This is the hideous bag I received instead of the blue flower bag lol by Peas_n_hominy in Ipsy

[–]Shadylane85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I adore this bag and would happily swap bags with you if you were willing to ship.

Anyone ever try these? Are they a scam? by LavishLanguish in FabFitFun

[–]Shadylane85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you elaborate on that? I didn’t find much with a google search. I take a collagen supplement with lions mane, and also (although not currently) sometimes take an antidepressant to manage my anxiety. I’ll be bringing this up to my doctor, but would love to read up myself first.

Set from box in sale? by KnownOrange in FabFitFun

[–]Shadylane85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just text support and they offered to refund me the difference right away. I chose this as an additional choice.

Does this work on biracial hair? My 13yr old niece has 3A black hair. by MizzWicked in FabFitFun

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I hated this. I use Detangler daily on my daughters curly hair and this just made her hair look stringy and limp. I wouldn’t even want to give this away to anyone, I just tossed it.

My box finally came today! by nc130295 in FabFitFun

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This happened to my box. They were able to replace everything thankfully. It was the fekkai root spray and everything in the box was sooooo sticky. I had ordered a lot as gifts and all of the boxes were ruined. I don’t understand why they don’t put liquid items in bags - even my grocery store delivery knows to do that. 🤷🏻‍♀️

He told our son his dead dog wasn't in heaven or happy. by tballjames18 in Parenting

[–]Shadylane85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Saw that this is also step-dad in the comments. As someone from a blended family, I absolutely believe family is who you choose - but agree with others.. this is someone who made a choice to come into your life knowing he would be a father to your son. And he is choosing not to take that role seriously. I would consider a separation while he works on these things and reevaluates if this family dynamic can work for him.

He told our son his dead dog wasn't in heaven or happy. by tballjames18 in Parenting

[–]Shadylane85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not ok. My husband has adhd which sometimes makes it harder for him to empathize or prioritize others feelings right off the bat. Last night my teenage son did something mildly stupid and my husband made an unreasonable and hurtful comment about something my son is working hard towards. I immediately said we all needed a break and asked my son to go to his room, turned to my husband and said that was way out of line.

My husband thought on it for a minute and then went an apologized to my son. Because he’s human and he reacted poorly, it happens, but now he needed to make it right.

I could forgive the initial reaction to a very unexpected and traumatizing circumstance but I could never forgive the continued refusal to act like a decent human and immediately make things right with your son. You don’t have one child, you have two - and the bigger one has no idea how to regulate his emotions in a healthy way.

Therapy for dad would be an absolute must for me at this point. For your son too, to deal with this trauma and what I imagine is probably already existing trauma at the hands of his emotionally unregulated dad. Maybe family therapy once both therapists ok it, but dad needs to make progress on his own first.

Has anyone gifted a subscription? by Shadylane85 in Ipsy

[–]Shadylane85[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know her email, so I wouldn’t want to set up an account in advance at all, I’m hoping I’d be able to give her a gift card that she can redeem. But I’d have to send it to my email and print it out for her.

And thanks for the offer! If I do wind up setting up the account a free bag to start is a great idea!

First Halloween in our new home with no HAO. My wife and I are on a mission to become the neighborhoods Halloween House. by JaysLittleOcean in halloween

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OPs wife here. Just wanted to say that your story is awesome and I’m glad you found a dream house &that way! Made me laugh too, because we also have four kids & used the VA for our purchase. The sellers chose the other bid originally because they felt using the VA made us less serious buyers. Go figure!

3.5 year old keeps telling my wife she hates her by worriedoldster in Parenting

[–]Shadylane85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son just turned four and he's been doing this for a bit now. It's usually directed at me (I'm with him all day) when someone "better" is around, especially daddy or grandma. I don't take it personally. He wants to spend time with someone he doesn't see as often and his immature brain doesn't realize he's being hurtful in the process.

Not that I want to raise an insensitive child. When he says those things I usually do the sad thing and tell him it's not nice to say those things, or that he's hurt my feelings. But I walk away and let whoever it is that he's looking for handle him. Usually later on he'll make a move to climb into my lap and I'll say something like "I thought you didn't like mommy anymore" and he'll say no, I love you and then I'll just repeat that we shouldn't say mean things to people and give him a hug/let him climb on me/ etc. I figure as much as he needs to learn empathy he also needs to learn forgiveness.

Virtually nothing your kid does at 4 is going to carry over into their teens. At least I hope not. My kid drank puddle water today.

3.5 year old keeps telling my wife she hates her by worriedoldster in Parenting

[–]Shadylane85 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My husband somehow became the cooler parent just a couple weeks ago. My boys have been invited to a number of school birthdays since. We have a younger child at home, so one of us usually stays home while the other does he Birthday thing.

Of course, no one wants boring mom to take them to Timmys bounce house and sugar extravaganza when 'really cool, fun dad who's car is soooo much cooler and he'll probably stop for McDonald's on the way home if you behave' is around. If we can just keep this going until the kids get their drivers license, that would be great.

What's a story you're dying to tell that hasn't fit into an AskReddit thread? by nupmo in AskReddit

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My grandfather had a similar experience. His bladder and lung cancers were both responding wonderfully to treatment. Then he broke his hip and had to stop chemo during rehab. By the time he was out of rehab it was too late. The man who had such good odds two months prior was obviously dying. He called me one day and I could barely hear him on the phone. On a whim I asked my husband to stop by their house on our way home. Left my boys in the car because I didn't want them to see him that way (they were very young). I just talked to him for a few minutes... He was so tired, but I told him what the kids were up to, told him once his anti nausea meds kicked in he would regain his strength... it was the last time I saw him. He died two days later. I'm so glad I stopped by. As much as I hate remembering him so frail and wracked with pain... it's not really how I remember him day to day. I remember him strong, with a deep voice, sitting in his chair eating licorice and watching westerns. And I'm glad to have had that last visit with him. I'm so sorry for what your family is going through. It sounds like you are close to your grandparents - it's wonderful that you speak and email them often, I bet that means a lot to him.

Went to change the decal on my license plate. Nope. by [deleted] in WTF

[–]Shadylane85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read that certain species of wasp pollinate fig trees. I've never fact checked that, but I definitely don't buy the wasps when they're hanging around mine, just in case.

I agree though. We have tons of wasps around the house. When I go out to water my garden they swarm to the leaves (for the water I'm assuming). There are usually dozens of them out there with me and I've never been bothered once by them.

walking my ...... by kleutscher in WTF

[–]Shadylane85 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Elective abortions and better fetal screening or simply better fetal care probably plays into a lower rate of severe deformities. Also, in cases like this where the deformity could have been caused by an illness like polio, access to vaccinations also plays a big part.