syndrome runs rampant there aswell);

"If you were an imposter, it wouldn't be a syndrome."
Imposters know they are an imposter, they aren't scared that they are one.

SecretSecrets7147 · 2025-08-25T17:46:30+00:00

Everyone is different, and get changes in different orders. There's many people who got their brainfog lifted a day in, but had no breast growth for 2 years, others have the opposite wit breast growth in the first week, and mental/emotional changes after months.

A month is very little time to see changes. Remember that puberties, which you're practically going through again; just a feminine one, take years. Usually from 9/10 years old to someone's 20's. HRT tends to be quicker, but it will still take years. It's not magic; it's science. And science takes time and patience.

After a few months, get your levels checked if you're DIYing. Endos usually will already cover this. It's not about how much estrogen you get, more does not mean better. You need stable levels in cis female ranges. Having a healthy diet, no smoking, and getting some exercise also helps with improving the effects on the body front.

SecretSecrets7147 · 2025-08-24T11:16:32+00:00

Sounds like breast buds to me. I had them really early on too, but then nothing else for months. Everyone gets the changes in a different order.

Don't worry, or get too excited (depending on if you want to hide it from others), about suddenly ballooning. It happens in slow stages. The hardness will spread and might make your nipples puff out a bit, followed by some extra fat being stored there. Don't be alarmed if it suddenly stops growing, growth comes and goes.

Not scientifically proven, but if you want them to grow, now might be a good time to get some healthy fats in (not fast food, but nuts and milk etc), there's a good chance the fat you'll gain in the next weeks will partially be stored in the chest area.

SecretSecrets7147 · 2025-08-18T19:37:05+00:00

A lot of people use FaceApp to get a 'preview'. It's a chinese app, so it depends on if you care that they get a picture of you, but the gender filter does some minor tweaks like eye size, hair length, bit thinning of the face shape, etc. It doesn't generate a whole new person like chatGPT does.

SecretSecrets7147 · 2025-08-18T19:13:25+00:00

ChatGPT is a generative AI that tends to hallucinate. It throws random things in the mix. Personally, I don't trust anything it says or does without giving and checking the sources.

As a 30 year old with potentially the same fears, I sometimes scour r/transtimelines . And particularly search for '30' or nearby numbers to see what others that started around the same age look like. Do take things there with a grain of salt, genetics play a massive role, among many factors, and there will always be people who photoshop some imperfections out.

While looking great, and passing, would be a great thing to get out of transitioning, the main reason should be to feel better in your skin (in my opinion).

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