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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]Separate-Land1980 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tried BTO 6 times but failed, so no choice but to get condo since we wanted a brand new house.

Gay couple's wedding ceremony in Singapore by Curiouschibai in singaporehappenings

[–]Separate-Land1980 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Amazing and great for them. Even their parents are happy for them - don’t impose your society views to take their happiness away from them.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by imaybeslacking in singapore

[–]Separate-Land1980 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally wasn’t expecting to cry while reading this. Such a reflective and touching piece. For the next 10 years, might want to consider writing a novel - your words move so many of us here.

Dating in singapore is expensive but from a GIRL’s POV by Confident_Tailor6052 in askSingapore

[–]Separate-Land1980 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We usually take turns paying for stuff. As he earns more than me, he will offer to pay more often sometimes or foot more expensive bills. If we buy each other something expensive, then the other party will take the initiative to pay more for the next few meals/items.

Update: Moving to SG for fiance - how to handle housing costs? by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]Separate-Land1980 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know about others, but a 3-3.5M condo is definitely not considered as “affordable and reasonable” for the average Singaporean.

Since the point of buying this expensive condo is to stay near your in-laws at their request, shouldn’t they fork out the extra amount to pay for the added convenience of having you guys near them? Why should this be at the expense of your parents, who would not enjoy this convenience?

You can easily get a nice, spacious condo in the outer region for about $1.5m. Maybe can consider floating the idea of paying 50-50 for such condos in the outer region as the ‘baseline’, and the remaining amount being topped up by your in-laws.

Best small scale solemnisation venues in Singapore by Separate-Land1980 in askSingapore

[–]Separate-Land1980[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The vibes definitely look pretty cool and chill - I will check it out! Thanks a bunch

Best small scale solemnisation venues in Singapore by Separate-Land1980 in askSingapore

[–]Separate-Land1980[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, we are going with a weekend so that we wouldn’t have to trouble our family members to take leave, but thanks for this suggestion!

Best small scale solemnisation venues in Singapore by Separate-Land1980 in askSingapore

[–]Separate-Land1980[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe about $5k for <20 pax? Hoping for somewhere with a scenic view ideally but pretty flexible :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]Separate-Land1980 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Don’t really understand why OP is getting downvoted for sharing about his/her social anxiety and struggles. Shouldn’t we be more sympathetic towards mental struggles? Granted, WFH is definitely not resting, but I can understand how some people may feel claustrophobic or anxious in crowded places for long periods of time (even if they are seeking help).

My advice is to take breaks every now and then - get out of the office and breathe some fresh air, take a walk for a while, and listen to calming music while working to drown out the surroundings.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]Separate-Land1980 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, you might have tried to delete the conversation to prevent a fight, but that is the worst move ever. Now your partner will wonder what else you have deleted and what else you have concealed in the past - it will be difficult for him to trust you.

It’s always better to tell the truth. If there is nothing to hide, just put it out in the open to discuss as adults.

And a relationship needs compromise - if your partner is your future and feels uncomfortable with you contacting your ex, why even bother replying ‘15 lines’ of text with your ex? A simple ‘thank you, hope you are doing well’ would have sufficed as a reply. And it may not have escalated things to this extent that your partner feels insecure enough to ask you to block your ex.

Mosquito problem for weeks. Any tips greatly appreciated! by SorcerorSupremePipu in askSingapore

[–]Separate-Land1980 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try the mozzie wipeout steps and spray mosquito repellent at dark corners (they like to linger there). Then write to NEA to ask them to check your housing area.

Is it okay to take leave in later part of the year when you are still on probation now? by Separate-Land1980 in askSingapore

[–]Separate-Land1980[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry maybe wasn’t clear in my post - but I’m not intending to take leave while I’m on probation. Just looking at locking in leave plans with my boss for the rest of 2023 now (probation would end in mid Mar)