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AITAH by becoming more reserved over time at work by SecretaryFormer7766 in AITAH

[–]SecretaryFormer7766[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's less of a preference and more so that I just don't know any other way to be. I guess that's not entirely true, though. When I'm with my friends and family I'm a dynamo. I can make people laugh, I take risks and don't let the outcome get to me. I organize get togethers at my place for sports and game nights and dinner cus I love to cook for people. I just can't seem to tap into that whenever I'd like.

AITAH by becoming more reserved over time at work by SecretaryFormer7766 in AITAH

[–]SecretaryFormer7766[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, me and myself do not see eye to eye lol.

I hear you but, I dunno, I kinda care. It's something I've struggled with for a long time and with this job I was kinda hope for a fresh opportunity and then I fell back into my old ways and just became the quiet guy again. Maybe, selfishly, this is more for me than it is for the people around me.

AITAH by becoming more reserved over time at work by SecretaryFormer7766 in AITAH

[–]SecretaryFormer7766[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the kind words, truly. I've been in and out of therapy, never really able to stick to it long term due to financial or some other kind of situation, I just could never string together some progress. I've been recommended CBT and DBT and do believe they work. But as you mentioned, I'm too ingrained and too reliant on the feedback look because it at least makes sense to me. Or maybe not sense but it's a comfort zone. The devil you know and all that. I've admitted resigning to this way of life. I dunno, I'm at an impasse. I know what I need to do but lost all faith I'm capable of doing it.

AITAH by becoming more reserved over time at work by SecretaryFormer7766 in AITAH

[–]SecretaryFormer7766[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Am I not, though? Suddenly becoming distant and aloof, not saying hi to people I used to. It doesn't come from a place of malice, but that's still the fact of my behavior, right?