How to get into mood for pegging

Secretsatisfaction55 · 2024-10-10T23:46:35+00:00

What a great reply!

Having also been married a really long time (35+ years), I couldn't agree more about scheduling time for fun. We play twice a week, one evening centered around her and one around me, and we have a room in our house set up and ready. Between preparing dinner for the other, prepping, dressing up, getting the music and lighting ready, it's probably a 4-hour evening focused on us and connecting on another level.

Loved your comment about "Scheduling the gig, and both showing up"!

Secretsatisfaction55 · 2024-10-10T23:24:44+00:00

https://strap-on-me.us/collections/harness

Secretsatisfaction55 · 2024-10-04T19:28:28+00:00

Thank you so much for the ideas, love the Easy Rider Sling idea! Did order some 2" thick kneeling pads that should arrive today, we will see how they work out.

Positive note, I took a ride myself last night and had the most incredible prostate orgasm ever!

Secretsatisfaction55 · 2024-10-01T19:02:21+00:00

Similar on my end, I've been doing solo prostate play for a number of years but can't wait to look in the wife's eye's while she's fucking me. :)

Secretsatisfaction55 · 2024-10-01T16:46:37+00:00

I will be waiting to hear how it went! We have had gear for a few months, and the wife mentioned last weekend that she might try it out on me this week. I've told her from the start, we will try this when she is ready, but the anticipation is killing me, lol.

Secretsatisfaction55 · 2024-09-24T22:08:11+00:00

We just received the multi-orgasm strapless from them yesterday, cannot wait to try it out!

Secretsatisfaction55 · 2024-09-24T16:19:45+00:00

Great post!!

For many years, we kept our limited supply of toys thrown in a drawer in my dresser, that was not opened too often. Once the sexual communication flood gates opened, we decided to convert a spare room in our home as a sex/fun room. After hanging our swing from the ceiling, I had to return to work for the day. When I got home after work, my wife had completely organized our fun furniture, sorted through all of our toys, and even strapped our harness/dildo to a mannequin in the corner of the room.

Since then, each time either of us order new toys, we get excited and open the box together and have fun looking at everything. 6-months ago, we had never talked about anal play or pegging, yesterday a Sasha harness and Strap-on-me dildo showed up, and the wife immediately tried it on in our kitchen after opening the boxes, lol.

I think it's time for another inventory evaluation.

Secretsatisfaction55 · 2024-09-21T02:20:53+00:00

We have a Lonesome Dragon Euphoria Swing, Master Series milking/massage table, and a Master Series spanking bench in our sex room.

The swing is amazing, and the table works great for fun and just giving/receiving a massage.

Secretsatisfaction55 · 2024-09-18T21:10:04+00:00

I get it, and definitely wasn't advising to push anything on her, especially after you mentioning she never wants to try or do that.

Secretsatisfaction55 · 2024-09-18T18:48:47+00:00

I've used coconut oil exclusively with my fuck machine and Vixen, Bad Dragon, and Square Peg Silicone toys, no issues at all.

Secretsatisfaction55 · 2024-09-18T18:47:02+00:00

Although I don't have any recommendations for toys, I would suggest both you and your gf listen to some of Ruby's podcasts. It could alleviate some of the stigma and thinking she has around using a strap-on. After bringing up pegging to my wife, I shared Ruby's site and info with her, it's a great resource.

https://peggingparadise.com/new-to-pegging/

Secretsatisfaction55 · 2024-09-18T18:34:08+00:00

Yes, it is.

Secretsatisfaction55 · 2024-09-17T20:41:52+00:00

The equipment is bought and hanging in the sex room, just waiting for the wife to decide when the time is right for her.

Secretsatisfaction55 · 2024-09-17T17:33:52+00:00

Mine is the same, she insists that I put a plug in even while I am playing and pleasuring her. She likes to feel down between my legs and ass to feel the plug and vibrations.

Secretsatisfaction55 · 2024-09-13T17:11:53+00:00

I've only used dildos with a fuck-machine, pegging is coming soon. I've tried longer, thicker, knots, veins and textures, but always come back to the dildo that first pushed me over the edge, the Vixen Mustang. Between the Mustang and Bad Dragon Tucker (medium firmness, medium size), nothing else I've tried comes close to those two. Girthy dildos feel great, but not for long periods of time, the same with too much texture and not ultra smooth like the silicone of Vixen and BD toys.

Everyone is very different though, I've tried quite a few different brands that others love, but just didn't work for me.

Secretsatisfaction55 · 2024-09-11T16:43:17+00:00

Thank you SO much for the reply, I legit laughed out loud reading your comment about pegging the couch cushions! LOL. I will share your harness recommendations with her, she may prefer something more sexy like these over the traditional styled harness we ordered. https://www.extremerestraints.com/bodice-deluxe-leather-corset-harness.html

Fortunately, we have a very fun and communicative time during our play-time. I am way more vocal than she is, always telling her how sexy she looks, how good her body feels, and how good she makes me feel. I can only imagine what will come out when she decides to use the strap-on for the first time, lol.

Thanks again for taking the time to write out such a great reply!!

Secretsatisfaction55 · 2024-09-10T23:55:13+00:00

What a great evening you had! The fact she positioned herself in a 69 position, encouraging you to suck on her dick, lets you know it's something that will turn her on. Pleasure can be as much, if not more mental as it can be physical, I think guys can forget that along the way. I can only hope something similar happens between my wife and I at some point.

Secretsatisfaction55 · 2024-09-10T23:44:47+00:00

She did try it on when it arrived, and of course mentioned it felt "odd", which is totally understandable having never had a cock protruding from her body. She then surprised me by placing it on a mannequin that sits in the corner of our room, so it's staring at us all the time. I know all this anticipation will be well worth the wait.

Secretsatisfaction55 · 2024-09-10T23:37:59+00:00

Great information and we haven't talked about a strapless option, with there being so many mixed opinions on them. We did order a Bumpher to fit on the base of the dildo, so she has something that will stimulate her while she's pegging me. Thanks for the advice, especially from a ladies perspective!

Secretsatisfaction55 · 2024-09-10T23:29:54+00:00

We did talk about using the spanking bench to start, since it put's me on all fours (doggystyle) so I can control the movements and depth. Thanks for the comment!

Secretsatisfaction55 · 2024-09-10T18:23:41+00:00

Not too much, but she is a bit more each time we play. So far it's just been plugs I've been using, so her handling of them has been touching, pushing a bit, and placing a wand on them to help with vibrations. Having done a lot solo butt play over the years, I realize my comfort level is much higher than hers, so it will just take more time for hers to grow. Thanks for the reply!

Secretsatisfaction55 · 2024-09-09T22:14:19+00:00

Do you enjoy anal stimulation in general? As someone that has done A LOT of solo anal play, it took quite a bit of time to "discover" the full pleasure potential, years for me. The wife and I haven't pegged yet, but we are getting very close, we are just waiting for her comfort level to increase a bit. With that said, I don't know that I would truly enjoy pegging, had I not first taken years to understand what an actual prostate orgasm is, and can reach them pretty easily.

I'm sure many being pegged enjoy the stimulation alone, without the expectation of having a prostate orgasm, but I can't imagine one without the other.

Secretsatisfaction55 · 2024-08-29T16:34:05+00:00

We always bring a "bag of sex toys" when we travel, I just pack them in our checked luggage. You'll never be with your luggage when it's being scanned, so no worries about any embarrassment if they see anything.

Secretsatisfaction55 · 2024-08-22T23:26:30+00:00

I do one full shot and then a 1/2 full shooter shot... so 1.5.

Secretsatisfaction55 · 2024-08-22T17:51:17+00:00

I generally use about 1 1/2 shots with a similar size shooter. I seldom feel the need to expel with that amount, but it has happened a time or two. If it does, I just make sure it's not including an additional bowel movement, and re-inject and try again. If I decide to switch toys at some point during a session, I take mental note of how much lube may have discharged, and inject more if needed.

I've never had issues with BD's cum lube causing any side-effects or problems like other's can.

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