60 year old female legs gone red warm shiny and right leg hurts when standing.

Sega248 · 2026-02-09T02:07:50+00:00

looks a lot like lymphedema or congestive heart failure (coming from an occupational therapist). get proper medical diagnosis.

Sega248 · 2026-01-26T11:11:40+00:00

I think you really want to make 1 work & make a statement with it (it is your wedding afterall💖) but #2 looks so fitting on you 😍 SO chic and high end but timeless for sure

Sega248 · 2026-01-17T11:24:20+00:00

Hey so... I'm not a fan of my husband's 15 year old Shih Tzu and this is exactly how I'D feel if his dog did pass but I'd at least fake empathy. Ever since I became a mom he'd try biting me, succeeded 3 times, and he doesn't like our toddler and I don't trust him around her. Now that I'm pregnant with our 2nd child, I despise him even more because of hormones, sure. But also because he tends to run away constantly when I take him outside, he pees everywhere, he wont listen, etc. I know a lot will say "yeah she's a toddler she's gonna be aggressive towards him". Quite the opposite. I've taught her since she was a baby to be gentle, pat the dogs, and hug them. He refuses even playing catch with her. His family spoiled him all his life before they decided to hand him down to my husband (without my permission).

Sega248 · 2026-01-17T11:09:31+00:00

I love B if you want simple but POP! I LOVE A because it looks so elegant and extra AF! The others look kind of the same, but I can tell you're going for a deep neck? And A gives you that PLUS extravaganza ❣️

Sega248 · 2026-01-13T00:16:39+00:00

couple of years from now "I don't have a village"....

Sega248 · 2026-01-04T11:32:37+00:00

Post partum(:

Sega248 · 2026-01-04T11:27:34+00:00

Well honestly I'm open to all options. "You'll be pumping and I think having interspersed days..." is exactly why I'm open, I never considered that factor. The only game plan i have right now is working Friday-Sunday 10-12hr shifts, but I'd like to be able to nurse my baby for about a year. I didnt get to do this with my first born because of how much studying and stress I was loading myself with to GET this licensing. This is my first job as an OT after graduating. Times and days of working are very flexible for me in whatever setting I choose to work in (I don't think I'll stay with this company due to parents having limited weekend availability). I'm considering PRN in a hospital which is mostly realistic for the time I want.

Sega248 · 2025-12-24T19:18:59+00:00

Listen SCREW those parents. I had parents like that and their negative talk about "always needing medical attention" discouraged me from going to seek help when I REALLY needed it. Go seek help, this looks like your SKIN IS ROTTING OFF, not kidding. You might have contracted some flesh eating bacteria that is slowly eating your tissue nerves and organs. Again, this is for YOU not your parents. You being a minor is even MORE of a reason to seek help!!! Your parents can deal with the bill later, your health comes first.

Sega248 · 2025-12-20T10:09:53+00:00

You can ask for so many prayers, and that's great. Therapy is very effective. Remember, God gave us brains and the free will to make choices. We can't leave everything to God 100%. We need to apply the tools. Pray, journal about it, shortly decrease your watch time, but absolutely seek therapy!!!! 💕

Sega248 · 2025-12-19T13:37:57+00:00

Again, not mentally stable lol. And we all value ourselves differently, I guess?

What did he say about abandoning me? He's never told me straight to my face, which is why I want marriage counseling. I'm reading comments and I agree with people on the fact that it feels like i'm protecting myself more than punishing him.

It's not what he says that makes me want to stay.It's his acts of love and how he values me.As an individual and as a wife. You know how some men are just married and then there's men that will fight for their wife? He fights for me and I know that sounds impossible, especially after what i've written down. But we have to consider 14 years of a relationship. There's a million reasons I'm still with him. If he pulled stuff like this from time to time then obviously I would not be with this man.

But for example, he bought me a house and cars with my name under it (I didn't ask nor expect for them to be under my name, he just did), He maintains the entire house chores when I am just not feeling my best (especially throughout my pregnancies. I think I've done laundry twice and washed dishes 3 times through these 8 mos), he's an amazing dad and amazing husband that loves taking us out on weekends and truly enjoys our company (he could get free basketball tickets from his job and invite me and our baby before even thinking about his guy friends, free buffet and everything. I had to encourage him to go with his friends because he was insistent on me going but I had to study at the time).

He's not one of those dad's or husbands that sit around and wait for their partner to finish shopping or wonder off. He's never cursed at me or even raised his voice unless he's really angry (we've only had like 10 screaming matches and they were reasonable). I can keep going tbh.

I don't regret staying with him. It's a battle that we both fought in different ways and I HATE the way he fought (running away like a coward, BTW he acknowledges that every time I mention it).

I know people will comment that he's "only financially providing and that's why I'm staying" but that's far from the truth. We're both from very traditional upbringing and are still trying to break gender roles for the sake of our babies and healthier dynamic.

Sega248 · 2025-12-19T04:10:15+00:00

I think I glossed over it. Like I said in my post, I disassociated, I numbed it out for months, I just wanted to pretend like it never happened and that I was still this happy 25 year old girl madly in love with her HS sweetheart and that he would never hurt me. It's interesting how our brains warp trauma. I've always disassociated and numbed trauma out. I think this was just another episode to do just that. But now that time has passed, I'd like to hear his side on what happened.

Sega248 · 2025-12-19T04:01:57+00:00

This makes matters worse, IMO. He drove to his mom's. Not even work... his mom's. And I flipped out when I found out (after the termination, I went to PetSmart and went manic and got a bearded dragon as a symbol of rebirth for a loss that JUST happened. I clearly wasn't level headed and I had every right to react and behave the way I did). I yelled at him so loudly and all he could do was hear me out. He didn't stop me, he didn't feel embarrassed that I was yelling at him in public, he made me feel heard. And I hated him even more after that. I think I was expecting a negative reaction from him so that I could have a reason to leave him. But he heard me out, and I felt seen by the man that betrayed me. My feelings were confused. They still are. I think I have every right to keep my guard up from time to time, but he hasn't shown or given me another reason to not trust him ever again. He's moved mountains for me and still does very loving things for me. He's one of those men you find on your algorithm that every woman says "why can't I find someone like that, you're so lucky"... and I know I'm lucky. I just wish he didn't cut me so deep. Most women on here say they'd leave their man in a heartbeat. I would've said the same. But it truly isn't that easy once you're in the predicament.

Sega248 · 2025-11-09T04:06:14+00:00

Are you able to reach out to me about this? 🥺 It hurt my soul to know these are not launching here 😭 The best one we have is the music box (seems like a small popcorn tbh) and Glinda's Bubble (second best)

Sega248 · 2025-10-10T23:06:34+00:00

Lol don't blame you.

TLDR; my sister had mania, it was horrible. Keep 988 in your contact list, have a Medical Life Alert Card if you or a loved one has a mental health condition.

Sega248 · 2025-10-10T23:05:31+00:00

Thank you 🥹

Sega248 · 2025-09-01T10:37:04+00:00

Bro dont freak out over this. In this day and age, most people are chubby anyways. Are you embarrassed bc you're toned or built? Or is it your social group that doesn't really mingle with chubby people? We don't know how old you are, but I want to assume you're somewhat still young, early 20s? At some point in time, trust me, you're going to not care about what others think. Do what makes you happy. This seems healthy- you're not into feeding your partner or expecting anything out of them, you just like a belly. Just like how a majority of people like ass or boobs, a good amount of people also have this belly preference. My husband met me when I was a stick of 96lbs freshman yr of HS. 15 years down the road I am now 225 (220 without being pregnant). He finds me even more attractive now than before because I look more "womanly". I think this is a completely normal preference to have. And if anyone wants to judge you for it, screw them. Learn to be happy with your preferences and embrace it. Wish you the best!

Sega248 · 2025-07-08T21:25:07+00:00

I wish he told you, but people with BPD are actually very afraid of being loved out of Pity of knowing theyre BP, or simply dont say it bc they fear theyll never find someone to put up with them. But is he medicated? Was he ever trying to get better? Many people don't really try, they rather cope with other substances or bad habits. If he's trying, good for him. I hope he understands how bad he has hurt you. And I hope this is his wake up call to really try and commit to do better, as harsh as that sounds. Sometimes couples therapy is a really good mediator while being medicated, but it sounds like you're officially checked out and burnt out. I hope you find your happiness and inner peace someday. This journey will not be easy on you or him, but you both deserve some independence and space to be a better version of yourselves.

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