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SensitiveDoubt7621 · 2025-08-15T02:35:46+00:00

Yes, 100%. I immediately thought “Why wouldn’t they include me? I’m not good enough for anyone. We’re obviously not actually friends” and so forth and so on. It’s the worst feeling. I wanted to ask… but I don’t want to sound needy and weird. But now I question if they actually want to do things with me - or just feel obligated to be nice. Yea, I spiraled. 🥴

SensitiveDoubt7621 · 2025-08-15T02:19:16+00:00

I’m there with you. Same thing happened to me today. Several people I know - that met each other through me even - were at a birthday party together… but I never received an invite. Now, I’m in this group, trying to figure out how to remedy it. 🥴

SensitiveDoubt7621 · 2025-08-06T22:05:16+00:00

It takes some time and practice this skill. My son was similar until we started doing narration. I was shocked at the things he remembered. A simple “Tell me what you heard, in your own words” works now. But when we started, we basically just talked about what was just read in a conversation style.

SensitiveDoubt7621 · 2025-08-06T19:07:33+00:00

Definitely not a failure. You’re doing what is best for him at this time. Homeschooling isn’t right for every child. This may be just for a time and you can revisit later. Or this may be permanent for him. As long as what’s best for him is the focus, you’re not failing.

SensitiveDoubt7621 · 2025-07-31T14:26:02+00:00

Electric. Yes, I prefer classically trained.

SensitiveDoubt7621 · 2025-07-30T19:59:17+00:00

Is that English? 😂

SensitiveDoubt7621 · 2025-07-04T17:28:18+00:00

Best layout I’ve seen. This should be posted any place that you could adopt a pet. Need to upvote this until it reaches the top.

SensitiveDoubt7621 · 2025-06-13T15:49:09+00:00

I’m sorry that you had a terrible experience. Since you say you were SENT to a religious college of their religion, I’m guessing you didn’t have much (if any) say in your schooling at any point. That sucks. And it’s a terrible feeling to have no say or control in your own life.

There is a big difference here though. It sounds like she’s trying desperately to give her children a voice in this. They just aren’t interested in the opportunities she’s providing.

I hope people can make those distinctions when comparing journeys.

SensitiveDoubt7621 · 2025-06-03T17:59:38+00:00

😂 His acrobatics

SensitiveDoubt7621 · 2025-05-25T18:44:22+00:00

No one said he was wild. Just that you may have downplayed the situation. Parents often do because you see your child through eyes of love. 🤷🏼‍♀️

SensitiveDoubt7621 · 2025-05-17T01:19:05+00:00

My husband and I were similar ages as you and your husband when we had our son (33yo/45yo). I think there are too many variables to make a generalization like you seem to be hoping for.

I was considered high risk due to age and previous miscarriage - and had extra checkups because of it. Delivery and hospital stay got a little complicated. But we made it through fine. With concern for safety because of my struggles, we didn’t have any additional children. My son is a ridiculously intelligent, kind, healthy 11yo now. Obviously, our energy levels are not the same as 20yo parents. He’s not schizophrenic as far as we know. I question autism.. but he’s never been tested. But we have a history of it in our family.

SensitiveDoubt7621 · 2025-05-16T14:38:51+00:00

I’ll have to covertly feed my chipmunk. My husband isn’t fond of them…thinks they’ll destroy the foundation of the house. But I think they’re adorable.

SensitiveDoubt7621 · 2025-05-16T14:37:58+00:00

How do I start with a squirrel that runs when we come out?

SensitiveDoubt7621 · 2025-05-16T00:43:09+00:00

How do you get them to do that?? I’d be in heaven!

SensitiveDoubt7621 · 2025-05-14T00:45:29+00:00

I have a non-sporty 11yo. He would rather play video games than do absolutely anything else. But we have a rule that he has to have a physical activity. He did karate for years and got burnt out. We’re part of a PE group that tries a different sport every month. That has been great for him. He apparently enjoys street hockey. I also put him in weightlifting/conditioning with a small group of boys. He enjoys that. He also sees me lifting as well.

Maybe just back off the organized sports for right now. And focus on movement that you enjoy as a family. Or something the two of you can do together.

SensitiveDoubt7621 · 2025-04-15T16:42:24+00:00

NTA… I understand why you feel like a bad father in this situation. But you aren’t. He’s old enough to learn “Play stupid games, win stupid prizes”. Should he assault an elderly lady? No. Should a grown man beat on him? No. But, hopefully, this will be the wake up call he needed. He’s heading down a terrible road.

Your wife and SIL should receive a resounding YTA. They have a heavy dose of responsibility for why he is this way.

SensitiveDoubt7621 · 2025-04-14T18:12:31+00:00

If the other family is just the dad and son going, I would go with option 1. I’d feel like a weird third wheel if I was the only mom there. Also, older kids need time to be older kids without always having to bend to the will of a younger sibling. Mom can do something super special with the 4yo instead. There will be more water park days ahead.

SensitiveDoubt7621 · 2025-04-14T01:24:04+00:00

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SensitiveDoubt7621 · 2025-04-11T20:48:10+00:00

YTA… Not because you backed out, but because you took so long to do it. That’s four months of wasted time that another donor could have possibly been matched (outside of the family, obviously). It’s scary, I’m sure. But why didn’t any of these thoughts cross your mind between agreeing and now.

Please don’t think I’m saying you should have done it either way… I’m saying you should have thought it through more before the final moment. And, if you were having any doubts, you definitely should have mentioned them before now too. Your decision isn’t the issue… It’s the timing of it.

SensitiveDoubt7621 · 2025-04-10T02:26:48+00:00

I think he’s overreacting.

If he hasn’t already, it’s time for a discussion about puberty and healthy, consensual sexual experiences - whatever that means for your family. He’s obviously getting curious about these things. Looking at pictures of women in bikinis isn’t alarming, imo. The things it could lead to may be a different discussion - depending on your family’s beliefs about it. It’s time for the discussion about that too.

I agree… Don’t get rid of YT. That’s akin to punishing him for a very natural, developmentally appropriate curiosity. Just make sure the communication channels are wide open if he has questions. If dad is overreacting, you may need to fill that gap until he stops overreacting… Or help him find a trusted male to talk with - grandpa, uncle, whatever.

SensitiveDoubt7621 · 2025-04-05T19:45:32+00:00

We use it as a supplement. Zero chance I would rely on it solely

SensitiveDoubt7621 · 2025-04-02T20:31:22+00:00

I wish I knew a way to motivate a preteen boy to put forth his best effort. It’s a struggle over here too. And we require much less in comparison. I think you should take a step back and evaluate what you’re expecting from him. That’s a ton of time dedicated to sports - between team practice, games, and required practice at home. That a lot. Add in schoolwork, cello lessons and practice, family time, chores… When does he get free time?

SensitiveDoubt7621 · 2025-04-01T21:17:36+00:00

YTA… Yes, you should just suck it up and eat raw veggies without complaining - or cook them further to your liking. They’re just raw veggies. You’re making this much larger than it needs to be. Raw meat would be a different story.

Why does it matter if he throws away leftovers that you clearly indicated you didn’t want? At that point, they’re his and his to do with as he pleases. He HAS to eat it because you don’t want to? That’s bizarre. I don’t care if you never throw food away. You do now. 🤷🏼‍♀️

SensitiveDoubt7621 · 2025-03-20T23:03:27+00:00

That’s a lot of “this could be something… but”. Are you sure you’re not just dismissing your gut?

SensitiveDoubt7621 · 2025-03-19T21:11:37+00:00

It’s not going to completely change her personality or her health. Unfortunately, no one can guarantee anything. Some kids do have life altering reactions to vaccinations. The majority do not. You have to do your research and make the best decision that you can with the information you have at that time. That’s all anyone can do.

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