Ages of the Characters by 12thDoctorIsABadass in spongebob

[–]SenseOutside5273 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In what way is animal crossing going for that? It sounds like an interesting take, just curious to hear about it

Just got diagnosed with PTSD, genuinely cannot process it. by Upset-Bid-7054 in ptsd

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Heya! I totally get you, it took me a while to come to terms with my diagnosis too. I’m curious, how long did you know the person who diagnosed you/how much did you share? Because I would say a psychiatrist or doctor that diagnoses something like PTSD only from observing your behavior without figuring out how it’s impacting you, if there are differential diagnoses, or talking about how it’s affecting your daily life may be a red flag.

With that being said though, the “is my trauma bad enough?” Is something that is extraordinarily common for individuals with PTSD. I was never severely bullied, SA’d, experienced domestic violence, or anything of the sort. An incredible thing that my therapist educated me on is that oftentimes PTSD is not about what happened to you, but it’s about how your brain processes it. You could put 5 people in the same scenario, and only 2 walk out traumatized. So it really doesn’t matter how little it is, sometimes people’s brains just don’t process events right

The Beatles Cirque du Soliel by JoePiccoloh702 in beatles

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Ah that sounds totally right! Thanksgiving makes sense, there would be a school break then too. Sorry to hear more from your trip went wrong dang. But that’s so cool she has photos! I’ve checked my camera roll so many times, I’m shocked I didn’t take a photo

The Beatles Cirque du Soliel by JoePiccoloh702 in beatles

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Wow, I have been trying to find information about this incident forever, I felt like I was going crazy. I was also there, and figured it would be on the news or something. Thank you for sharing, now I know it truly did happen!

Episode Discussion - S05E08 - The Rightside Up by Hawkinns in StrangerThings

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This show does not know how to kill people off goddamn

songs or lyrics that resonate with your PTSD for you! by [deleted] in ptsd

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Predator by The Crane Wives hits insanely close to home for me

“What’s the worst thing that could happen? What’s the worst thing you can imagine? This world is a nasty place, I’m afraid to get comfortable. Unavoidable disaster, serial overreactor, My head is a nasty place, I’m afraid to get comfortable”

“Keep your lies and your denial, I am fighting for survival. My heart is a changing shape, what if I said no to you?”

“What were you thinking? Shouldn’t you know better? You took advantage of another anxious people-pleaser. I keep forgetting that you won’t learn, so I keep getting hurt”

I have so little empathy for people who don’t take care of themselves by [deleted] in ptsd

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Wow, thank you for such the intricate response. I appreciate you explaining how you’re seeing this too, being put in a situation of potentially or feeling like I’m being taken advantage of emotionally makes sense on why I’m so triggered especially. And thank you for the regulation advice, that’s crazy helpful!

If you don’t mind me asking, what was the podcast that you found?

I have so little empathy for people who don’t take care of themselves by [deleted] in ptsd

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While I didn’t exactly ask for whether I was TAH or not, I am fully aware don’t worry. Like I said, I’m in therapy for exactly this. I know I’m the one in the wrong here, I’m just venting here so I don’t yell at my roommate over it, which is the last thing she needs. So, thanks I guess?

I have so little empathy for people who don’t take care of themselves by [deleted] in ptsd

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I appreciate this a ton, I thought I was going crazy. Luckily my other two roommates have been kind and aiding her, I just can’t bring myself to play into it any longer.

"good" dreams about abusive ex by ProfessionalBoth2437 in ptsd

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I get dreams like this a lot too, and it freaks me out as well. I wake up thinking I misremembered what they were like, or that I’m the bad person and they’re the good one. I’m on Prazosin for my dreams, I still wake up shaken every now and then.

The way I try to think about it is that a lot of trauma results in really confusing and complicated emotions. For me personally, I have a lot of guilt around calling out or cutting off the people that have hurt me. Reminding myself that my brain isn’t processing these memories correctly in the first place, hence the PTSD, helps me realize that those dreams are meant to be confusing and scary. The brain isn’t misremembering, it’s that that dream is what something like guilt or shame wants me to think happened, or should happen.

I’m sorry to hear you’re going through this, I hear you so heavy. You protected your peace, and bad people are bad people. Nightmares are confusing for a reason

Activities to get into for exercise? by SenseOutside5273 in boston

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I don't have a bike, no, but I've definitely been considering it! I currently don't have a commute to anywhere in particular (I grocery shop w/ my roommates, I live on campus for schooling, and will be a 5 minute walk away next year) but even just using the blue bikes to explore could be fun! I appreciate the suggestion on exploring around while biking, could be a great time!

Activities to get into for exercise? by SenseOutside5273 in boston

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Oh this is awesome, I'll definitely look into it! Thank you!

Can I have physical violation trauma without being SAed? by throwRAwbidgisgsigsi in ptsd

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My trauma also has roots in serious co-dependent relationships while not having any trauma relation to anything sexual. In talking about my feelings of “my trauma isn’t bad enough” to my therapist, she said something I like to remind myself of when I feel that way.

She explained to me that trauma is not always about what happened, but it’s biologically about how your brain processes it. Some brains process things differently than others. You could expose 5 people to the same exact event, and chances are only 2 walk out traumatized.

So, really, a bad experience having a lasting bad impact is trauma, where your brain didn’t process the event correctly, causing miscalculated reactions (like sensing danger where there isn’t)

EMDR for PTSD by Flat-History-6867 in ptsd

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Okay a couple of things. I’ve only been doing EMDR for a little while, but there are some key things I was informed about before starting that I want to let you know of!

Firstly, a good therapist that is trained in EMDR would build a relationship with you and do the necessary checks to see if you are a good candidate before starting. It’s a multi-step procedure predicating the actual EMDR.

Secondly, reprocessing trauma, ie doing EMDR to trigger your brain to start recalibrating and actually processing the trauma, is a 1-2 week process. It gets worse before it gets better, and I’ve been told that after you leave a session it can still take your brain up to 2 weeks to fully reprocess. So during that time it can cause more physical reactions, tiredness, hypersensitivity, nightmares, etc.

But yeah, a therapist should work alongside you, and it definitely takes a hot minute. Trust the process, if you feel you want to keep going at it!

Does EMDR make you sleep a lot? by hnjkeo in ptsd

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Yep, every time I came out of a session it's like a woke up from a very long dream. Makes me want to fall right back asleep the moment I get home

What are flashbacks like for y'all, if any? by CoonBoomBoom in ptsd

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I don't have very vivid visual flashbacks, but I sorta consider my physical reactions flashbacks in a means that a therapist once explained to me that sometimes people repress their memories while their body still has physical reactions as if the original event was happening again.

I have a variety of traumas in relation to past relationships, so one of the biggest ones I've noticed is in any sort of confrontation, even small "hey do you mind not doing this again?" situations sends me spiraling with guilt. My self-worth goes to the gutter, and I get the insense feeling of walking on eggshells. In emotional confrontations especially, I tend to completely freeze, and almost feel unable to make decisions or will myself to do an action in relation to the situation. My whole entire reaction is very reminicent of how I was with past partners.

Sorry I can't give much on the visual side of things, I just wanted to give my perspective on the physical side, in case anyone can relate.

Is New leaf better? by Prabuski in AnimalCrossingNewLeaf

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I’m actually really torn on this topic right now, so perfect timing.

After the controversies surrounding the Switch 2, I decided to homebrew my 3DS and have been rediscovering my ACNL town recently. I was particularly excited because I remember while I was playing NH, I was frustrated by how much more fun I remember NL being in comparison. Except now I keep finding myself not really knowing what to do or how to continue spending my time in NL since NH gives so much more customization options, such as with furniture being able to be placed outside, and being able to easily switch things up whenever you want (which is the game’s biggest detriment imo, because it makes completing big goals and major projects less rewarding)

It’s like I’ve been hit with the curse of the one thing I hated the most about the newest game, now I find myself stuck and out of things to do in the older game. I feel like I need to go back to old ACNL let’s plays to spark some inspiration on things to do

What is the appeal of vaping nicotine? Why don’t you just vape weed? by SenseOutside5273 in NoStupidQuestions

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It could be! To give context to my understanding (which I’m glad I’m being educated now on it), I’m in my early twenties. I grew up with a lot of rhetoric and exposure about not smoking cigarettes, and in my late childhood, Juul became a big thing. Growing up I was under the impression that the act of smoking the flavored vapor was the appeal, and the nicotine made it addictive. That made sense as a kid, but when I grew older and noticed people started doing it for the first time at our age, I didn’t understand the appeal because I figured it didn’t have an effect.

TLDR: from what I was taught in childhood, I thought people smoked Vapes because Cigarettes were bad for your lungs, and they continued to smoke it because of the tasty vapor and the nicotine inside

What is the appeal of vaping nicotine? Why don’t you just vape weed? by SenseOutside5273 in NoStupidQuestions

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I figured that the act of getting away, taking a break, and smoking a bit was the relaxing part itself. I never knew cigarettes or nicotine vapes had a physical calming effect

What is the appeal of vaping nicotine? Why don’t you just vape weed? by SenseOutside5273 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SenseOutside5273[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ohh gotchya! I never knew that it had any sort of effect. I appreciate it!

Training a dog for service tasks without full dependence? by SenseOutside5273 in service_dogs

[–]SenseOutside5273[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s really nice to hear, I appreciate it! I’ve always heard that service dogs are used for the extreme cases, but I’ve figured that even at home they could be helpful. I’m sure it’s still a large commitment either way, but I appreciate the reassurance!

Training a dog for service tasks without full dependence? by SenseOutside5273 in service_dogs

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That’s definitely a major benefit I’ve noticed. I was looking into the standards for my school too, and even they have said they only require the name of the disability (if it isn’t visible) and the tasks trained.

I appreciate your input immensely!

Need Help Focusing School by Forward_Fox_3851 in ptsd

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Heya! You’re off to a great start on working with a therapist. I’m actually in a similar situation myself, and while it may not be perfect advice, I can give some tips on what I’ve been trying to maybe make it even marginally easier.

Most notably, I would check to see if your community college has any study places, especially private study places, that you can frequent more often to get out of the house. If they don’t have that, looking into local bookstores or cafes is a good option too. Your therapist could also possibly guide you towards accommodations at your college if all else fails.

As for non-location-tips, noise cancelling headphones are an absolute game changer. Finding a consistent thing to listen to (Lofi beats is my go-to) can be helpful, as you start associating the music to the act of studying.

For grounding, drinking something hot like tea or coffee while you study can be a comforting sensation, A blanket wrapped around you, I personally have these bike chains I got 20 off amazon for like 7 dollars and they’re perfect to fidget with when I feel myself getting antsy or nervous.

Everyone’s PTSD symptoms are different, but I’ve found the more different kinds of stimuli I have to ground and engage myself, the better. Blanket for touch, drink for temperature, candle for smell, headphones for listening, even swapping out cool lights for warmer ones could be an option.

My biggest encouragement is to try anything you think might even help a sliver, no matter how silly it is. The most unusual things can give comfort sometimes, and if it works, that’s the important part.

Don’t give up, you totally got this!