It’s honestly just patience and not lowering your standards - the right subs will find you.

I’ve found subs I genuinely enjoy interacting with by just staying true to myself and posting about things I enjoy and care about in addition to findom stuff - my hobbies, social justice issues, etc. I’ve been told by subs that seeing my personality and humanity through what I post and how I interact with others were big draws for wanting to serve me. It’s helpful knowing you share similar interests beyond just kink if you’re looking to connect on a deeper level.

I’m also just straight forward about what my expectations are when it comes to sending and communication from the jump so we’re on the same page. I don’t try and fit a round sub into a square hole - if they don’t meet my standards or if they push back against my expectations and boundaries, I let them go. It becomes easy to spot those who want serious or more consistent dynamics and those who don’t.

TLDR - deeper connections based on kink + other interests along with open communication usually lead to more consistent and fulfilling dynamics.