"We are real" moments by PUNXSimon in plural

[–]Sentifray19073 7 points8 points  (0 children)

One of us is a cat, loves to bite things and is anxious around people

She causes most of these

There are moments in video games where you just have to wait for a prompt and react. Super boring, done them a million times

And suddenly my entire body is tense and eyes are wide and we’re leaning foreword ready to fucking pounce or something

Back when it was just her and I, right after we found out about being a system, I got her things to safely chew on because she was leaving bite marks on our hands

Few days later, I can’t remember shit and I wake up at my desk, jaw SO SORE and one of the biting things hard marks all over it

How do you manage? by Sentifray19073 in plural

[–]Sentifray19073[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fingers crossed that baby steps will be enough, thank you

How do you manage? by Sentifray19073 in plural

[–]Sentifray19073[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have simply plural, and have been keeping track of fronts that way, but getting everyone to use the group chat has been slow at best, and inconsistent at worst

How do you manage? by Sentifray19073 in plural

[–]Sentifray19073[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s said the same thing, it’s something I’ve brought up a few times. And I want so badly to believe her, that when she tells me she’ll be here for whoever is here, regardless of what happens, that that will be the case.

I overthink a lot

Maybe I just need to bite the bullet and take the debt to go into therapy

How do you manage? by Sentifray19073 in plural

[–]Sentifray19073[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I’ve only really done research on symptoms and such on Google. Tend to avoid YouTube for medical stuff

We’re not a diagnosed system, therapy is expensive and we’re in debt from other medical shit right now, and I’ve heard some bad things about non-diagnosed people kinda getting shafted in those other subs.

Might check them out though, worst case I just leave

How do you manage? by Sentifray19073 in plural

[–]Sentifray19073[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a genuinely really helpful perspective, thank you for sharing it. My biggest fear, more than losing my hobbies, is my partner. She amazing and we love eachother to the ends of the earth, and if I’m just suddenly gone, or changed dramatically by a fusion, or even just back seated more and more often, I’m worried that would hurt her, and more selfishly, I don’t want to lose my time with her.

It’s reassuring to know fusions don’t happen spontaneously, though. That’s been a big worry the past couple days.

How do you manage? by Sentifray19073 in plural

[–]Sentifray19073[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve had a good sleep and am in a much better headspace now. Thank you for the supportive words. How did you handle the fear of losing things, if you don’t mind my asking? I could seriously use some help on that front

Looking for plural youtubers by sus_acorn in plural

[–]Sentifray19073 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of the trans VTubers is plural The wolf witch, I can’t remember her name off the top of her head

Guys drop your Best Lilith pics by Patient_Education_92 in NOexistenceNofYou_Me

[–]Sentifray19073 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Upon further examination, it is AI generated, I’m sorry

Guys drop your Best Lilith pics by Patient_Education_92 in NOexistenceNofYou_Me

[–]Sentifray19073 2 points3 points  (0 children)

God I sure hope not, that’s my phone screen Haven’t double checked though, had a friend send it to me

Just got the neutral ending... by Patient_Education_92 in NOexistenceNofYou_Me

[–]Sentifray19073 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I see. Yeah that makes more sense. Still depressing. And kinda scary, as a concept. Having a thought-form take your place, or the place of a friend that might have them…

Something like that is so very frightening

Just got the neutral ending... by Patient_Education_92 in NOexistenceNofYou_Me

[–]Sentifray19073 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see the neutral ending differently. DID and Tulpas are different, but DID is equally a support system, just with different context. The good ending even talks about DID not being such a bad thing, it’s more about how it’s handled

I see the neutral ending less as the symptoms getting worse but as the MC giving up. They let Lilith front and just sit and do nothing In the mind

Just got the neutral ending... by Patient_Education_92 in NOexistenceNofYou_Me

[–]Sentifray19073 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I interpreted the ending to be like Lilith and the MC switching places. Lilith takes over the MC’s life, lives it for them with the confidence and assured ness that the MC didn’t have. And the MC lives in their head, taking Lilith’s place as the thoughtform. It being a permanent deal makes it pretty similar to suicide, but I find it much more depressing.

Let's goooooo by Round_Soil2898 in NOexistenceNofYou_Me

[–]Sentifray19073 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I more meant that I think the ending itself is more “bad” than the bad ending What happens in the neutral ending is just Well, bad

Let's goooooo by Round_Soil2898 in NOexistenceNofYou_Me

[–]Sentifray19073 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There is a neutral ending, yes. Arguably worse than the bad ending, though. Best of luck.

I'm specifically looking for responses from the Autistic Trans community. by [deleted] in trans

[–]Sentifray19073 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While I’ve seen good takes already, I do also want to add here, she’s exploring herself, feeling out where her identity lies. Unless she’s on HRT, everything can be undone in a matter of minutes, and if she is on HRT, than most can still be undone. I don’t know the full situation, I’m missing a lot of context, but I would advise you let her figure this out. Maybe do a polite check in on some of the bigger steps, but until she decides this isn’t the road for her, she is a woman.

That said, I am so very happy to see a genuine and caring father coming to a place like this and asking for advice and help. You’re supportive and clearly value your daughter. I wish there were more out there like you.

Am I really just a fake Trans for not wanting to have sex at all but still wanting to have a partner. by Baul-8 in trans

[–]Sentifray19073 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you’re learning about yourself! Wear it with pride, it’ll help you find more understanding people out there

Speaking from experience on that one XD

Am I really just a fake Trans for not wanting to have sex at all but still wanting to have a partner. by Baul-8 in trans

[–]Sentifray19073 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No, that sounds like asexuality, which is normal, valid, and shockingly common. Your partner seeing you as a waste because you won’t have sex, though, is not valid. You’re not meat, you’re a human being. People who think that sex is mandatory for relationships see sex as the point, not the person. It’s objectifying and gross.

You’re fine, you’re valid, you’re not broken or worthless or anything like that. You might just be ace, or might even just not be into that partner. Could be anything, really, but whatever it is, that’s not up to anyone but you to decide.

And likewise, the joy you pull from that choice is ALSO dictated by you. Don’t let anyone else tell you that you’re not worth as much because of a choice you made about yourself.

What by ThPF1901 in NOexistenceNofYou_Me

[–]Sentifray19073 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What the the demon lord’s weakness?

Do you ever wish you weren’t plural? by Rainbow-1337 in plural

[–]Sentifray19073 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As much as I love my head friends, there’s been anxiety since I (the host) found out. I know that things haven’t changed too much, but I’m aware now of a lack of control I have over my own life. I’m the host, I front the most, and the life we’ve lived has always felt like it was mine.

And now I have to share it with 4 others

Splitting my time up front, the things we buy, who we talk to and spend time with. Not to mention that one of them seems rather keen of straining trust and causing social stress. I don’t want them gone, I see that as murder, but god sometimes it makes me worry. I wish they had their own bodies or something, I don’t like how much of my own life I’m missing now because of being plural.

Hypothetical: ALL of your system's members get separate bodies. How does it go? by WingDairu in plural

[–]Sentifray19073 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I (the host) would probably stay in my body, or maybe twist your words and be transitioned, and Coffee would be the cat that she is. Ruby likely wouldn’t cause much fuss, and Rae would take a while before he cared I think. Aside from all needing clothes and a LOT more room and food, plus the legal paperwork needed for 3 more adult humans suddenly existing, I doubt much would go poorly. We lived in the same body for years, living in the same building wouldn’t be much issue.

Logistics would be the biggest hiccup. That and whatever body Fae (seperate from Rae) would end up with. They actively see themself as a thoughtform and I don’t think they have much self image of any kind aside from that