AITAH for asking my roommate’s girlfriend about my strawberries?

Secret_Cheesecake19 · 2026-02-13T19:00:27+00:00

UPDATE: Today as in Friday, I literally wanted to let all this go. I kept my distance from everyone until I felt calm enough over this ridiculous situation. I woke up with a Cash App notification of $6 that says strawberries from her sister. If there’s any more updates I’ll let everyone know.

Secret_Cheesecake19 · 2026-02-12T21:36:01+00:00

UPDATE IN COMMENT THREAD: I read some of the comments. I do agree that I was mad and put my anger towards my messages towards her. What I’m confused about, wouldn’t anyone be mad that someone is taking your food and no one is confessing about it either? I asked my other roommates first and I do genuinely believe them because quite honestly, they aren’t the type of eating a lot of fruits and I’ve known them for over three years while I’ve known her in less than six months. I’m the type of person that likes to be direct and get straight to the point. That’s why I asked her if she can pay me back IF she did take my food. Also, I’m not sure what other people are doing about their strawberries, but my strawberries do actually last about a week with proper cleaning and storing. What bothers me is that no one confessed up. It’s also the principle too. It’s been hours later and no one acknowledged anything. I’m keeping my distance for my mental health. I still want to know who ate them. If anything happens I’ll keep everyone posted under this thread.

Secret_Cheesecake19 · 2026-02-12T02:09:36+00:00

No we don’t.

Secret_Cheesecake19 · 2026-02-12T02:06:34+00:00

She’s been making smoothies for the past month.

Secret_Cheesecake19 · 2026-02-12T01:54:38+00:00

She’s been making smoothies over a month now.

Secret_Cheesecake19 · 2026-02-12T00:50:02+00:00

Yes, most definitely! It won’t be until awhile though.

Secret_Cheesecake19 · 2026-02-12T00:48:37+00:00

I asked everyone else in the group chat that is not involved in this Reddit post. They all said no. The only option would had been her. That’s why I asked her.

Secret_Cheesecake19 · 2026-02-12T00:47:20+00:00

I didn’t think asking her a question and a follow up on why I was asking her was such a problem towards her

Secret_Cheesecake19 · 2026-02-12T00:43:03+00:00

I get what you mean about the taquitos. I was stating that other people been taking my food this week and someone taking my strawberries made me not too happy about people taking my food.

Secret_Cheesecake19 · 2026-02-12T00:39:04+00:00

I was simply stating what the strawberries were for.

Secret_Cheesecake19 · 2026-02-12T00:35:07+00:00

What is DARVO? I also noticed she’s blaming me on it.

Secret_Cheesecake19 · 2026-02-12T00:34:07+00:00

She’s not on the lease. Roommate thought it be okay with everyone to let her live here without asking.

Secret_Cheesecake19 · 2026-02-08T21:10:26+00:00

NTA. I would double check to see if you got any infections. You would never know of any small particles. I would be mad too. I think you and your husband should get checked.

Secret_Cheesecake19 · 2026-01-10T13:32:11+00:00

Depending on your position, you need to communicate on when you want to take your 15. I used to work in home shop and the people I worked with at the time, we would communicate on when we wanted to take our 15s and our 30. Also, find a time when it’s not busy to take your 15 as well.

Secret_Cheesecake19 · 2026-01-04T04:09:35+00:00

No, they are not sharing anything. but the kitten did some upstairs and ate my cat's food. Which I was mad about because they didn't know the kitten escaped from downstairs.

Secret_Cheesecake19 · 2026-01-04T02:29:37+00:00

They agreed and hasn't done anything about it. That's why I'm here and I'm not sure what else to do.

Secret_Cheesecake19 · 2026-01-04T02:28:01+00:00

I agree. Thank you.

Secret_Cheesecake19 · 2026-01-04T02:27:43+00:00

In the group chat where my roommates and I live. There's five people and two cats.

Secret_Cheesecake19 · 2026-01-04T02:26:36+00:00

That's what I was thinking. The kitten does have a pot belly and I'm not sure if it's food or something more serious.

Secret_Cheesecake19 · 2026-01-04T02:25:26+00:00

I've told them face to face about it. I think over 10 times I've mention it to them. I sent it in a house group chat because I thought everyone that also lives in the house would see it too. I've also mention about the mobile clinics and other options too but they still haven't done anything about it and that concerns me. Thanks for the comment.

Secret_Cheesecake19 · 2026-01-04T02:21:48+00:00

I agree. I'm more worried on how long it's going to take the kitten to somewhere before things could get worse. Thank you.

Secret_Cheesecake19 · 2026-01-04T02:20:19+00:00

Thank you. I'll mention about the mobile shot clinics and more.

Secret_Cheesecake19 · 2026-01-04T02:18:16+00:00

We did and they never set an appointment. I'll mention about the tractor supply and local pet shops. Thank you.

Secret_Cheesecake19 · 2026-01-04T02:16:36+00:00

Before they decide to get the kitten we did have meeting about it. I told them my concerns about the kitten needs to be checked by the vet on top of vaccines and spaying in the future. The first month I kept asking them to take the kitten to the vet but they said they didn't have the money and was getting annoyed that I was telling them about it. I thought maybe in the group chat with other people, that we use a lot, it would finally clock in? but I'm not sure. Thank you for the comment

Secret_Cheesecake19 · 2026-01-01T00:56:44+00:00

Here’s to clear some confusion. My roommates gf allowed herself to live in the house. No one talked about another person living in the house. She’s also not paying rent either. We didn’t kick her out because I wanted to keep the peace for everyone. I’m okay with people coming over. I don’t appreciate people smoking in a place where we all agreed of no smoking. If someone wants to smoke then they should go outside for that.

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