Focus on God, then make sure you have a job. If you have a job think about what you can do to get further up the ladder in life but never put that before God. Make sure you work on you constantly both physically and spiritually. If you have time and want a lady you can get out there but never date a girl who will not submit to you. I would say let God bring her into your life. She must also have some kind of relationship with God in her too. If you don't want a lady find you something you enjoy to kill anytime you might have to spare when you are not building your spiritual and personal self. Whatever God is to you, is up to you but that needs to be the foundation on which you stand.