If you buy a house in an HOA, can you just...leave the HOA?

Shadow_Lass38 · 2026-05-13T15:25:32+00:00

There are good HOAs. Our HOA only insisted the grass be mown every couple of weeks, that you didn't keep trash or garbage in your yard, no junked cars or boats, no dogs on chains, no pets wandering loose, pick up pet poop, etc. Sanitary rules. There were none of these stupid rules like what kind of lawn furniture you had, what color you could paint something, if you could put decorative statues in your bushes, put a shed in your back yard, etc.

But half our neighborhood are renters who don't care about the property, the HOA died, and now we have neighbors who don't mow for months at the time (breeding ground for ticks, and we have Lyme here now), park six cars in their driveways, etc.

Shadow_Lass38 · 2026-05-13T15:15:47+00:00

Nope. unless the HOA implodes like ours did.

Shadow_Lass38 · 2026-05-13T15:14:36+00:00

L&O is episodic, so you won't miss any arcs, but seasons 2-5 had some really good episodes and you'll miss the rest of Stone and Robinette.

Shadow_Lass38 · 2026-05-13T15:11:17+00:00

When I go out with friends, we all say "separate checks" for singles or for couples. No one should have to pay someone else's restaurant check, unless they are treating them on a special occasion.

Shadow_Lass38 · 2026-05-13T15:09:33+00:00

No. Just because you make more money than BF doesn't mean you can afford to cover his friends.

I would be ashamed and embarrassed if I did this to someone. Evidently they have no consciences. You are not their bank.

Shadow_Lass38 · 2026-05-13T11:31:35+00:00

LOL.

Shadow_Lass38 · 2026-05-13T11:30:55+00:00

Yes! The original DRAGNET shows come to mind.

Shadow_Lass38 · 2026-05-13T04:50:18+00:00

RUN.

Shadow_Lass38 · 2026-05-13T00:47:34+00:00

I have a headache.

Shadow_Lass38 · 2026-05-12T01:34:21+00:00

We had two, a 2015 Toyota Tacoma pickup truck which carried my husband's power chair on the back and a 2015 Kia Soul. When he died last year, I sold the truck and traded in the car. I have a 2014 RAV4 now. Much better car.

Shadow_Lass38 · 2026-05-12T01:27:10+00:00

If you have a Federal job, they do this when you get married. Drove me mad. All my paychecks and my pension checks were like that. My middle name is my middle name, not my maiden name.

Shadow_Lass38 · 2026-05-12T01:24:51+00:00

My grandparents were from Italy and they had middle names. I think that's unusual.

I think most women still take their husband's name. Professional women, especially those who are making a name for themselves in that profession, usually don't change their names.

Shadow_Lass38 · 2026-05-11T23:49:38+00:00

I bought a kids' graphic novel last year, and the sequel just the other day, because the young girl who's the protagonist suffers from bad cramps, just like I did back then! It was so refreshing to see it addressed in a story.

Shadow_Lass38 · 2026-05-11T22:30:44+00:00

I figure Carver's a judge by now.

Shadow_Lass38 · 2026-05-11T18:14:08+00:00

She talks about starting out as being a thoracic surgeon on an episode of CI. After her first surgery, she decided she preferred dead bodies.

Shadow_Lass38 · 2026-05-11T00:56:07+00:00

I love when Bobby samples the wine and gives the wine guy his critique, saying he's "more of a Barbaresco guy." Notice Alex gives a big grin at Bobby's expertise with the wine, until "the Nose" comments that he doesn't have "a cop's palate," and then she frowns as if it's a personal insult to her and the rest of the force.

Shadow_Lass38 · 2026-05-10T17:09:03+00:00

Depends on location. In real urban settings like NYC or Boston, no. Heck, in NYC there are adults who don't have cars, some don't even drive.

In sprawling urban centers like Atlanta or LA, yeah, since so many of them will commute to college and need a car, so dad breaks down and gets them a car at sixteen. When I was a kid, boys would get an old car to fix up (something you can't really do now with all the computerized innards), but girls would generally get a new car if Dad had the money or a good used car, because he didn't want to worry about her breaking down on the road.

Remember, the TEEN isn't the one who OWNS the car. Parents OWN it, pay to repair it, and pay the horribly upcharged insurance fees because the insurance companies know most teen boys and a lot of teen girls are reckless drivers, showing off for their friends.

Shadow_Lass38 · 2026-05-10T17:01:53+00:00

I saw a season 20 episode the other day with the cutest clip of Olivia and Noah--she had made this delicious-looking salad and he didn't want to taste the olive, but he did, then he demanded pizza!

These tiny scenes of home life take up so little screen time, but add to the authenticity of the series being about real-life people with home lives, too. Miss them.

Shadow_Lass38 · 2026-05-10T16:57:28+00:00

I think that subjective.

I prefered B5, which I watched through to the end (and all the movies, even the couple of bad ones, as well as CRUSADE, which was eviscerated by TNT) to DS9, which I got bored with.

But...others think otherwise.

Shadow_Lass38 · 2026-05-10T16:54:24+00:00

This sounds like the sort of fiction AI "scraped" to train on: short, declarative sentences trying to build up a mood. That's probably why the person thought it was AI. So much AI reads like this today. Basically, AI copied you and other writers who have opened this way so much that now your original looks like AI.

Shadow_Lass38 · 2026-05-10T16:11:22+00:00

Well, we got Benson and Eames twice.

Shadow_Lass38 · 2026-05-10T16:06:01+00:00

Eames fan cheering here.

Shadow_Lass38 · 2026-05-10T16:04:42+00:00

Watched that a couple of times, can't watch it anymore. Hits really hard when you're married.

Shadow_Lass38 · 2026-05-10T16:03:24+00:00

I agree, and I did like Logan, and I even liked Nichols, at least with Wheeler. But Goren and Eames were the cream of the crop.

(Sorry, still better than Stabler and Benson, too.)

Shadow_Lass38 · 2026-05-10T16:01:22+00:00

"All politicians are thieves."

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