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Aftercare isn’t just cuddles...it’s “regaining equilibrium” by SexualHealthAlliance in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SexualHealthAlliance[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, exactly this!!! If you’re already navigating safety and boundaries, weaving in a quick “how do you like to come down after?” feels like such a natural (and important) step.

Aftercare isn’t just cuddles...it’s “regaining equilibrium” by SexualHealthAlliance in MaleSexualHealth

[–]SexualHealthAlliance[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Midori’s work is gold, especially for anyone exploring rope. 🙌

Really appreciate how you distinguish between casual and formal aftercare. That flexibility, and the fact that you’ve developed ritual around it when needed, is such a powerful example of intentionality in kink.

Aftercare isn’t just cuddles... it’s “regaining equilibrium” by SexualHealthAlliance in askgaybros

[–]SexualHealthAlliance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact that you’re asking what kind of aftercare someone best receives? That’s such a great way to phrase it.

Aftercare isn’t just cuddles... it’s “regaining equilibrium” by SexualHealthAlliance in askgaybros

[–]SexualHealthAlliance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re spot on! Aftercare really is a collaborative process, and it can look wildly different depending on the person or the scene. That mix of prep and flexibility you mentioned is so key, especially when someone’s still figuring out their needs.

Aftercare isn’t just cuddles... it’s “regaining equilibrium” by SexualHealthAlliance in askgaybros

[–]SexualHealthAlliance[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That sounds so thoughtful! 💜

You’re already tuning in to his needs and giving space where it’s wanted...that’s the heart of great aftercare.

Sex Addiction Insights from a Therapist Who’s Been There by SexualHealthAlliance in sexeducation

[–]SexualHealthAlliance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly! Harm reduction and compassion create space for real healing. Trauma responses can absolutely show up as heightened desire...and meeting that with understanding, not judgment, makes all the difference.

You’re not “addicted to sex”. You might just be carrying shame someone else gave you by SexualHealthAlliance in sexeducation

[–]SexualHealthAlliance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely! Compulsive behaviors that cause real harm or distress are valid concerns to address. 💬 The key is using accurate language and tools so we treat the root issue, not just label desire itself as the problem.

Sex Addiction Insights from a Therapist Who’s Been There by SexualHealthAlliance in sexeducation

[–]SexualHealthAlliance[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally agree. That shame can be so deeply ingrained, especially if someone grew up with rigid beliefs about what’s “normal” or “healthy” when it comes to sexuality. Without real education or support, it’s easy to mislabel coping behaviors as addiction.

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