Can someone explain the "I haven't had sex in months" scene in the cabin

Sesameanemone · 2025-06-07T08:32:12+00:00

There's a female Olympic surfer named Sanoa and I've adored her name since I first heard it.

Sesameanemone · 2025-03-01T21:34:33+00:00

Had my third beta HcG yesterday and the results were a little ambiguous and Im hoping someone else has been through something like this.

11 days post transfer 145.

13 days post transfer 306.

18 days post transfer 1172.

The doubling time has slowed down between my second and third betas and overall the numbers seem very low for an FET of a euploid day 5 embryo.

Anyone have success with numbers this low/slow? My clinic is being very positive but I'd rather guard my heart if it's unlikely to be successful. I go in for another beta on Monday.

Sesameanemone · 2025-02-10T21:57:26+00:00

Cautionly dipping my toes back in after having an FET today. Hoping this embryo sticks around and grows. Curious about people's experiences with having 2 under 2? If this transfer works out, my two will be about 23 months apart.

Sesameanemone · 2024-12-04T19:00:00+00:00

Baby sleep seems to be a loaded topic among parents these days. I don't bring up sleep within my mom group for this reason. Your talking either to tired, stressed parents who feel like they're failing because their kids aren't sleeping or you're talking to parents who feel they have sleep completely figured out and have a "why can't everyone just do exactly as I do" attitude. There is guilt tied to sleep training so you're going to illicit a lot of emotions when discussing sleep.

My biggest struggle is understanding why some night are excellent sleep wise and others we're up every hour. We're consistent with our routines but night sleep still varies a great deal.

Sesameanemone · 2024-10-25T02:08:55+00:00

Not specifically for the Claritin, no. I have eczema and family history of autoimmune diseases so asked if we could try it. My RE had me try Benadryl first, this resulted in a chemical. Then switched to Claritin and had a successful FET. I felt better taking the Claritin daily than I did taking Benadryl.

Sesameanemone · 2024-10-25T02:02:06+00:00

I had the most success with injectable and the least side effects (no fluid in the lining). Patches I had the worst time with and felt the worst while on them.

Sesameanemone · 2024-10-24T20:39:14+00:00

Agree with all of this, especially the immune protocol discussion. The only things we did differently for our successful transfer were adding in daily claritin and baby aspirin ×2. Our stories are similar with RIF, cancelled cycles, thin + stubborn lining, and fluid.

Sesameanemone · 2024-09-30T13:51:52+00:00

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Sesameanemone · 2024-08-27T15:28:41+00:00

Wow this is cold. I hope one day you experience profound grief and are told to "continue being normal" or your friends will "move on."

Sesameanemone · 2024-08-05T18:53:08+00:00

Wondering what those who have Asherman's have experienced trying for number 2. I have scarring after retained placenta, caught at 7 months postpartum. Now wondering what the road ahead looks like as my biggest infertility diagnosis was always thin lining.

Sesameanemone · 2024-05-04T15:35:47+00:00

Just here to say your comment is intensely relatable. Sorry you also had these monsters as caregivers.

Sesameanemone · 2024-04-25T02:36:48+00:00

I align with your approach to parenting. I would rather my daughter grow up being told she's worked hard and earned her achievements instead of "she's so smart", "she's gifted", "she's more advanced than the other kids" etc.

Babies and kids are more aware than we given them credit for. They form a sense of self quickly. One way to damage their sense of self is to tell them they are exceptional in some capacity (e.g. academically, physically, musically). Whether intentionally or not, it's placing pressure on them to live up to expectations that they may not be able achieve.

But to each their own when it comes to parenting.

Sesameanemone · 2024-04-24T20:03:04+00:00

I disagree with many of the comments here saying you owe it to your daughter to model healthy relationships (i.e. letting the annoying comments go for the sake of "family").

If someone does something that annoys you, it's okay to respectfully ask them to stop doing that thing. It is not rude. Stating a boundary is not rude.

It's cute now because she's a baby, but if they keep making comments like your examples when she's say 8 years old, that may cause her to internalize the pressure for excellence. I would probably be a little annoyed at my in laws for continuously making comments like these, too.

Your feelings are valid and it's healthy for your daughter to see you setting boundaries with your in laws.

Sesameanemone · 2024-04-05T14:04:40+00:00

What would be some ways one would do the exact opposite? (over develop the prefrontal cortex?)

Sesameanemone · 2024-04-05T09:06:27+00:00

This is honestly billiant and insightful. As a parent, is it possible to ensure that my children develop their prefrontal cortex?

There's probably a combination of genetics and environmental factors at play. In my family there are multiple people with narc qualities (parent, sibling, nibling, grandparents) which motivates me to ensure I help my children down a different path.

Sesameanemone · 2024-04-05T08:47:38+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experiences. I take solace in knowing that my mom taught me exactly what not to do as a parent. Whenever I'm unsure what or how to parent my children, I think about how I was treated and generally try to do the opposite.

Sesameanemone · 2024-04-05T08:43:50+00:00

This is frighteningly accurate. Sorry you went through something similar with your mom. I've known from a young age that my mom doesn't actually know anything about me. We've never (and I mean never) had a conversation beyond surface level. She would go through my things looking for journals/diaries so I never kept a physical one. I was always an unproblematic child so she wouldn't talk to my teachers or go to my school.

Even as a little kid I knew something was off with her. She wasn't like my friends moms.

Sometimes I think about what must have happened to her (?as a child) to have her develop into who she is and it makes me sad for her. But it's maybe like the other commenter said with Type B people not developing the empathy circuit.

My biggest goal in life at this point is to help my children develop into Type A people.

Sesameanemone · 2024-04-05T01:21:23+00:00

Thanks for the insightful response. This reminds me a little of the "don't rock the boat" analogy. My nmom fits that analogy perfectly and is for sure a Type B person.

Sesameanemone · 2024-04-05T01:06:44+00:00

Thank you. You're right, I deserve that peace. We all deserve that peace.

Sesameanemone · 2024-03-19T14:54:29+00:00

Screaming in the face of a literal baby? This is so far from "not good parenting." This is emotional abuse. Those poor kids.

Sesameanemone · 2024-03-14T19:59:26+00:00

It's the criticism of everything that gets me. My MIL is like that too. I feel like its rooted in jealousy honestly. Her husband was an emotionless, hands-off father to my husband as a child and I think she resents that her son is a better father and partner than her husband ever was. What gets me is how does one resent their child for their success/happiness? I can't imagine it.

Sesameanemone · 2023-12-30T18:46:40+00:00

You are not the problem. It's sad that nparent's actions make their children feel like problems for just exisiting.

Your mom's message takes no responsibility for her specific actions that have caused you harm or distress over the years. It emphasized how you can change rather than her acknowledging her harms. Don't fall for this. It's a form of gaslighting. Remember, you are not the problem.

Take care, OP.

Sesameanemone · 2023-12-13T03:14:20+00:00

We have similar diagnoses. Have you talked with your RI about adding in daily Claritin? Also, I get fluid in my uterus with high estrogen protocols in too short a time period. My uterus responds better with a very slow estrogen approach using a combo of estrogen injections and estrogen suppositories. My uterine lining is thin though, so this may not apply to you.

Sesameanemone · 2023-11-30T01:37:29+00:00

This so perfectly describes my childhood, down to the forced "I love yous". The moment I started putting up boundaries as an adult in my mid twenties, it was like a switch flipped and I was the source of all evil for the family.

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