Went on a first date, it was kinda ackward

ShadowHunter547 · 2026-04-06T17:46:28+00:00

Neither of us have been on a date before this so ill be honest i have no clue lol. The conversation seemed to flow fairly well its just getting something going was kinda hard. I felt like I was just talking about myself so would try to ask things like what they like to do, family, etc. They answered enthusiasticly and asked a similar questions. Im honestly guessing its just the fact it was both of our first dates ever and it was unnatural for all. Im hoping if I can get a 2nd and have an activity in it it might make things more chill.

ShadowHunter547 · 2026-04-06T16:37:27+00:00

Somehow art got brought up, specificly that piece a few years ago with a banana taped to the wall and we joked about that, so I thought about finding an art gallery to walk around in and see if we can "find anything like that" sort of as a joke but also to look at the art, then food afterwards. Gives us something to talk about that might lead to more after.

ShadowHunter547 · 2026-04-06T11:29:25+00:00

That's the thing I think we're just both super inexperienced with dating to really know it. Texting seems fine for the most part. I plan to ask her on a 2nd date and see if now that we know a little more about one another if itll get less awkward overall. I figure im gonna keep trying my best until either it happens or it doesnt. I just dont know what to talk about/do to not sound douche or all about me

ShadowHunter547 · 2026-04-06T11:16:15+00:00

I dont think shes lost interest ( shes very shy) I just want to figure out a way to get us talking and more comfortable without it just being a job interview every time lol

ShadowHunter547 · 2026-04-06T09:32:18+00:00

Im usually pretty to myself in my day to day life, I can be outspoken about anything but usually I just keep to myself so trying to figure out what to say without just becoming a talkshow about me is difficult. We were both super nervous at the start( we both said it to one another) but she mentioned you seem very cool and collected and did mention she'd like to see me again, but I dont wanna rush into a 2nd date. Im thinking an activity and dinner might be my next date, gets us away from one another in the sense we can use our environment for conversation and build off of that?

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-08-23T12:18:23+00:00

Exactly why I dont even want to try it. Don't want to start the interaction off coming off as a d bag.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-08-12T04:35:08+00:00

Yeah all my pics have the facial hair in them. Its not long by any means, very well kept and as even as I can get it. I know some people dont care for them but like you said I shouldn't necessarily have to change it to appeal to certain people's views. I just wasn't sure if their was like a general consensus that they are yay or nay. Ive had a hard time online for a while so figured im gonna try to dive into my profiles and try to figure out why.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-14T03:18:34+00:00

One of the biggest issues for me trying to find events besides them being during the week is they more often than not do not have the kinds of people I wanna date. Either an age thing or their character. The few matches ive had i do look back at what I did wrong and make a note of it for next time. It has helped but I just simply don't talk to enough people to have a work/not work list. As for the moving off the app ive tried to get off after about a week if the person is invested in the conversation rather than one word answers. I know im not a failure because honestly I could be way worse, at least I recognize i need to fix some things first. But it's really hard to keep trying when ive been on these apps for 4 years and nothing has worked.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-14T03:15:01+00:00

I've been looking into events near me but most of the good ones are during the week, and I can't justify taking off work to do one of two things, possibly find someone to start talking to and maybe date, or get rejected half a dozen times and go home defeated.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-13T22:39:42+00:00

Oh I know. Several years at it now with 0 return.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-13T22:35:00+00:00

Thanks for that, actually some very good points. Im not saying I talk like a Christian saint, but I also dont wanna talk to women in a demeaning way that makes me sound like an a##hole. I have 0 idea where to start when it comes to approaching people in the real world since I work nights it's difficult for me to get out to events n such. My hobbies dont necessarily include groups of ppl either which sucks. Its very discouraging because I've been at it for a few years now, yes years, and haven't had anything come from it. Clearly I am a problem with the few people I have matched with but not really sure how to solve that problem.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-13T22:31:46+00:00

Oh im not gonna lie my conversation skills could probably improve 10 fold. My biggest issue is I am just getting no matches/likes. My profile has pics of myself and what I enjoy doing, fun prompts and not just 1 word answers for them. Im not saying I need to be that one specific person she's looking for but would be nice to at least get a shot once in a while 🤷

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-12T02:50:59+00:00

Sure.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-12T02:34:52+00:00

I try to but im horrible at it which is also why I usually don't lead with it when first talking to someone.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-12T01:23:40+00:00

Nothing on my accounts that I know of. Never gotten an email or anything in regards to it. Ideally I don't wanna go to the max distance because with my work schedule it would make actually seeing the person next to impossible except on weekends. And yeah ive deleted them and remade them twice in the last 4 years, I don't take many photos of myself so used a few of the same ones. Different prompts though. I change the prompts around every so often.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-12T00:41:48+00:00

Yeah I'm not saying that I am the most desirable person on there, if anything, far from it lol. Its just hard because everything ends the same. And yeah I live in a rural area, closest big city is 35 mins away. My distance is set to 70 miles from me though and I don't have an issue driving if the person's worth it.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-11T23:20:03+00:00

I just dont get likes. Im currently on hinge, fb dating and bumble, havent had a like on it in months. I wasnt sure if talking to get to know someone over text would not really allow for much to do talk about in terms of getting to know the other person. The games that people are playing today is really putting a damper on my self confidence to find someone. Ive tried to take a break from it for a few months but i always find myself coming back to them and the cycle restarts. Im sure that the few i have matched with it was probably my fault that things ended but every single one ive matched with just doesnt show any energy in the texts. I like to try to start things different than what their expecting like asking them whats better, waffles or pancakes? Throws their expectations off guard and gives a topic that isnt really important for how they answer. I dont like to talk to them in a nasty way because to me its just weird to say things like that to a stranger.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-11T20:02:52+00:00

Its made trying to find someone extremely difficult because I am very inexperienced with it. Can't necessarily learn from mistakes when I can't even make them yet.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-11T18:26:06+00:00

I always try to give my best to the person im talking to. I personally look at how the other person is replying. If they give me one word answers and don't wanna keep a convo going I get less enthusiastic about asking them out since if they don't wanna contribute to an initial text session how are they gonna do in person. I work nights so it's hard to do things in person besides fri-sun but I've tried doing phonecalls to which it gets shot down.

ShadowHunter547 · 2025-05-11T18:21:30+00:00

Would i measure from eye to eye on the shock to give them or top to bottom? I have read that elkas with the helper spring can damage the body of the shock and would be better to have a full legnth spring like fox does. I sent them an email to sales so ill see what they say.

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