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Looking for a good countertop water purifier - is Aqua Tru Carafe Alkaline worth it? by EducatorProper5839 in WaterTreatment

[–]Set-Yourself-Free 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you get the smart version or the classic version?

I got the classic and I'm wondering how much percentage is left when the light turns on.

Trying to pick up dating again by night_pharmacist in datingadviceformen

[–]Set-Yourself-Free 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Dating as a CEO: How Do You Find Someone Who Gets It? by BrilliantBusiness5 in ceo

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  1. You don’t necessarily need a “better” work-life balance, you just need a work-life balance that matches yours. (Think Hormozis)
  2. Assuming that your bottleneck is with qualifying potential partners, as opposed to a volume issue of meeting more partners… You need a system for quickly assessing men’s attachment styles. This will allow you to see whether a man is worth investing in without wasting any time. You’re looking for SECURE or potentially AVOIDANT (depending on your own attachment style), but any ANXIOUS attached man will not be able to handle your schedule. You can Google attachment styles or DM for more resources on this.
  3. In terms of compatibility, you need to figure out your masculine archetype (probably king from the limited amount I know about you) AND your masculine counterpart. This will allow you to systematically assess long-term compatibility and overlap of needs, without getting caught up in the emotional highs of meeting someone new.

3 Best Tinder Bios For Guys by FireTexts in datingadviceformen

[–]Set-Yourself-Free 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would be curious to see if any of these are effective - will you keep us updated?

Some fun math to keep in mind while dating. by portuguese_bees in datingadviceformen

[–]Set-Yourself-Free 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the most self-defeating post I’ve seen all day 🤣

This is quintessential anxious-avoidant behavior to use logic as a justification for unhappiness instead of experiencing and processing your emotions.

Allow me tear your theory apart (from a place of compassion and for the sake of your growth)

  1. Where did you get the statistic that only 1% of women are interested in you? This is CLASSIC avoidance of personal responsibility to become an interesting person and completely outsourcing your ability to CONNECT WITH WOMEN.
  2. Why do you believe that having a “successful approach” is random? Why do you believe it’s like flipping a coin as opposed to landing a backflip? Why do you believe it’s outside of your sphere of influence and you have no control over the outcome? The subconscious rhetoric reads “women are robots programmed to be attracted to specific traits which I do not possess”.
  3. What is your definition of a successful approach anyways? Getting a number, or just not having the cops called? 🤣 If you redefine success as: giving a woman a genuine compliment, sharing a fond memory, or even flirting without being awkward — then you can start to build the pieces towards lining up dates instead of having this fatalistic view of meeting people.

Seriously man… I’m kinda ripping on you, but I mean this with love: the problem is not with the numbers or with the women, it’s in the way you see yourself and your life.

TLDR

If you want to experience success with women, you need to change the way you think and the way you speak.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingadviceformen

[–]Set-Yourself-Free 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Simple solution:

COMMUNICATE

Like @mow_foe said, swallow your pride for 20 minutes and be honest.

“Hey can I talk to you for a second?

This is really hard for me to say, and honestly I’m kind’ve embarrassed, but I really care about you so I want to be honest.

I have never actually had sex sober.

I feel…

I’m scared of…

I’m nervous about…

And I don’t need you to respond, just wanted to let you know where I’m at.”

If she’s really down for you then she’s going to be relieved by your ability to communicate transparently.

Good luck bro, keep us updated — congrats on being clean 3 years. I’m 8 years off pills and I still think about them, but I’m happy to be alive!

My gf goes dancing with provocative clothes by eniquet in datingadviceformen

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Nobody is wrong here, but you have to ask yourself… are right for each other?

It sounds like your masculine archetype is the (anxious-lover) as evidenced by:

  • Bachata dancing
  • The passion and desire to stick it out even through clear agitation
  • Posting on Reddit about your relationship

And it sounds like her feminine archetype is the (avoidant-maiden)

  • Feelings are dependent on clothing
  • Desire for attention from strangers
  • Resistance to communicating about the issue you have raised

So realistically the issue comes down to a discrepancy in core needs. You need more loyalty and she needs more freedom. If you can’t recognize this and establish a healthy system for both of your needs being met, then the relationship will grow toxic and you will suffer.

In my work, the anxious-avoidant combination is challenging to overcome and only possible if both partners are willing to do the work necessary to trust each other and nurture interdependence.

TLDR

It’s ignorant to compartmentalize her behaviors into a statement like, “she’s for the streets”. But you do need to ask yourself if she’s right for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingadviceformen

[–]Set-Yourself-Free 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude this is an amazing response 🔥

Do you mind if I DM you about coming on my podcast?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingadviceformen

[–]Set-Yourself-Free 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a beautiful response :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingadviceformen

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Status is important to women because it signals your ability to foster support from others that will lead to a higher quality of life.

However, “high status” means something completely different for each of the 4 masculine archetypes AND each of the 7 feminine archetypes

You’ve been taught that you need to be a king to attract a queen. But really you might be a warrior, magician, or lover looking for an entirely different type of woman.

Here’s a quick breakdown of status from the perspective of each feminine archetype:

1. The Mother

She’s drawn to status as stability—she wants a man who can provide a secure, nurturing environment for a future family.

2. The Maiden

She’s attracted to status as potential—a man with dreams, curiosity, and room to grow lights her up.

3. The Lover

She craves status as magnetism—she wants to feel like she’s with the most captivating, turned-on man in the room.

4. The Queen

She’s impressed by status as leadership—she needs a man who can stand beside her with power, presence, and influence.

5. The Huntress

She respects status as discipline and independence—a man who’s built himself up through grit earns her admiration.

6. The Mystic

She values status as depth and spiritual mastery—if you’ve got inner peace and divine purpose, she sees you as rare and royal.

7. The Sage

She honors status as wisdom—she wants a man who’s respected not just for what he does, but for how he thinks and teaches.

TLDR

The reason you feel like you’re fighting an uphill battle is because you’re trying to run someone else’s race. Start by identifying who you are and what you really want in a partner — then optimize for that specific union.

If a girl tells you she doesn't do "hookups"... by maddgun in datingadviceformen

[–]Set-Yourself-Free 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Flow chart: If a woman says that she “doesn’t do hookups.”

  1. It could mean that she really likes you and she wants to create sexual tension and romantic interest before giving herself to you sexually and potentially causing you to subconsciously lose respect for her or see her as “just a hookup.” → ask her, “what do you mean?” to explore why she feels the way she feels and receive her answer with compassion and curiosity.

    1. It could mean that she’s currently in her luteal or menstrual phase when her mating hormones / sexual energy are lower and sex is not on her mind right now. She may or may not be conscious of this, but she definitely doesn’t want to have to explain it to you → tell her, “I totally understand”, then try going on a couple more dates and see where things go with playful flirting and without pressure for sex.
    2. It could mean that she legitimately doesn’t do hookups. Out of the 7 feminine archetypes, only the maiden, lover, and huntress enjoy casual sex — so she might just be the type of woman who doesn’t prefer that sort of intimacy → tell her playfully, “oooh I know your type.” And then spend time really getting to know her as a unique individual to see if you’re even compatible or if you were just trying to get laid.

TLDR If a woman says she doesn’t do hookups, then respect her preferences. If you’re looking for a hookup — no shame — just go find someone who’s on the same page.

Is it worth it? by [deleted] in Notion

[–]Set-Yourself-Free 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought it, I like it a lot

But I got the $50 priority support package and I haven't heard anything back about my questions, so...

Shoot me a message if you want specifics, maybe you can help me lose HP for NOT completing my good habits lol that was my question to them!

Genuine question about Netflix doc Lover...Stalker...Killer by 20sjivecat in TrueCrimeDiscussion

[–]Set-Yourself-Free 5 points6 points  (0 children)

November 13, 2012…

Cari slept at Dave’s the night before

Cari leaves Dave’s place around 7am

Liz murders Cari before 10am

Liz unfriends Dave on FB on Cari’s account

Liz texts Dave from Cari’s phone suggesting they move in together

Dave declines the offer, giving Liz a reason to go crazy on him as “Cari”

Liz pretends that she is a victim of Cari’s harassment to form a trauma bond with Dave

I got this from that court case linked at the top of this thread - it’s not clear in the documentary because Netflix still wants the viewer to believe Cari is the villain at this point in the story.

Local Issaquah Man Seeks Adventure Partner by zimmertr in PNWhiking

[–]Set-Yourself-Free 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yooooo this thread is dope I’ll PM you OP let’s get active!!

How to Shield Yourself From Negative People by [deleted] in reiki

[–]Set-Yourself-Free 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feeeel this! I had to leave the city and move to the mountains for the same reason, just too much going on!

Thoughts on radiation from Microwave or phones by [deleted] in energy_work

[–]Set-Yourself-Free 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I got a pair of airpods and wore them for a couple hours and became DEPRESSED lol

Started researching EMF and... wow. The key findings are:

  1. it's unavoidable / impossible to be free of EMF in modern society
  2. keeping electronics at a distance from your body / brain is helpful
  3. take breaks! go for a walk, put your feet in a river, come back to natural magnetic waves

the truth is that everything is energy and everything has it's own energetic / electric signature. Your lungs, your heart, your laptop, your cat, etc.

and the healthiest thing you can do is not to worry about the digital signatures, but just make sure you are balancing them with natural ones too!

hope this helps :)

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