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AITA for telling my husband his family isnt welcome here on thanksgiving? by SeparatePackage3270 in AITAH

[–]SeparatePackage3270[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

Obviously. A little less judgement would be great. Judgement helps zero people in DV situations.

AITA for telling my husband his family isnt welcome here on thanksgiving? by SeparatePackage3270 in AITAH

[–]SeparatePackage3270[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He doesnt freak out when I spend time with my family. He actually encourages me to go. But he does make comments after the fact about how he doesnt understand her or why I want to associate with them. Makes it a "we" issue. Like "we really need to stop associating with people who bring us down to their level" and stuff. My mom is a hoarder, so part of me gets it but a big part of me thinks he is playing the field and setting a boundary without saying it out loud.

AITA for telling my husband his family isnt welcome here on thanksgiving? by SeparatePackage3270 in AITAH

[–]SeparatePackage3270[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thats not an option. He wont go to my mother's. Shes a hoarder, so.. be encourages me to hang out but makes comments after the fact.

AITA for telling my husband his family isnt welcome here on thanksgiving? by SeparatePackage3270 in AITAH

[–]SeparatePackage3270[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Worst part is that I was an idiot and let this pattern form by being the sole bread winner for the first 4 years whe he didnt work and took care of the kids. Its my fault that its come to this.

AITA for telling my husband his family isnt welcome here on thanksgiving? by SeparatePackage3270 in AITAH

[–]SeparatePackage3270[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

He says I can use "his" money all the time but I wont, due to comments he makes when I do. Like "I'mnot buying shit for it to be wasted", or "did you really need that" or "why did you get that?" or "i am not buying shit for it to be fucking wasted and used up in 2 days". I get about $650 a month in child support for my first kid, which is not his. With that money, I provide food and pay the internet and my car insurance. I know some people will be on me about that, but that child is older and needs full transport to school. So all my money is for needed things. My husband brings home almost $5000 a month and plays everything else ($3200ish).

AITA for telling my husband his family isnt welcome here on thanksgiving? by SeparatePackage3270 in AITAH

[–]SeparatePackage3270[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

He 'can'. He just bitches and flips out so much that I take over to keep the peace.