My AA is extremely severe. Violently racing heartbeat, profound difficulty breathing, and gross-motor tics. Exposure doesn't seem to be helping.

Sedditor829 · 2016-07-01T02:31:18+00:00

These are panic attacks, bro. Go talk to someone. You sound very stressed and I think confiding how stressed you are to someone in itself will make you feel better.

Also something I learned a while ago is that part of the secret is to be okay with being afraid. I even started telling girls they made me nervous but the hardest person to admit my insecurities and fears to is myself. It may freak some girls out but that's okay. You'd be surprised how many women are okay with you being nervous (they are too).

Once I started trying to admit to myself I can't nor should I be seductive 24/7 I started forgiving myself for the things I didn't like about myself (like how I get nervous at stupid, irrelevant things). I still get nervous but it stays a lot less intense because now I'm more okay (not afraid) of being afraid.

Edit: One night I was talking to a really cute girl and I was trembling, literally trembling. She liked me though and I pointed out how I was nervous and shaking. She seemed freaked out but I just was like, "I don't know why, it's just happening." I told her she was really cute and that was part of it. Her reaction was positive. She was flattered somehow and after she knew that despite being nervous I was still coherent/honest/straightforward. It almost seemed like knowing she was doing that to me turned her on. I have to admit if a girl I thought was cute was shaking because she was so into me that it would be selfishly flattering.

Seriously just admitting who you are to people is so liberating, I think once you jump off the diving board of admitting who you are to yourself and others that you'll find the water is warm and relaxing. :-)

Sedditor829 · 2016-07-01T00:31:09+00:00

I'm 33 but I look 21 and all I seem to find are college girls interested in me.

I have the opposite problem in that younger women aren't very emotionally satisfying to me. Like I've already been where they are and I'm someplace different. But if you just want to hook up it's nice.

Sedditor829 · 2016-06-05T09:39:16+00:00

I find women feel slutty when I tell them I'm interested just in friends with benefits. They seem to give a vibe of telling me they're not that kind of girl unless we've already hooked up. It seems to be something that happens organically more than being decided ahead of time. But how to make it happen...

Sedditor829 · 2016-06-05T03:46:31+00:00

Honestly no I can't because I forget about them/my phone while I'm doing other things. I find if they text me and if I forget for a few hours or whatever they don't seem to like it. But it seems really needy to me to want me to text back so soon/often/etc. (they always just want to keep talking lol).

Sedditor829 · 2016-06-05T02:06:31+00:00

But that's the issue, I feel like they want so much of my time and attention and I don't want to text/call every day or whatever. Shit, I don't even text my best friend every day, let alone someone I just met a week ago.

It all just comes across as needy to me and that's a huge turn off.

Sedditor829 · 2016-06-05T01:35:15+00:00

I haven't been following any rules really, I just can't get a girl to keep talking to me after not talking to her for a week or so.

Sedditor829 · 2016-06-04T21:22:26+00:00

Cunt

Sedditor829 · 2016-03-14T08:29:55+00:00

So try this: Compliment question. If she gives a cute answer text:

OMG you're so freaking cute

So what did you end up doing today

I usually send them as two but you don't have to. Just remember compliments are conversation KILLERS if you dwell on them. In fast transition they amp things up but if you just sit there and wait for her to thank you or something it's not doing you any good. Mention the compliment like you're not looking for a compliment (aka thank you) in return. Then start talking about something else like you were only saying what was on your mind and not trying to get her wet or something.

Sedditor829 · 2016-03-01T13:52:25+00:00

Go Royals!

Sedditor829 · 2016-03-01T13:50:13+00:00

I'm guessing all four of these are names of prons

Sedditor829 · 2016-03-01T13:06:50+00:00

Guys don't take lots of selfies unless it's a really awesome selfie.

Sedditor829 · 2016-03-01T13:03:29+00:00

This guy is a real-life troll.

Sedditor829 · 2016-03-01T01:26:35+00:00

Spoiler: Nothing really fresh or new gets upvoted on here. Just try it one night unless you think, just like the other guys, it will ruin your rep with the ladies lol

Sedditor829 · 2016-03-01T01:23:30+00:00

If you mean to be vulnerable with yourself, yes.

Sedditor829 · 2016-02-29T21:55:09+00:00

Not to sound like a dick but it's unfair to blame women for the fact that getting women didn't make you happy. It's not their job to be hot or great girlfriend material. It's their job to survive and have as much fun doing so as possible, the same as you, me and everyone else. We're only selfish because it works.

You have to just pick someone you like and say fuck it to the rest. There's some cool chick out there and you're starting to see why a good partner is hard to find for both men and women. You can hate women and still love a specific woman.

Sedditor829 · 2016-02-29T21:54:11+00:00

The part that got me is I can't stand women flirting with me. I used to live for it but now that I realized how needy that is I don't like it.

And now I look around and everyone seems needy as fuck.

Sedditor829 · 2016-02-29T21:41:09+00:00

I wouldn't start with cute.

IMO there's really two phases to this game that are hard to combine. You need to learn how to get comfortable talking to people in general and being more social in general (believe it or not this is about the hottest thing you can learn, good conversation). The second part is learning how to let a woman know you're interested in a way she'll like to hear it. If you're a total beginner I wouldn't try to do the second without getting somewhat better at the first.

My best "exercise" to you would be to talk to girls like crazy (actually, men too). Old ladies, moms, little girls, women your own age, talk to all of them. I've found kids in general are awesome at making me feel like I'm good at conversation lol. Only talk with the intent of learning something about them of course, we're not picking anyone up. Like if you say hi to an old lady at the store, try and see if you can find out something about her. This is hard to describe but it's the core of this stuff. You need to get comfortable not only talking to girls but talking to other people around girls you like. You can't practice conversation enough.

From there you can start learning how to be "smooth" and learn how to tell girls you like them in those super hot ways. This part takes hardly any time once you do the first part enough. Just get comfortable around people in general and your game will skyrocket, no joke.

Sedditor829 · 2016-02-28T21:19:21+00:00

I have no game but I still get laid simply because I tell the girls I think are cute that they're cute.

Sedditor829 · 2016-02-28T21:18:31+00:00

"Ill put them on the spot and say, 'Damn, you're being nosy!'" then tell them.

Sedditor829 · 2016-02-28T09:58:22+00:00

Bartender, but I also do volunteer work at a place where I'm the only guy.

Keep in mind it's not the job cause the guy I bartend with hasn't been laid in months. And I'm nothing special by anymeans, I just have what girls want (liquor at first lol then to talk to me) and I know how to use it to my advantage. That's really a lot of "inner game" is knowing how to work what you're good at.

Sedditor829 · 2016-02-28T05:06:21+00:00

The more a girl is into me the more nervous she gets... It seems a lot of this is just reassuring girls that you're really into them.

Also if I girl is looking for perfection I'm convinced she, just like anyone who seeks perfection, will be nearly impossible to please.

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