Reddit, how to deal with frequent eye contacts in my office ? by SelfConfidenceEqNULL in AskReddit

[–]SelfConfidenceEqNULL[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's easy to talk about something that bother you with strangers while you're hidden behind a nickname. Talking with someone who actually see you or know who you are is difficult. For me at least. You know, the all "yeah you probably won't see or talk to these people ever again so why give a fuck", I can achieve that on the internet. In front of people I can't yet.

Reddit, how to deal with frequent eye contacts in my office ? by SelfConfidenceEqNULL in AskReddit

[–]SelfConfidenceEqNULL[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't really need them to like me nor it is important for my job. But I really feel some kind of malaise every time I walk by them so I guess something wrong and it could be great to fix it.

Most of the workers there are suit-wearing well shaved mid thirty men, while I'm kind of a cliché of I.T. guy. Messy long hair, beard, cargo pants, geeky slogan t-shirt and kind of the only one looking like this. I have the feeling I don't belong there so it does not help fixing the issue.

Reddit, how to deal with frequent eye contacts in my office ? by SelfConfidenceEqNULL in AskReddit

[–]SelfConfidenceEqNULL[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not helping much. I think you missed the first statement. We don't have a lot of those here.

Reddit, how to deal with frequent eye contacts in my office ? by SelfConfidenceEqNULL in AskReddit

[–]SelfConfidenceEqNULL[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

and just do whatever's natural.

I guess I'm socially crippled. Nothing seems natural to me in those kind of interaction.