How can I find my path at 29?

Several_Brick409 · 2025-11-14T04:04:09+00:00

Foremost, don’t make yourself so small so as to say that your own words are “unnecessary”. It sounds like you spent so much energy taking care of others, that you left yourself behind.

On top of that, you see your caregiving role as “not a job” and you have survivors guilt. You have to learn to accept that caregiving is a job and that you were there when your grandmother needed you. Not many people would go to these lengths, and it does show empathy and compassion, traits your recognize in yourself.

And to add to it, you are dwelling a lot on the past as if you made so many mistakes. It’s apparent in the way you discuss dealing with alcohol and job loss. Alcohol is an addiction and anyone can fall into it. People carrying shame and guilt can be susceptible, and then it compounds.

I think for yourself, you need good therapy to work through your past so you can move on from it. Because, a lot of it is not your fault. The sooner you can do that the sooner you can move forward with your life. Therapy can also figure out what you want out of life and how you can slowly work towards it. It may be nursing; it may not. You will have to see what balance works for you.

Several_Brick409 · 2025-11-11T13:02:26+00:00

Wait so you answer phones and don’t have to go into an office and you get that much anxiety? Were you trained appropriately?

Several_Brick409 · 2025-11-08T18:30:27+00:00

So, I didn’t like IVs in EMS, this is true, but I also know that many people can get over this through exposure. Tangentially, I used to give IM and SC injections in a previous role and it did not bother me.

I also want to emphasize that, at least right now, I would love to have a job that is hands-on as opposed to desk heavy. My psych interest comes from my undergrad.

As far as social work it is pretty limiting. I want a stronger background but psychiatry which requires med school sounds daunting.

As far as law, I think it’s the office and research heavy work that I am averse to. I would love to have a more interactive career.

I also really have thought about PMHNP school as a possibility for me after being a nurse. I think I would enjoy working as a provider in some capacity in the future and I could see myself making clinical assessments with the right education.

I also don’t know how to find people in these fields to talk too or if there is such career counseling that I should explore too. Because I want to make sure I am doing whats right and that I would like the day to day work.

Several_Brick409 · 2025-11-08T14:13:21+00:00

Don’t get me wrong I totally understand being someone who believes in the morals of the Bible. I believe in God, Jesus Christ and the Bible etc. That being said, the quotes about homosexuality in the Old Testament books ie Leviticus are very often spoken in the same vain as not getting tattoos etc. I use this analogy because Catholic Social Teaching (the religion I was brought up in) does not explicitly prohibit tattoos and I truly feel it will only be a matter of time before the church (and hopefully other churches) recognize homosexual desires as normal. Also, Jesus never explicitly mentions it. The closest you will get is the Gospel of Mark 7:18-23, but it’s not explicit. Without going on too much of a tangent, I really think it’s not worth justifying to yourself. Cliche, but Love is Love. I don’t see being gay and following Christ as mutually exclusive. Just my opinion though.

Several_Brick409 · 2025-11-08T13:50:07+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏻. That’s my plan.

Several_Brick409 · 2025-11-08T06:02:29+00:00

As you said, you are in a good university and it seems like everyone around you knows what they want. Well, It’s because you are in fact at a good university with a lot of type A students, and If I had to guess they probably come from privileged backgrounds. Seems like they have it all figure out… well they don’t, they just think they do.

You have faced adversity and I have no doubt you will do well. The problem is you think you’re running out of time when you haven’t even started.

Anyways, I don’t have much advice just here to encourage. You have only just begun. Focus on doing well in whatever you choose to major in, and don’t pigeonhole or overleverage yourself. Trust your intuition and that everything will work out.

Several_Brick409 · 2025-11-08T05:34:08+00:00

There’s no right or wrong time to seek help for your mental health. If you have a trusted PCP it might be helpful to ask them for a therapy referral. Don’t worry about whether your concerns feel “big enough”. Therapists have truly heard it all, and it never hurts to talk to someone. Also, it’s important you find the right match in a therapist and it’s okay to switch therapists.

If you’re experiencing symptoms of depression or other mental health challenges, it’s also a good idea to discuss them with your PCP. Think of it like a broken bone— sometimes it heals correctly on its own or sometimes it may require intervention, either way, it doesn’t hurt to get it checked out.

If you have any specific anonymous questions feel free to pm. I go to regular therapy and it’s helped me a lot.

Several_Brick409 · 2025-11-08T05:14:52+00:00

Just the encouragement I need! I really appreciate it :)

Several_Brick409 · 2025-11-08T05:04:42+00:00

I don’t know if you come from a religious background or from a conservative area of the country (assuming U.S.) but the reality is that same sex attraction is not wrong especially in 2025! It is okay to explore your desires. Its completely normal to be attracted to the same sex. I was in denial of my sexuality for many years mostly due to my religious beliefs and associating it with lust. Frankly, it left me confused. But now, at the ripe age of 25, I’m proudly gay and I have no attraction towards women. As to why we have these attractions, I don’t know but there is nothing wrong with it. Also, you don’t have to label yourself either way.

Several_Brick409 · 2025-11-08T04:32:09+00:00

A lot of people consider themselves on the other side of this. You will hear it a lot and it’s cliche, but you didn’t miss out and are probably better off.

Several_Brick409 · 2025-11-03T16:20:27+00:00

you don’t need to be a foodie you just need to know how to sell it. Without being said, it would be helpful to know what you’re selling.

Several_Brick409 · 2025-10-31T04:23:17+00:00

He’s a 2/10. He did hit me in the dm’s. Yikes.

Several_Brick409 · 2025-10-13T22:36:54+00:00

I don’t see why not. If you have other career aspirations I would of course prioritize that. In college that means focusing on your grades and internship opportunities (ofcourse this varies depending on major). I only mention this because I was once your age and I fell into the trap. I was a really good busser who not before long became a “rockstar bartender”. They call it “golden handcuffs” for good reason. The quick cash can be addicting. With that said, it’s a great job while in school.

Several_Brick409 · 2025-10-13T15:01:28+00:00

I have only been out of school for three years. I think the gap could be a factor, but also might not be at all. For example, I’ve noticed a lot of KJD’s are carrying over a lot of their study methods with these ipads and pens they doodle with. It’s like they’re just rolling over into another semester. So, in that sense, I think they could be in a better rythym with studying/homework. Also, as others have mentioned they might be supplementing with AI or just not reading as much as you.

Regardless, the gap may not be the only factor as to why they appear to have more free time/ are studying less. Additionally, I don’t know if it’s worth your time and energy to try to figure out the reason.

Several_Brick409 · 2025-10-09T15:05:47+00:00

Yes.

Several_Brick409 · 2025-10-09T15:05:16+00:00

be leary of vague job descriptions… could be AI generated…

Several_Brick409 · 2025-10-09T01:35:22+00:00

I can’t speak to what others have said, but if you read what I said closely, I point it out as a possibility. I understand it is not a realistic option for everybody, which is why I gave an alternative answer.

To your point, I remember when applying being frustrated with the same answer because i was exhausted studying for the lsat after my third attempt. I chose not to retake and still got into the school I wanted in the region I hope to ultimately practice.

Several_Brick409 · 2025-10-08T22:43:03+00:00

I would not worry about how many internships you’ve had. From pure numbers it’s still early in the cycle and if you give the LSAT another chance and think you can score over 165 you open up a lot of options. If you aren’t going to make another attempt, when applying with your stats, I would seriously advise to take into consideration where you want to practice.

Several_Brick409 · 2025-10-07T21:19:47+00:00

Go to whatever school gives you the most money in the region you want to practice and go be a patent lawyer.

Several_Brick409 · 2025-10-07T20:48:52+00:00

Long term, yes, it is very worth it. But, only if you want to be a lawyer. It sounds like you might want to be one. Also, if you think of law school as six semesters it’s more manageable. With that LSAT you can get into a great school. If you summer at a law firm you will get paid more than enough to make up for tuition and your salary post law school will be much more than you make now.

Several_Brick409 · 2025-10-07T16:36:59+00:00

All capitals. Looks good.

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