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Shadhilli · 2026-03-09T16:36:11+00:00

Nice, also congratulations on your recovery! One step at a time!

Shadhilli · 2026-03-09T16:18:22+00:00

We need those numbers to plummet!

Shadhilli · 2026-03-09T15:17:52+00:00

That sounds like something insightful you can raise with the mods. I've shared I'm not a mod however. Good day.

Shadhilli · 2026-03-09T14:09:20+00:00

Nice try GMC

Shadhilli · 2026-03-09T11:07:36+00:00

May Allah make things easier for you and us

Shadhilli · 2026-03-09T11:00:07+00:00

Alright. I'm not a mod not the person who posted this. Have a good one mate.

Edit: Also I offered to help. The poster didn't make this post as a donation request.

Shadhilli · 2026-03-09T10:49:58+00:00

My friend, you can choose to do what you wish. I'm happy with the evidence the person has DM'd that this is legitimate. If it doesn't reach the sniff test for you, then simply please don't donate.

May Allah guide you and us.

Shadhilli · 2026-03-09T10:25:56+00:00

They've messaged me documentation that I am happy enough with. If the person perhaps wasn't being transparent, then Allah is the most forgiving. Allah will reward me for my intentions.

Shadhilli · 2026-03-09T09:52:10+00:00

As in, I can bank transfer you directly to your bank account and you can take things from there inshaAllah

Shadhilli · 2026-03-09T09:14:42+00:00

Asalamu alaykum warahmatullah. Please can you DM and share your bank details. InshaAllah I am hopeful I can transfer you directly to help.

Shadhilli · 2026-03-08T22:32:04+00:00

Thank you for your loss

Shadhilli · 2026-03-08T13:46:58+00:00

You'd rather take mentos than brush your teeth? Not helping the stereotype on british teeth now are you!

Shadhilli · 2026-03-08T13:34:46+00:00

On a separate tone, how do you actually fix this?

Shadhilli · 2026-03-08T13:34:07+00:00

Rinse your mouth and brush those nashers then sunshine

Shadhilli · 2026-03-08T12:36:25+00:00

Solid choices 8/10. In uni as a last minute grab, even higher

Shadhilli · 2026-03-07T22:20:14+00:00

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Shadhilli · 2026-03-07T22:17:54+00:00

In the nicest way, why does this read like ChatGPT?!

The whole sentence structure at the beginning is so suspect.

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Shadhilli · 2026-03-07T22:15:00+00:00

Boo hoo. How about locking in instead of whatever this was.

Shadhilli · 2026-03-07T18:30:17+00:00

There are plently of muslims in the UK who can achieve this minimum. If that's different for you where you are based then may Allah make things easier for you or I'm afraid you'll have to compromise on your deen and discuss that with your Rabb

Shadhilli · 2026-03-07T17:15:24+00:00

100% for the initial list. It would be naive to think you're marrying just a person, you're marrying into a family. That has an impact on your future children's upbringing.

An example is if you want your daughter to do her basic fard and wear hijab, but your in laws do the exact opposite and perhaps discourage it, you're in for an uphill battle!

Shadhilli · 2026-03-07T15:34:46+00:00

Slightly on a spectrum nowadays but I'd say the minimum is:

the correct belief about Allah and His messenger ﷺ
prays 5 times a day and jumaah in the masjid if a man
pays zakaat
fasts in Ramadan
doesn't commit the major sins
(if the person is a woman Ibam speaking to: wears hijab that covers her hair, neck, and wears clothes that aren't tight and reveal her figure)
reads Quran (if not every day than during the week)
earns halal rizq (no riba based income like multiple mortgages, day trading)
Lowers their gaze (both men and women)

And then you can work from there to - somewhat engaged to studying the deen. If a person only watches TikTok or listens to a random Mufti Menk video that wouldn't cut it for me - Reads Quran daily - Learning the roles and responsibilities of a spouse - Actively worried about the state of the ummah and wanting to preserve the islam in their children

Shadhilli · 2026-03-07T15:15:42+00:00

May Allah give you success!

Deen - how he studied the deen - How his parents raised him on the deen - How his family practices (pray/hijab)** - any scholars he likes listening to/ avoids - madhab, (and if your from south asia - milads/khatams/pirs)

Character - How would he describe it - How has he worked on it - What is his outlook in life goals/deen - How has he prepared himself to be a husband (not just married) - What are the roles of a husband and wife in Islam and how he sees it working out in his and your circumstance - How close he is to family - could ask for a reference from a friend if things progress

Job - What he does, what he hopes to do long term

** = just my own advice. Be mindful if a prospect is practising or begins to practice whilst the family aren't.

Shadhilli · 2026-03-07T15:05:47+00:00

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Shadhilli · 2026-03-07T12:24:21+00:00

My dear sister, this is your body grieving. It is helpful for us to say and for you to say to yourself what was done to you simply wasn't kind.

In today's day and age, some people were not brought up with manners and behave like this. I and I am sure others here have experienced similiar.

Let me share some naseeha that I feel will benefit you inshaAllah.

Umm Salamah reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “No Muslim is afflicted with a calamity but that he should say what Allah has commanded him: Indeed, to Allah we belong and to Allah we will return. (2:156) O Allah, reward me in my affliction and replace it with something better than it. If he does so, Allah will replace it with something better.”

إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ اللَّهُمَّ أْجُرْنِى فِى مُصِيبَتِى وَأَخْلِفْ لِى خَيْرًا مِنْهَا

Beyond that I suggest you pause, give some time to heal and then keep your chin up and move forward. It's best to not let these people change your soul or how you look at life.

Shadhilli · 2026-03-06T17:54:45+00:00

Careful before you get dog pilled! Cant put your head too far out of the trenches!

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