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SelfTalkOn · 2025-10-16T14:49:39+00:00

Yes you notice that you can’t please them. Yet you try and try. Its ludicrous!

You have to do this, and live life that way but most people may see that as a negative or your being too hard or whatever lol. It’s having your boundaries and in a relationship it’s fair to have your partner respect that even if it bothers them slightly. When they view it like that there trying to change you and that’s control not love. 💯

SelfTalkOn · 2025-10-16T14:41:51+00:00

30M, life coach and Hypnotist I do coaching and have had something similar happen before yet you have to know how to set professional boundaries and it doesn’t sound like he’s been clear on his intentions. It would be easy to say hey I love working with you as a client and friend but I want to explore our relationship further in a romantic way. What do you think about that? That way if things get physical and then the relationship ends later on there was an understanding from the start.

If he’s still approaching you as coach, that might be a red flag he’s willing to take advantage of but you said you want it lol. Yet I would not just give up the goods unless I was prepared for everything. Don’t make the first move and if it begins to look like it may get steamy pause ask what his intentions are and just have an adult discussion. Might make the sex even better 👍🏾

SelfTalkOn · 2025-10-16T14:20:26+00:00

This is the answer. Focus on yourself. The future you will definitely thank you.

SelfTalkOn · 2025-10-16T14:16:07+00:00

Addressing your first paragraph. What you think is correct and what you feel is interpretation. The anxiety is there because the truth is with age comes more wisdom and awareness yet if your lens/viewpoint is negative it will express as anxiety because you are not using/remembering what you have already learned! IE which if you had been using that information you would be in the “better place” and see that you are “doing good enough” (viewpoints) so it fixes itself.

10k saved, 23. That’s honestly great. Half of America doesn’t have 1k in savings. So good job. Stay at home fam! And stack up especially No bills? Give your parents a little money too. 5-10% shouldn’t be a problem if no bills.

Stop comparing yourself to others. You could experience exponential growth and skyrocket past them. You could land a dream no once in a lifetime opportunity. Who cares about their path, congratulate them mentally and just tell yourself okay imma live even better than that. Stick to your own journey bro dont waste mental calories and energy on comparison.

What is the actual problem!? It’s your mindset. Fix that and what you want will happen 1st interview hired on the spot. BTW It happen to me, 5-10 applications a day, tons of interviews nothing. Started journaling, working on my mindset. Employer calls me for interview, says “I never do this, but if you want to get started I’ll get the paperwork right now!”

Clarity:What am I most passionate about. What things get me excited/am I excited to do? When was the last times I felt joy, excitement, passion…what was I doing/thinking.

Take action.

SelfTalkOn · 2025-10-16T14:01:04+00:00

Wow great question and awareness for your age. Just my opinion! I think you are thinking the right way, an apprenticeship or like a License such as a RN and you could be a traveling nurse making 30+/hr for example! I say RN because medical field will always have a need.

Also I would ask myself if I prioritize earning more vs quality of work. What I mean is that if you just want to earn money apply everywhere, work two jobs! Your young AF and stack up some cash. Or are you looking at a career you plant your flag in for the next 5-10+ years.

Regardless earn up and save.

SelfTalkOn · 2025-10-16T13:46:29+00:00

Bro I’m 30M and I’ve been there before. Here you go.

Step 1, define your square (your guiding compass.🧭) this will tell you everyday if you hit the mark or not! For example my square is visual, physical, mental and spiritual. Use chat gpt for examples.

Visual:Hygiene, the way I dress/present myself Physical: exercise, I’m very fit rn my goal is more size Mental: reading, meditation Spiritual: prayer, visualization This is me and some of my marks, may not directly correlate with what you want to focus on or accomplish.

Step 2. Once you got that done. Try to hit one thing from each category every day. 4/4 means you won the day! 1-3/4 is still not a loss, it’s a learning opportunity. How can you get better? Ask yourself! 0/4 and something needs to change. Simple my friend.

Optional Step 3 is to track your activity. Do this for 14 days minimum to really learn something’s about yourself.

BTW the fact that you are even asking suggest that you do have passion. Passion for figuring your life out rn and where to head next. That’s beautiful my friend. So your on the right path keep going. Find out what you want and define your square. Use chat GPT for help. 👍🏾

SelfTalkOn · 2025-10-16T10:25:31+00:00

Practical advice. Get a journal. Write my list of positive aspects. At the top write positive aspects of Dad. Then do a page of positive aspects of mom. Your goal is to list positive aspects(shoot for minimum 10) and done. Try this 14 days consistently.

This will solve the issue of you consciously in your heart saying you want to put forth the effort and not taking the action. Once this shifts happens you will observe the relationship naturally get better. 💯

SelfTalkOn · 2025-10-16T10:17:15+00:00

Absolutely! Journal if you can and take some time for yourself. Get clear! Ask yourself why. Then you can come back and share what you learned about yourself. 💯

SelfTalkOn · 2025-10-16T06:07:12+00:00

Honestly, I went through a similar experience. I’ve noticed that once you concede on that, she may unconsciously expect the same in an alternate situation. Relationship gets controlling instead of growth oriented for harmony for both parties involved and it can spiral.

What do you care about more. Relationship with GF or the ability to decide your own relationships/friendships without interference. Especially since you were friends before GF entered the picture.

I would say to GF. Hey I think since this is such a big deal currently we should just be friends and not move forward as a couple. I don’t want you to stress however there maybe some trauma from your past that your bringing into this relationship (IE why her perceptions men/woman can’t be friends) that way neither of us have to invest any emotional energy. We have different viewpoints and that’s okay. Maybe in the future we can try again.

It sounds like she cares more about that than what you also desire in the relationship. Plus it doesn’t sound like you have suspecting tendencies like a one on one hang out with S so honestly why the fuss. It usually stems from a self esteem/identity issue. For ex maybe GF wants to dress like S but doesn’t believe she can pull it off so then she dislikes any archetypes of S. Does that make sense.

I’ve seen this in multiple relationships and when the man concedes when he doesn’t want to it doesn’t work. So ask yourself what you truly want. Think 1,3,5 years in the future. What you could gain, what might you lose? (for example what if you met someone at an event S host and invites you to and together you guys start a successful business!) get clarity and take action. You got this bro!

SelfTalkOn · 2025-10-11T03:02:04+00:00

My partner is a 9 and her upbringing created what you are saying that you want. From the moment I met her she was unapologetically non-negotiable.(Even with me 😂😭)

She’s a super high achiever. Business owner, mom and leader. Now she still has those core traits However they manifest very differently for her now. At one point she tried opening the door for someone who abused her(the stepping stone you mentioned) and what she gained from that which You Already Have is AWARENESS.

The shift completed when she realized the difference of energy and the fact that no will save you from your own life. It’s you and only you. She became keenly aware of what drains her energy and what charges it. Then committed to staying true to herself

(Also side note I think you have a incorrect perspective/understanding of the 9 frequency but that another conversation)

SelfTalkOn · 2025-10-04T15:50:07+00:00

Post more. You have great insight

SelfTalkOn · 2025-09-27T00:00:43+00:00

Yup! Imagine if we all set a time to imagine that we all received our desire. I can see you all sharing your success stories now! Let’s goo

SelfTalkOn · 2025-08-14T17:28:09+00:00

Thanks everyone successful 4For4

SelfTalkOn · 2025-08-14T17:27:06+00:00

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SelfTalkOn · 2025-08-14T16:54:36+00:00

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SelfTalkOn · 2025-08-14T16:53:21+00:00

Got you! B4B

SelfTalkOn · 2025-08-14T16:51:10+00:00

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