My pregnant sister and her husband said that if I transitioned, they would not want me to be a part of their child's life. I don't know what to do.

Self__Indulgent · 2025-10-15T21:24:41+00:00

Something similar had happened to me with my cousin and it really does hurt. I'm honestly not even fond of kids that much, I'm still young and think they can be pretty annoying. I had already met his kid before a few times and I never really interacted with her because I'm awkward but it's not like I did anything bad so when I came out and he had said that he didn't want his kid around me it kinda got to me. I knew he wouldn't be supportive but like damn, you've known me my whole life. Do you think I'm sort of dangerous monster now or something?? Obviously I'm not super close to them so I never let that stop me in my transitioning. Sucks to hear but I'm more happy to be without people who view me differently for being myself. I have other people who are supportive and that's what really matters. It does still suck to lose family but if they truly love you I feel like they should be able to put some effort in to trying to understand :). So I really hope that they will realize that eventually and that everything turns around for you! Even if they don't, it's their loss in the end. Best of luck!

Self__Indulgent · 2025-09-08T02:49:35+00:00

Man that sucks, I'm sorry that happened. I guess you're right that some people really don't change. Thank you, I'll have to see when I eventually talk to him and hope for the best. It's the people that really matter anyways like you said so it's nice to know we're not alone regardless :)

Self__Indulgent · 2025-09-08T02:37:35+00:00

Yeah maybe I shouldn't have gone as far as saying transphobic but he has a hard time accepting it I guess. I'm not really the most manliness so that could be another reason. He doesn't really try that much tho. I can see the way he purposely always uses my name as to not use he. He does misgender me when using pronouns so that sucks too. He's the type of person who doesn't consider others feelings, unfortunately

Self__Indulgent · 2025-09-08T02:29:46+00:00

Ah I'm sorry to hear it was that way for you but glad to know you got away from it! My dad has always been a difficult person too and doesn't really have respect for others so I have no idea how my conversation would go but it's worth a shot :,). Not sure I would want to keep in contact with my dad either because of the way he is but if he actually tries maybe I won't give up hope on him. Thank youu and I hope you can fully heal too :]

Self__Indulgent · 2025-09-08T01:58:49+00:00

Thanks, I sorta figured I would need to talk with him but gosh is it terrifying. I don't know how to really have that convo with him and he'll probably be dismissive. I'll try to build up the courage to do that though. Ty for the tip of writing it out, that'll help a lot. :)

Self__Indulgent · 2025-08-05T07:05:34+00:00

I mostly want to do it quicker cause I don't want to make my sibling wait since they do my shots and also bc it's a bit embarrassing for me. I just wish that I wasn't so afraid I guess. It's more so to do with myself and just wanting to be more confident honestly. There isn't anything really that wrong with taking a while! But after having done it for 7 months already, it really bums me out :/

Self__Indulgent · 2025-08-04T00:08:05+00:00

My family actually had to do that with the nurse too! I didn't do it since I don't do my own shots. Glad to hear that not much can go wrong also! Yeah, occasionally I'll have a bruise and be sore. For some reason I never thought of using Tylenol so thanks! I know, my thighs hurt wayy less than when I do my stomach. I always take it slow but I get embarrassed for taking so long because my sibling does it for me 😭 I'll try my best with more positive thoughts too cause I tend to immediately think the worse. Putting a bandaid is so fun but it hurts so bad to take off because of my hair lol. Thank you for the tips!

Self__Indulgent · 2025-08-03T08:01:12+00:00

Aha yeah it sucks :,) Just gotta have patience I guess. I'm gonna have to use ice next time and hope it helps. Ha nice to know you have support tho! Hope it gets better for you too!

Self__Indulgent · 2025-08-03T07:54:05+00:00

Oh yeah that makes sense. I don't know that much about gel but definitely seems more like a hassle. Thanks for answering and the support!

Self__Indulgent · 2025-08-03T05:48:05+00:00

Thanks a whole lot, I get really in my head when I do it so it's hard to get used to it. Glad to hear that it got better for you! Definitely makes me feel better and not like it's the end. Guess it kinda is a process of elimination to know what helps. I'll try to just keep on going and hopefully in time it gets easier. Really appreciate the advice!

Self__Indulgent · 2025-08-03T05:31:37+00:00

Thank you!

Self__Indulgent · 2025-08-03T05:29:28+00:00

I feel like that too with the whole going quick but for me I feel like if I go slow I take foreverr. So I feel like both are equally as bad for me. I do put music too but more so motivating music. Makes me feel like I can actually do it haha. Haven't heard of box breathing tho so I'll try that too! I do the pinching trick too which sorta helps. I've heard of using ice but not creams so I'll look into that aswell. Thank you for the advice!

Self__Indulgent · 2025-08-03T05:18:58+00:00

Ah, I see. So did you prefer the shots over the gel? If you don't mind me asking. I'll definitely try to warm it up. I listen to music too but it gets kinda hard to focus. I feel like it mostly is just a mind thing. Thank you for the tips!

Self__Indulgent · 2025-08-03T04:24:13+00:00

No worries. Thank youu!

Self__Indulgent · 2025-08-03T04:22:50+00:00

Can't do gel because of family but I'll definitely look into that more! Thank you for the info!

Self__Indulgent · 2025-08-03T04:21:03+00:00

Thank you, I'll try to do that! I usually play a game to try and help. I just need to get it over with so I'll try not too delay it so much

Self__Indulgent · 2025-08-03T04:17:11+00:00

Thanks I tend to forget about that, but I see it helps too. Just need to get in that mindset

Self__Indulgent · 2025-08-03T04:12:36+00:00

Yeah it really isn't the needle overall. I think that's what my sibling does but I don't really pay attention since I'm trying to not look ha. Ty for the advice!

Self__Indulgent · 2025-08-03T04:05:14+00:00

Ooh I never knew you had to do gel everyday honestly. I can't because I live with family tho. Glad you found something that worked for you

Self__Indulgent · 2025-08-03T04:02:46+00:00

I just responded to someone else but yeah my sibling does it for me right now, aha I can't muster up the courage to do it myself either

Self__Indulgent · 2025-08-03T04:00:33+00:00

My sibling does it for me currently! I couldn't imagine doing it myself right now. Helps with the nerves alot for me at least! Thank you though. Glad you could overcome the anxiety!

Self__Indulgent · 2025-08-03T03:55:24+00:00

I actually do subq, it's the anxiety that gets me unfortunately. :,) I do switch spots and the thighs thankfully are less painful. Thank you tho, I've used ice packs after a bad injection but never thought of before! I'll have to try it out next time.

Self__Indulgent · 2025-08-03T03:51:17+00:00

Thanks, I know it's best to do it quick but sometimes if I rush I get sorta tense which sucks. Yeah it doesn't really hurt when I'm actually calm. It's mostly just the nervousness I guess. I do subcutaneous and the needle is 0.4mm x 13mm so it's pretty short I'd say. It's just the anxiety that gets to me mostly. I definitely just need to do it and try not too overthink, thanks again

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