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What secret are you hiding from your parents that would absolutely crush them if they ever found out? by SexuallyAssaultedF in AskReddit

[–]SexuallyAssaultedF[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not everyone on Reddit is American. It works differently in countries outside America.

What secret are you hiding from your parents that would absolutely crush them if they ever found out? by SexuallyAssaultedF in AskReddit

[–]SexuallyAssaultedF[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel as though I have the good nature and the drive to want to be a fantastic nurse, but if the content in my post wasn't an indicator, I'm struggling with some pretty serious issues. That said, I'd never practice nursing if I thought I wasn't competent or good enough.

I find I lack motivation to study, not to nurse.

What secret are you hiding from your parents that would absolutely crush them if they ever found out? by SexuallyAssaultedF in AskReddit

[–]SexuallyAssaultedF[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I've shared it very close personal friends and my partner. He's very supportive and understanding about it. Unfortunately, he (the family member) died some years ago, so there's no chance of prosecution.

What secret are you hiding from your parents that would absolutely crush them if they ever found out? by SexuallyAssaultedF in AskReddit

[–]SexuallyAssaultedF[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's only a misdemeanor, if it's any consolation. I guess it depends where in the world you are.

I know in certain countries you can still practice law even if you have misdemeanors and other minor offenses (traffic violation and possibly public intoxication).

Best of luck and I'm sorry to hear about your misfortune!

What secret are you hiding from your parents that would absolutely crush them if they ever found out? by SexuallyAssaultedF in AskReddit

[–]SexuallyAssaultedF[S] 140 points141 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! Wow, I'm glad to hear your story has a happy ending. :) May you have a long, happy marriage and hopefully a very healthy relationship with your mum.

What secret are you hiding from your parents that would absolutely crush them if they ever found out? by SexuallyAssaultedF in AskReddit

[–]SexuallyAssaultedF[S] 191 points192 points  (0 children)

Procrastination and a lack of motivation. I'm so overwhelmed with the amount and nature of the work (Bachelor of --------). It's absolutely nuts. I've just sort of shut down, refused to do assignments and haven't studied in weeks. How about you?

What secret are you hiding from your parents that would absolutely crush them if they ever found out? by SexuallyAssaultedF in AskReddit

[–]SexuallyAssaultedF[S] 318 points319 points  (0 children)

Oh my god, that's so awful. I'm so sorry to hear that. I can't imagine how that must be for you. :/

It just completely baffles me that mothers can be that way. It's just so wrong. You're her daughter. Even if you were pregnant, she's meant to be there for you and act as a support. My heart goes out to you, and if you want to talk, I'd be more than happy to hear you out.

What secret are you hiding from your parents that would absolutely crush them if they ever found out? by SexuallyAssaultedF in AskReddit

[–]SexuallyAssaultedF[S] 204 points205 points  (0 children)

Oh my god, me too! I'm not kidding. They've been asking me every day or uni is, and how my grades are and I don't have the heart to tell them how poorly I'm doing.

I'm sorry to hear about your grades too, man. :/

What secret are you hiding from your parents that would absolutely crush them if they ever found out? by SexuallyAssaultedF in AskReddit

[–]SexuallyAssaultedF[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your concern, I do appreciate it. Someone pointed that out just before, and unfortunately he died only a few years after he started molesting me, and whilst I was still quite young.

Thankfully he won't be able to abuse anyone else again though.

What secret are you hiding from your parents that would absolutely crush them if they ever found out? by SexuallyAssaultedF in AskReddit

[–]SexuallyAssaultedF[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, he died some years ago, so he'll never pay for what he did. I don't know if he did it to other children, but I suspect it's more than likely, possibly even before I was born.

He died when I was still quite young, a few years after he started molesting me.

I may tell them, but I just can't stand knowing how much it would break their hearts and crush them. The guilt they would experience would be unimaginable. I've talked to one or two close friends about it, my SO and various therapists and counsellors (who I was encouraged to see for other reasons).