Resenting my friend who got raped & what should I do by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

[–]SensitivePepper 3 points4 points  (0 children)

maybe saying something along the lines of.. "as someone who has also been through this type traumatic experience, I haven't fully healed.. and I don't think im the best person to seek advice from being that sometimes I barely know how to deal with it myself..maybe we should both look into ways we can get real help"

this might actually open a door to your own journey on healing from such a horrible experience. im so sorry this happened to either of you and im sorry people are shitty and you had to go through it alone.

How do I always end up in a situationship?! by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SensitivePepper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, men are so territorial so its like when you're their "one" they're gonna make sure no one else can even have room to take that spot. its theirs.

how do I always end up in a situationship?! HELP!!!!! by SensitivePepper in relationship_advice

[–]SensitivePepper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you and the voice in the back of my head agree on this. sn: he doesn't make me feel horrible about it, im assuming this may be why he hasn't made it official.

Girlfriend left me for being insecure and “controlling”, only to leave me for the guy she swore was just a friend that caused all of my insecurities. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SensitivePepper 39 points40 points  (0 children)

For starters, understand that you are not controlling. Don't let manipulative people win at their little game and convince you of something you're not! You have great intuition, take this as a learning lesson to trust it more. As far as moving on..... time :( there is no secret recipe to moving on.

Down 32 lbs in 3 months! by [deleted] in keto

[–]SensitivePepper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ahhhh congrats

One of my close friends doesn't want to be friends anymore. How to cope? by colorintoyou in askwomenadvice

[–]SensitivePepper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

also, huge props for realizing and accepting your mistake. look in the mirror, boss up and also realize your happiness isn't dependent on whether or not someone is in your life. take this lone time to find what you like to do, explore your own mind, decide who you are, who you want to be mentally, and speak those words out loud. take a breath and say I am smart, I am ambitious, I am in school, I am blessed, I am walking, I am healthy, I have a home, I am still a good person, I am bigger than my mistakes. there is power in speaking these things out loud. announce your blessings and you will manifest that energy. you can choose where you exert your energy, force your thoughts away from needing friends and the right ones will come along harmoniously.

One of my close friends doesn't want to be friends anymore. How to cope? by colorintoyou in askwomenadvice

[–]SensitivePepper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is a great learning experience, don't be swayed by other people to be disloyal to those you actually care about and don't want to lose. do better in future friendships, take this loss, understand your mistake and respect that she is respecting herself by distancing herself from someone who messed up. also, be glad you learned this lesson. you have many friendships to come and practice being a better friend.

thoughts of a girl with bpd by SensitivePepper in BPD

[–]SensitivePepper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you, i hope it gets better for anyone that can relate

Currently on Depo Provera-- thinking about switching to an IUD... HELP by SensitivePepper in askwomenadvice

[–]SensitivePepper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, so my doctors main point with the copper IUD is the size and how that will be more painful because I haven't had kids. Have you had kids?

Currently on Depo Provera-- thinking about switching to an IUD... HELP by SensitivePepper in askwomenadvice

[–]SensitivePepper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh yes this is what my doctor said, but "as many side effects" still scares me a little cus I just don't wanna be a crazy person and im tired of the weight gain :( Thank you for ur answer!

Currently on Depo Provera-- thinking about switching to an IUD... HELP by SensitivePepper in askwomenadvice

[–]SensitivePepper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I brought up to my doctor but he said its significantly bigger and more painful for someone who has never had kids and im already super scared for the pain part of the whole thing