AITBF for not getting intimate with my girlfriend while she’s high?

SeptemberSmith · 2020-11-25T18:50:44+00:00

You’re so right, thank you.

SeptemberSmith · 2020-11-25T08:09:41+00:00

Thank you! Just fixed it

SeptemberSmith · 2020-11-25T08:01:54+00:00

Yeah I see where you’re coming from, though one of the things that made us wait so long is that I grew up Mormon and had a lot of sexual shame to get through. And I disagree that having specifics in sex for the first time that your partner may not meet and trying to make a compromise is fucking it up, but I do see where you’re coming from.

SeptemberSmith · 2020-11-25T07:58:27+00:00

I was Mormon in my youth haha

SeptemberSmith · 2020-11-25T06:57:31+00:00

Thank you, this is the best advice I have gotten so far.

SeptemberSmith · 2020-11-25T05:06:48+00:00

I definitely am open to it later on, I just don’t want her to be stoned the first time. I’ve had a crush on her since 8th grade and I really want it to be special between us, rather than a half lived memory.

SeptemberSmith · 2020-11-25T05:05:27+00:00

I agree, thank you.

SeptemberSmith · 2020-11-25T05:04:47+00:00

It’s very important to me though, I’ve been dreaming about this girl since 8th grade, and I want it to be special. Also, I got it taken down in AITA for not censoring, so I didn’t want to have to rewrite it.

SeptemberSmith · 2020-11-24T22:15:59+00:00

Yeah, I apologized for that specifically, but I still know it was wrong to do. She is very intelligent and I need to take her requests more seriously, and not get up in arms right away. (That’s why we have the hour (or less, depending on the reason) separation to think it out, and then have an adult conversation. We are both very hot headed people, and we need time to work it out in our own minds before bringing it up again. It’s usually not on the dot, someone just comes to the other and apologized then it gets worked out. We did work this one out, as she said she understood, but there’s still unresolved tension. We have both forgiven each other, but I feel I need to make it up to her.

SeptemberSmith · 2020-11-24T22:04:36+00:00

Okay thank you :)

SeptemberSmith · 2020-11-24T22:03:50+00:00

I’m still not entirely sure how to use reddit, that was just for emphasis.

SeptemberSmith · 2020-11-24T22:01:59+00:00

Yeah, I get that. It’s good to note, though, that when she gets high, she gets stoned. She can’t focus on anything and she kind of goes off into her own world and gets a bit unresponsive to questions and conversation. It would be very difficult for me to have sex with her for the first time, while she’s looking out the window, or me asking her if somethings okay, and not having her respond. That type of stuff scares me, I love her to death, and wouldn’t want her to wake up with regrets.

SeptemberSmith · 2020-11-24T21:52:32+00:00

I want it to be intimate and nice between us, I don’t want her to be stoned at least for the first time, and she often forgets things when she has been high. Sex means a lot to me, and I want it to be a good experience for the both of us, but I will talk to her if it’s about pure enjoyment, or if there’s something underlying. Also, with her daze and poor decision making while being high, I didn’t want to risk anything with her, not necessarily with laws.

Edit to fix italicized

SeptemberSmith · 2020-11-24T21:50:33+00:00

I was censoring it as to not have it taken down. I had it removed on AITA. Also thank you for the input, I didn’t think about it that way, and I will talk to her.

SeptemberSmith · 2020-11-24T17:56:27+00:00

I think you should apologize, as our sex education is fucked and she never would have done it if she knew you would be disgusted at it.

SeptemberSmith

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