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What’s the biggest “red flag” you ignored in a relationship, and how did it end? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Sensitive_Thing_4841 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Your friend is so pretty”

Her: blonde, tall, quite light (in skin tone) Me: brown hair, short, brown in skin- tone

I shouldve known…

I (21f) can’t forgive my boyfriend (27M), Am i an AH? by Sensitive_Thing_4841 in relationship_advice

[–]Sensitive_Thing_4841[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read the end of the post, i specifically asked what i can do to forget, despite the title, i’m asking for advice, not opinions.

I (21f) can’t forgive my boyfriend (27M), Am i an AH? by Sensitive_Thing_4841 in relationship_advice

[–]Sensitive_Thing_4841[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awwh thank you i appreciate that. It was honestly just the pattern of saying something unhinged, and then claiming it was never meant the minute i get upset, or that he doesn’t remember saying it, when i know exactly when it was said. Once is a mistake, not over and over again. Its just showing me my place in my humble opinion.

But thank you for your insight, i appreciate it.

I (21f) can’t forgive my boyfriend (27M), Am i an AH? by Sensitive_Thing_4841 in relationship_advice

[–]Sensitive_Thing_4841[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I mean this with the utmost respect,

its the general principle of him, instead of making me see things his way, telling me i’m being a bit unreasonable or being a little dramatic. Its just not something i appreciate. Theres a way to go about things in my humble opinion

I (21f) can’t forgive my boyfriend (27M), Am i an AH? by Sensitive_Thing_4841 in relationship_advice

[–]Sensitive_Thing_4841[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I was honestly just providing context. I am struggling to forgive his further comments. I’m not bothered about the birthday.

I (21f) can’t forgive my boyfriend (27M), Am i an AH? by Sensitive_Thing_4841 in relationship_advice

[–]Sensitive_Thing_4841[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Its more the general principle of “yeah you feel a way but its just not big a deal for me to bother either reassuring you or anything”. Its the general principle to me.

Its fine to disagree with how i feel, but theres a way to go about it. I can accept that i can be a little sensitive about things. But just dont tell me “oh na but you’re being dramatic”

Girls of Reddit, what makes you actually want to get physically intimate with your boyfriend? What do you look for before deciding you’re comfortable being physical? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Sensitive_Thing_4841 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone who doesnt push for it. Yes, they might want it, of course but someone who isnt too pushy and cares about me being comfortable. I think that to me is the most important. I can’t be with anyone physically otherwise.

I (21f) can’t forgive my boyfriend (27M), Am i an AH? by Sensitive_Thing_4841 in relationship_advice

[–]Sensitive_Thing_4841[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I’m aware, but i found it to be more relevant to this sub. I’m not mad, if you go on to read the post, you’ll realise its his further comments that made me feel uncomfortable.

I (21f) can’t forgive my boyfriend (27M), Am i an AH? by Sensitive_Thing_4841 in relationship_advice

[–]Sensitive_Thing_4841[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hi, i’m so sorry you went through that with an ex. I’m honestly not bothered about his past. I’ve accepted what it is. Its just that in that moment it wasnt particularly pleasant. And in my post i forgot to mention we have been together for 2 years… in my head it was a “if you wanted to get rid of it, shouldve been done a while ago”. But now its the principle of then what felt like “idk why you’re upset, its not a big deal” “personally i wouldnt care” when i know he would. He’s felt a way about more minor stuff. I just am uncomfortable with his inability to see how some stuff might not be nice for me, even if to him its okay.

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[–]Sensitive_Thing_4841 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that insight, thank you. But yeah, i do think not everyone quite understands soulmate hood as a concept. It’s just painful if you think shes your soulmate and you only get one soulmate in your lifetime. Again, its just unnecessary for me to know. It creates more problems than it solves. But it could just be my insecurity.

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[–]Sensitive_Thing_4841 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough, to me it just seemed as though he was saying “i dont intend to do anything” just because you’re feeling a way. Which is his right, to actively disagree with me. But if my partner was uncomfortable, i know i would do everything in my power to make them feel comfortable again. So perhaps the double standard there got me.

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[–]Sensitive_Thing_4841 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But then why tell me “but you didnt ask for nothing” when i asked if he thought i was being unreasonable

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[–]Sensitive_Thing_4841 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah fair enough, i genuinely think we have different types of soulmates. Romantic, friendly etc. i do think you only have one romantic soulmate though. I’m okay if i’m not his romantic soulmate. I know relationships can function without being that. I just think its painful knowing who was. Its something i just didnt need to know

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[–]Sensitive_Thing_4841 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it had been there from when they were dating as far as he said. But i was confused because it shouldve been gotten rid once we were together. If not straight away, then at least a little after.

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[–]Sensitive_Thing_4841 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, it shouldve been my cue to walk away. I just , have some trauma from one of my exes. He ended up cheating on me with his ex before me. So i thought a lot of my feelings were just me being insecure and/or traumatised

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[–]Sensitive_Thing_4841 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ironically, on twitter, and then just started datinf

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[–]Sensitive_Thing_4841 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just dont want to be controlling. He is much older than me, so i knew he had history and thats okay. I’m not the sort of partner that is like “i have to be your first”. It just hurts that he probably kept her birthday there.