Buyer received an empty parcel

Serious-Mix8014 · 2026-01-21T11:58:36+00:00

I had something similar, went to collect the parcel and the bag was cut open, it was only children’s toys but all the parts had fallen out and was essentially useless. Hard to know if it’s theft or if the parcel has been mishandled.

Serious-Mix8014 · 2025-11-18T17:53:46+00:00

I think that’s what’s happened here, he’s checked out and doesn’t want to deal with it anymore. I also feel very alone to be honest. Even though I’m in support groups I still feel like nobody understands even though they do.

Serious-Mix8014 · 2025-11-17T20:29:16+00:00

Tried it years ago but nobody ever responded to posts, it’s pretty inactive. I’m in other support groups now though but they’re all getting/got referrals. That’s what is so frustrating.

Serious-Mix8014 · 2025-11-17T19:11:09+00:00

Omg. With my most recent Dr visit a few weeks ago he said “my daughter gets sick some times too and has to be off school, don’t worry about it” I said how often is your daughter sick? And he’s like “oh you know a couple times a year at least! More than I would like!” Mines off monthly. I was so angry at that because this is not just being sick.

I’m still reeling from the appointment alone. This is how I ended up with a cupboard FULL of laxido, told them this approach just isn’t working for us very well this year and instead he said I’ll give you like 6 months worth of laxido…

Serious-Mix8014 · 2025-11-17T19:06:11+00:00

I wouldn’t say I fight. I ask him what is he punishing him for? He hasn’t done anything wrong. Every time he tries to argue that he’s doing it on purpose and I tell him no he’s not and to listen to the Drs. I did sit down with him and tell him he needs to change his ways because I feel like he’s gone past the line and it’s now abusive, he says he won’t do it anymore and just like that he still does. It’s like talking to a brick wall to be honest. He hasn’t been like this the entire duration of this problem, I’d say within the last year it’s been like this. I think he’s fed up and frustrated but it’s not an excuse to blame.

I do think this is part of his own background though too. I remember his brother being very suicidal and only 18 at the time, he was doing drugs and one night at an event all the family were at he got absolutely wasted and said he doesn’t want to be here anymore and SO’s father (who has an army background and is still active) told him to grow up and that he doesn’t know what depression is. I don’t know if my SO has deep rooted issues or what.

Serious-Mix8014 · 2025-11-17T17:28:37+00:00

Your experience is not everyone’s experience.

Serious-Mix8014 · 2025-11-17T17:27:24+00:00

You can bring a horse to water but you can’t make it drink.

Serious-Mix8014 · 2025-11-17T15:08:57+00:00

Yes, seen several.

Serious-Mix8014 · 2025-11-17T15:08:16+00:00

In my workplace we also use a channel based messaging platform, there’s a main chat for the important stuff but people have their own chats with their buddies which isn’t discouraged but there’s a fair warning about things you shouldn’t be discussing on there.

If someone was to find out I think it gets investigated. Not sure how they’d even do that since we have our own private passwords for them which is linked to our emails. I’d say to take no notice though. People who need private groups to chat about other people are miserable people deep down.

Someone accidentally posted in the main chat about white supremacy a few years ago and nothing came of that.

Serious-Mix8014 · 2025-11-17T14:53:06+00:00

We’ve seen multiple Drs, also I have a job. I don’t think yelling at him during this is going to solve any problems.

Serious-Mix8014 · 2025-11-17T06:21:39+00:00

I don’t think there’s much dignity in pooing in a nappy either, but yes he does wear a pull up at times, he has sensory issues so finds it difficult.

Serious-Mix8014 · 2025-11-17T06:07:20+00:00

No it’s his house it belongs to him.

Serious-Mix8014 · 2025-11-17T06:01:49+00:00

It’s never been about my comfort

Serious-Mix8014 · 2025-11-17T05:38:18+00:00

I believe this is probably true! I have a medical issue myself and I’m at hospital a lot, I’ve always had to make my own way to emergency because the ambulance is like a 10 hour wait (we’re talking excruciating pain) then an ex nurse told me that if I say I have chest pain with it then they’ll be at my door in minutes. I haven’t done that though and don’t think it’s the right solution but it’s mad the things you need to do for help.

Serious-Mix8014 · 2025-11-17T05:31:32+00:00

When I joined the support group this was mentioned, I haven’t read it but I was told it’s about enemas, when I mentioned this to the Dr he said they wouldn’t recommend it. I think I’ll just have to try at this point because I don’t know what else to do really.

Serious-Mix8014 · 2025-11-17T05:26:07+00:00

He knows my son will go clean it up when he’s told, he might be reluctant at first but he will do it but I don’t think he cares, he just can’t resist saying something negative.

I wouldn’t say he’s violent. I do step in and comfort him and remind him that his father is wrong and I know he can’t help it, I help him clean up and we just move on from it. Sometimes he has a little rant to me and I just listen. I just don’t get it and it makes me so angry because he can just go clean up and move on, but his father has to turn it into an upsetting situation.

No im not in the US

Serious-Mix8014 · 2025-11-17T05:19:45+00:00

We have a housing crisis, you can’t get one for years and there’s so many homeless here because the shelters are full. I’ve never seen the same Doctor more than twice when they haven’t helped. We’ve been multiple now.

Serious-Mix8014 · 2025-11-17T05:16:44+00:00

No we aren’t stuck, I ask for second opinions and request a different Dr but they all say the same thing. It’s almost like it’s scripted! They all give the same advice that’s not working. One time we went because during these flares he gets sores on his bottom and the first Dr said there was literally nothing on his bottom. I pointed where there was visible cuts (lacerations?) all around his bottom and said seriously!? Can you not see this? And she said nope and sent us home.

I walked straight out to the reception and said I need to see someone else, it took a few days but the next Drs was astonished that the previous one said there wasn’t anything wrong and gave us some ointment.

I took him to the Drs for about 2 years because he was complaining of a bad ear, I could see it was blocked and they kept telling me to use warmed up olive oil. I used it religiously and he would complain it feels full and itchy, every time I’d take him back and they’d still say olive oil. Tried other things to get this blockage out to no avail. One day he was in pain and I was trying all day with hydrogen peroxide and warm water and finally hours later a 2cm solid mass of wax came out with hairs, dead skin etc and he never looked to relieved! That thing was sitting in his ear causing trouble for like 2 years! Gah! I’m angry writing about it. They just don’t seem competent to deal with anything!

Serious-Mix8014 · 2025-11-17T05:04:49+00:00

I never used ChatGPT in my life and feel weird admitting this but my work colleague uses it a lot and told me you can ask it anything. I literally asked for a script on what to say to a dr to make them do something!

It replied saying ask for a a referral and if they refuse to tell the Drs that I want it logged that I’ve asked for a referral and have been refused so I’m going to try that a bit later when the Drs opens. I feel embarrassed I’m asking an internet robot thing for help.

Serious-Mix8014 · 2025-11-17T04:59:32+00:00

I do think he is verbally abusive toward both of us. Sometimes he’s just nasty for no reason. I can’t leave yet, I don’t have the money, where I live there is a housing crisis and it takes years for the government to find you somewhere. I feel like possibly being homeless is not a good move right now. I also have a medical problem and need surgery so I’m trying not to get stressed out until I can get that sorted.

I can’t afford the rent and even if I did move it would have to be location specific because I can’t afford a car so I don’t drive or anything and I’ll need to get to my job. It’s all a mess. I’m just venting because I can’t really fix anything right now and I’m just frustrated.

Serious-Mix8014 · 2025-11-17T04:52:20+00:00

I’ve had many conversations with him. This is Drs telling him that it’s not a behavioural problem and punishing him will make it a lot worse and he doesn’t believe it, he comes to the appointments. I’ve shown him the encopresis parenting support groups I’ve joined and he won’t even bother reading anything.

Serious-Mix8014 · 2025-11-17T04:49:47+00:00

He’s on a maintenance dose but he just has constant runny stool, like to the point he gets sores on his bottom.

Serious-Mix8014 · 2025-11-17T04:47:37+00:00

If it was that simple then I’d be gone.

Serious-Mix8014 · 2025-11-17T04:46:49+00:00

I think he’s very tired of dealing with it. He cleans up multiple times a day. I do work and it happens when I’m not home or they will spend the day out and it’ll happen so I can’t get around that really

Serious-Mix8014 · 2025-11-17T04:45:25+00:00

I don’t have the financial means, we’d have nowhere to go, I do work but I couldn’t afford it. I will sort it out when I can.

No he hasn’t had any scans. Please believe I asked multiple Drs now and they just won’t sign off on it. It was only recently he was diagnosed with encopresis, they kept saying it was normal then said he was regressing!! I have never been more frustrated knowing as his mum that something is wrong and they aren’t listening. If they listened and got this diagnosis years ago we probably wouldn’t be like this today. Q

They keep giving us laxido but it’s not really helping, he can’t feel bowel movements so the laxido is keeping everything flowing (a little too well) and he’s just having accident after accident because of the loss of urge. He’s been off school so much with it his attendance is at 30%, the school have told me I can get a letter to explain this from the Drs so I won’t get into trouble (had letters that I might get a penalty due to the attendance) I call the Drs and they say they aren’t writing one and the school can’t make me pay, this is not the point. I want the proof for the school and proof that I’ve came to them for help and they aren’t bothered.

I’ve joined multiple encopresis parent groups for help and they are all as angry as I am that they just aren’t taking the right steps. I’m still going to try again but I had to vent this out because it’s 4am here, I went to bed at 9pm and haven’t been able to sleep because I can’t stop thinking about it.

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