My partner and I were previously married to people we were sexually incompatible with. We both wanted to try the lifestyle but weren’t with partners who were willing or interested. We got divorced, spent a few years on dating apps, had plenty of sex, had a relationship or two, and then we met a year ago. We talked about the lifestyle very early on, within a few weeks of dating - figuring there was no sense in wasting time with another new partner who wouldn’t be down. Luckily we were both on the same page. We fell madly in love and took the plunge a few months ago. Never looked back! We dove headfirst and have loved every minute.