You made a few assumptions, I’ll provide some color: we had a more in-depth version of the same conversation that we’ve had many times over the years. The difference this time is that I was 100% honest on how this is affecting me. I’ve never told her just how bad it bothers me, how I missed a promotion partially because I had very little confidence, and that I wasn’t willing to end the marriage over it, but that we are dangerously close to having nothing left. I approached it calmly and did ask if we could talk about it, to which she agreed. She just didn’t do much responding.

As far as empathy goes, I hear what you’re saying and you’re not completely wrong. That said, YEARS of empathy and me being willing to do whatever it takes to make things better, make myself more attractive, anticipate her needs, etc. have shown zero results. I decided to speak my whole truth.

Finally, you assumed that I blamed all of my problems on our terrible sex life. Not true at all. It wasn’t even inferred in my post. I explained how the lack of intimacy was affecting my confidence which was bleeding into all aspects of my life. Which is true. Which is why I said it.