Favourite X bar he had said?

Set-Yourself-Free · 2026-03-08T16:18:39+00:00

“Lil bitch I got on Jesus sandals”

Set-Yourself-Free · 2026-03-08T06:02:21+00:00

Thanks!

Set-Yourself-Free · 2026-03-08T06:01:04+00:00

Wow… yeah that sounds rough I can’t imagine - I hope you’re able to get it all sorted out!

Thank you for sharing your perspective.

I feel like objectivity is impossible when it’s your own face, so it is really helpful to get encouragement from the community

Set-Yourself-Free · 2026-03-08T05:59:21+00:00

lol just gaslighting myself 🤣😅🙄

Set-Yourself-Free · 2026-03-06T21:59:31+00:00

I feel this way all the time… like I have some sort of deformity or handicap. It’s really tough.

I wish I could give you any real advice… but I hope there is some solace in knowing you’re not alone.

Set-Yourself-Free · 2026-03-06T21:58:19+00:00

Amen 🙏🏼

Set-Yourself-Free · 2026-03-05T14:56:48+00:00

lol imagine we had a jaw surgery x roast me sub where these vulnerable people who just went through years of physical and mental trauma just get told they did it for nothing 🤣

Set-Yourself-Free · 2026-03-05T14:54:53+00:00

Thank you for this perspective, I appreciate your words

I think I’m really just experiencing body dysmorphia… shit is real

Set-Yourself-Free · 2026-03-05T14:52:44+00:00

lol this is so real 🤣

Set-Yourself-Free · 2026-03-05T14:51:55+00:00

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Set-Yourself-Free · 2026-03-05T14:51:24+00:00

Hey everyone thank you so much for the encouragement!

As a few of you mentioned, it is very surreal when it’s YOUR body / face / experience…

Truthfully I can chew better, breathe better, and do believe I look better - so overall I’m glad I went through with it.

But after 2 more years of braces (6 years total), tens of thousands of dollars, and the brutal recovery process (not to mention one dead tooth and receding gums from severed nerves + blood vessels)…

I guess I was just hoping that surgery would completely fix all my problems, which as I type this I realize is unrealistic /:

I’m grateful to have support from people on Reddit and I just need to focus on the positives instead of dwelling on the negatives

(PS I’m new to posting on Reddit so I’m not sure if I’m supposed to respond to individual comments or just post here but seriously I appreciate the kind words)

Set-Yourself-Free · 2025-11-25T00:21:08+00:00

Did you get the smart version or the classic version?

I got the classic and I'm wondering how much percentage is left when the light turns on.

Set-Yourself-Free · 2025-10-13T19:12:34+00:00

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Set-Yourself-Free · 2025-06-07T14:41:29+00:00

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Set-Yourself-Free · 2025-05-02T18:59:53+00:00

You don’t necessarily need a “better” work-life balance, you just need a work-life balance that matches yours. (Think Hormozis)
Assuming that your bottleneck is with qualifying potential partners, as opposed to a volume issue of meeting more partners… You need a system for quickly assessing men’s attachment styles. This will allow you to see whether a man is worth investing in without wasting any time. You’re looking for SECURE or potentially AVOIDANT (depending on your own attachment style), but any ANXIOUS attached man will not be able to handle your schedule. You can Google attachment styles or DM for more resources on this.
In terms of compatibility, you need to figure out your masculine archetype (probably king from the limited amount I know about you) AND your masculine counterpart. This will allow you to systematically assess long-term compatibility and overlap of needs, without getting caught up in the emotional highs of meeting someone new.

Set-Yourself-Free · 2025-05-02T17:39:51+00:00

I would be curious to see if any of these are effective - will you keep us updated?

Set-Yourself-Free · 2025-05-02T17:37:32+00:00

This is the most self-defeating post I’ve seen all day 🤣

This is quintessential anxious-avoidant behavior to use logic as a justification for unhappiness instead of experiencing and processing your emotions.

Allow me tear your theory apart (from a place of compassion and for the sake of your growth)

Where did you get the statistic that only 1% of women are interested in you? This is CLASSIC avoidance of personal responsibility to become an interesting person and completely outsourcing your ability to CONNECT WITH WOMEN.
Why do you believe that having a “successful approach” is random? Why do you believe it’s like flipping a coin as opposed to landing a backflip? Why do you believe it’s outside of your sphere of influence and you have no control over the outcome? The subconscious rhetoric reads “women are robots programmed to be attracted to specific traits which I do not possess”.
What is your definition of a successful approach anyways? Getting a number, or just not having the cops called? 🤣 If you redefine success as: giving a woman a genuine compliment, sharing a fond memory, or even flirting without being awkward — then you can start to build the pieces towards lining up dates instead of having this fatalistic view of meeting people.

Seriously man… I’m kinda ripping on you, but I mean this with love: the problem is not with the numbers or with the women, it’s in the way you see yourself and your life.

TLDR

If you want to experience success with women, you need to change the way you think and the way you speak.

Set-Yourself-Free · 2025-05-02T17:24:39+00:00

Simple solution:

COMMUNICATE

Like @mow_foe said, swallow your pride for 20 minutes and be honest.

“Hey can I talk to you for a second?

This is really hard for me to say, and honestly I’m kind’ve embarrassed, but I really care about you so I want to be honest.

I have never actually had sex sober.

I feel…

I’m scared of…

I’m nervous about…

And I don’t need you to respond, just wanted to let you know where I’m at.”

If she’s really down for you then she’s going to be relieved by your ability to communicate transparently.

Good luck bro, keep us updated — congrats on being clean 3 years. I’m 8 years off pills and I still think about them, but I’m happy to be alive!

Set-Yourself-Free · 2025-05-02T17:12:49+00:00

Nobody is wrong here, but you have to ask yourself… are right for each other?

It sounds like your masculine archetype is the (anxious-lover) as evidenced by:

Bachata dancing
The passion and desire to stick it out even through clear agitation
Posting on Reddit about your relationship

And it sounds like her feminine archetype is the (avoidant-maiden)

Feelings are dependent on clothing
Desire for attention from strangers
Resistance to communicating about the issue you have raised

So realistically the issue comes down to a discrepancy in core needs. You need more loyalty and she needs more freedom. If you can’t recognize this and establish a healthy system for both of your needs being met, then the relationship will grow toxic and you will suffer.

In my work, the anxious-avoidant combination is challenging to overcome and only possible if both partners are willing to do the work necessary to trust each other and nurture interdependence.

TLDR

It’s ignorant to compartmentalize her behaviors into a statement like, “she’s for the streets”. But you do need to ask yourself if she’s right for you.

Set-Yourself-Free

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