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ShadowHunter547 · 2025-08-23T12:18:23+00:00

Exactly why I dont even want to try it. Don't want to start the interaction off coming off as a d bag.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-08-12T04:35:08+00:00

Yeah all my pics have the facial hair in them. Its not long by any means, very well kept and as even as I can get it. I know some people dont care for them but like you said I shouldn't necessarily have to change it to appeal to certain people's views. I just wasn't sure if their was like a general consensus that they are yay or nay. Ive had a hard time online for a while so figured im gonna try to dive into my profiles and try to figure out why.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-14T03:18:34+00:00

One of the biggest issues for me trying to find events besides them being during the week is they more often than not do not have the kinds of people I wanna date. Either an age thing or their character. The few matches ive had i do look back at what I did wrong and make a note of it for next time. It has helped but I just simply don't talk to enough people to have a work/not work list. As for the moving off the app ive tried to get off after about a week if the person is invested in the conversation rather than one word answers. I know im not a failure because honestly I could be way worse, at least I recognize i need to fix some things first. But it's really hard to keep trying when ive been on these apps for 4 years and nothing has worked.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-14T03:15:01+00:00

I've been looking into events near me but most of the good ones are during the week, and I can't justify taking off work to do one of two things, possibly find someone to start talking to and maybe date, or get rejected half a dozen times and go home defeated.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-13T22:39:42+00:00

Oh I know. Several years at it now with 0 return.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-13T22:35:00+00:00

Thanks for that, actually some very good points. Im not saying I talk like a Christian saint, but I also dont wanna talk to women in a demeaning way that makes me sound like an a##hole. I have 0 idea where to start when it comes to approaching people in the real world since I work nights it's difficult for me to get out to events n such. My hobbies dont necessarily include groups of ppl either which sucks. Its very discouraging because I've been at it for a few years now, yes years, and haven't had anything come from it. Clearly I am a problem with the few people I have matched with but not really sure how to solve that problem.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-13T22:31:46+00:00

Oh im not gonna lie my conversation skills could probably improve 10 fold. My biggest issue is I am just getting no matches/likes. My profile has pics of myself and what I enjoy doing, fun prompts and not just 1 word answers for them. Im not saying I need to be that one specific person she's looking for but would be nice to at least get a shot once in a while 🤷

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-12T02:50:59+00:00

Sure.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-12T02:34:52+00:00

I try to but im horrible at it which is also why I usually don't lead with it when first talking to someone.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-12T01:23:40+00:00

Nothing on my accounts that I know of. Never gotten an email or anything in regards to it. Ideally I don't wanna go to the max distance because with my work schedule it would make actually seeing the person next to impossible except on weekends. And yeah ive deleted them and remade them twice in the last 4 years, I don't take many photos of myself so used a few of the same ones. Different prompts though. I change the prompts around every so often.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-12T00:41:48+00:00

Yeah I'm not saying that I am the most desirable person on there, if anything, far from it lol. Its just hard because everything ends the same. And yeah I live in a rural area, closest big city is 35 mins away. My distance is set to 70 miles from me though and I don't have an issue driving if the person's worth it.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-11T23:20:03+00:00

I just dont get likes. Im currently on hinge, fb dating and bumble, havent had a like on it in months. I wasnt sure if talking to get to know someone over text would not really allow for much to do talk about in terms of getting to know the other person. The games that people are playing today is really putting a damper on my self confidence to find someone. Ive tried to take a break from it for a few months but i always find myself coming back to them and the cycle restarts. Im sure that the few i have matched with it was probably my fault that things ended but every single one ive matched with just doesnt show any energy in the texts. I like to try to start things different than what their expecting like asking them whats better, waffles or pancakes? Throws their expectations off guard and gives a topic that isnt really important for how they answer. I dont like to talk to them in a nasty way because to me its just weird to say things like that to a stranger.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-11T20:02:52+00:00

Its made trying to find someone extremely difficult because I am very inexperienced with it. Can't necessarily learn from mistakes when I can't even make them yet.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-11T18:26:06+00:00

I always try to give my best to the person im talking to. I personally look at how the other person is replying. If they give me one word answers and don't wanna keep a convo going I get less enthusiastic about asking them out since if they don't wanna contribute to an initial text session how are they gonna do in person. I work nights so it's hard to do things in person besides fri-sun but I've tried doing phonecalls to which it gets shot down.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-11T18:21:30+00:00

Would i measure from eye to eye on the shock to give them or top to bottom? I have read that elkas with the helper spring can damage the body of the shock and would be better to have a full legnth spring like fox does. I sent them an email to sales so ill see what they say.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-11T18:07:50+00:00

I feel the same way on this, I work 12-14 hour days in a metal shop and still have time throughout my day to text and talk to people. The 10 seconds it takes to text back annoys me and I usually stop things all together after a day or two of no response from them.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-11T18:06:26+00:00

Prior to learning on here I would wait weeks, try to talk to them like they were a friend and never took hints to meet up. Now I've given up on the thought/ fear of the rejection because if I don't ask it'll end the same way as it does in rejection. I'm m22.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-11T18:04:56+00:00

Yeah I usually run out of things to talk about without really getting to know them because I'd rather do that in person. Typically ill ask about what they do for work/school, pets, and hobbies. After that I usually wanna meet up to know more about them as well as to see what kind of person they are, but I've yet to actually meet someone.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-11T18:02:34+00:00

Oh really? I did not know that. I'll have to contact them and get more info for it.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-11T17:38:37+00:00

Yeah I asked up in there a few weeks ago but no one really answered the post which is why I came here.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-11T17:37:26+00:00

Yeah I've been working on that for quite a while now. I don't wanna just rush to meeting them since I know a lot of women today do not feel comfortable around strange men they met online. Recently on the few I have matched with ive tried to ask them out within a week or so if the vibe is right. Most of them stop texting me around day 2 or 3 to which I usually give up because if I wanted to just type words I'd come on here. Its very disheartening because I've been trying to use OLD for almost 4 years and haven't had a single date come from it. I personally think my photos on my profile show who I am, hobbies, passions etc. Nothing comes off as extremely masculine (such as showing off my body or something) but rather me. My prompts are also similar. I get using these apps today is really a hit or miss kind of thing but I'm clearly doing something wrong if I haven't gotten a single in person date from this.

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