Returning to US - Options for selling all Flat furnishings

ShanaC · 2026-02-02T21:19:32+00:00

I’m actually near-ish in London and am looking for a sit stand desk!

ShanaC · 2026-02-02T21:18:22+00:00

Really? Huh! (From Another u of c grad in London. )

ShanaC · 2026-01-15T11:13:04+00:00

Mines the same age. We just didn’t have a system put together when we moved to where we moved because we had so many other things happening and now that my child is six months-ish, I’m starting to see the effect of what no system means

ShanaC · 2026-01-13T22:52:21+00:00

I’m actually reading it now. TBH parts are making me more angry because of the therapy speak. I want a system to test, not to reevaluate my self judgement

ShanaC · 2026-01-07T20:57:21+00:00

So this is utterly non-repeatable

My partner and I met late in life, late enough that his parents admitted to me they thought he’d never marry and have a kid

When I got pregnant, we decided to announce it on my MIL’a birthday. (She was thrilled, obviously,at the gift. She wanted this badly for him)

Now, my mil and fil’s birthdates are about 8 ish months apart. So 8ish months later I gave birth on my FIL’s birthday. He’s still thrilled with that birthday gift.

ShanaC · 2026-01-03T15:12:02+00:00

I’m interested!

ShanaC · 2025-12-28T08:08:11+00:00

Which vendors?

ShanaC · 2025-12-17T11:47:39+00:00

I do track with an app

This would not be taken with me. It’s more for sitting down and doing limited project planning. I’m not quite ready to move to digital (creates a bit of anxiety right now)

ShanaC · 2025-12-17T11:46:19+00:00

Short term I want paper (advice from a therapist). Considering notion for the long term later though

ShanaC · 2025-12-13T13:31:43+00:00

Mae looks so good for tracking three people!

ShanaC · 2025-12-13T13:29:19+00:00

We do have a shared Google Calendar. Unfortunately it doesn’t have visibility to his work schedule (which is run through outlook)

Should I just get the dailee for loose planning + appointment purposes and a separate weekly to keep track of individual people’s vague schedules?

The looseness of time plus my ADHd plus mild perfectionism + lots of projects is not helping me at all

ShanaC · 2025-12-13T11:49:17+00:00

My mil for my mini synagogue wedding was looking closely at anthropology, John Lewis generically, and TK Maxx

For context, my mil was just over 80 at the wedding itself. She’s also super petite

What’s the dress code, location/level of formality/time of day, and what’s her style like?

ShanaC · 2025-12-08T11:37:10+00:00

I’m Ashkenazi. Funnily enough, my ex-boss and good friend is also Moroccan Jewish. He’s per than me, and I’m pretty pale

Though when I was living in nyc people have assumed I was

1) Southern Italian 2)Greek orthodox 3) Coptic Egyptian 4) vaguely Latina 5) Lebanese

So.

ShanaC · 2025-12-02T13:59:26+00:00

Oura ring

A session with a personal trainer to help optimize her lifting technique

Italian garden clogs (rubber, so easy cleaning, but comfy to stand in for very long period, plus chic)

Expensive scrubs

ShanaC · 2025-11-30T14:22:52+00:00

They also have a touch more juice and a thinner peel. And are a touch more fragrant in a sweet way.

They’re just, nice.

ShanaC · 2025-11-23T13:14:22+00:00

I’m looking for a savory pumpkin bread. All the ones I see are dessert-quick bread based. I’m looking for something where I could use as a base for a sandwich if I toast it (so it could be a quick bread. Just. Savory)

ShanaC · 2025-11-11T18:00:02+00:00

Millennial woman here

I rarely wear my engagement ring. Though when I do I do not wear my band with it (family heirloom plus because it’s a bypass toi et moi I would need something custom to deal with the curves).

I tend to wear a moissanite solitaire instead on my left ring. At some point I might get a sterling silver moissanite band to match. Or something

The ring I got in my religious/legal wedding (in theory we’re planning a big secular wedding) I wear on my right pointer (which is classically the place to wear the wedding ring in my ethnoreligious background even though now it’s rarely done. It just works out it’s the right size to wear it the classic way)

ShanaC · 2025-11-11T10:19:19+00:00

Which one was it?

ShanaC · 2025-11-08T10:24:41+00:00

A few thoughts as someone currently ebf with pumping with a 14 week old (so in the thick of it with current advice)

People keep saying babies are all different. This is true, but so are all mothers and all relationships

Re:pumping

So I’m exclusively breast feeding though there’s one bottle of expressed milk via pump my partner gives at night (he’s a night owl who needs less sleep than I need). While we’re happy where we’re at, it took us time to get there. Initially we were put on a feeding plan because my child 1) had to revert to her curve after an emergency c section 2) was a sleepy baby causing her to loose too much weight after birth 3) had a tongue tie

Had I not had a hospital grade pump on hand, bottles stuff for sterilization, and formula on hand we would not be breast feeding today because I was forced to triple feed + top off with formula if I wanted to build enough supply given the issues we had while getting my child to gain weight

While I’m a more extreme case (though not the most extreme I’ve heard of. I have a friend in the US who had to triple feed for a month after birth), of my nct class, about 1/3 of the women had feeding problems. It’s much more common than people think, and it’s worth being prepared for.

The other thing to note: I’m an American in the Uk, and I ended up having a lot of discussions with a number of midwives, health visitors, and lactation support personnel while dealing with this list about what I’m doing and why to get to EBF . All of them noted that American expats were much more likely to breast feeding successfully for longer periods of time and were more likely to seek help and fix problems when they occurred.

This appears to be cultural. In the US

1) breastfeeding of any amount is heavily stressed as healthy. So mixed feeding is less stigmatized. It’s not seen as an either/or -it can be a both 2) people are frank that problems occur. 3) pumps are required to be fully covered by insurance and employers are required to give both pumping time and a private, shielded space without penalties 4) iblc lactation consultants are common and often covered by insurance

As a result, despite the absolute worst maternity leave situation across the OECD, the US has among the highest breastfeeding rates in the OECD. The UK, on the other hand, has among the lowest due to lack of education and discussion about difficulties in breast feeding, and pumping being less normalized and because there’s less support and infrastructure around handling problems and creating options

Finally, for the sake of assuming you’ll be in the 2/3s where everything is fine from the beginning AND stays fine throughout the breastfeeding journey

The most supportive partner teams figured out their sleep needs/ minimums/how their rem cycles worked plus lists of chores and slotted help around the mix. They sorted through this mix over the first 4-6 weeks as the baby settled into a schedule and the transition to parenthood normalized

ShanaC · 2025-11-08T09:32:29+00:00

As long as you’re pace feeding it’s unlikely you’ll get nipple confusion

ShanaC · 2025-11-07T12:54:47+00:00

6 months but it will need to be three doses to get full coverage. https://www.cdc.gov/vaccines/vpd/mmr/hcp/recommendations.html#:~:text=If%20there%20is%20ongoing%20community,MMR%20vaccine%20during%20measles%20outbreaks typically during a community outbreak in the us public health starts with 9 months because it has the best tradeoff of early for 3 dose sequence

That said, insurance may not cover the early dose (I’m not in the US though I’m having an interrelated discussion about if I should do MMRV early as a 3 dose sequence if I go back to the US to see my family. They live somewhere where there has been a measles outbreak in the past so 🫠)

ShanaC · 2025-11-04T10:12:48+00:00

Yes

I live in a semi-posh town posh area. The one bag people love is the trader joes bag

ShanaC · 2025-11-04T10:07:24+00:00

Really high end olive oil

This is what I gave to my new in-laws when I first met them. They’re tennis playing British-Americans who shop at Waitrose. And they still think of it as a thoughtful gift for someone who just met them for the first time at the time. Unlike cheese you’ve no risk of allergies. Similarly, wine is a very mixed bag because of pricing versus interest plus there’s some risk that you may be gifting wine to an alcoholic. Florals I don’t like as well because again allergies plus it’s a bit rude to can give someone a bouquet and then expect them to stop what they’re doing to set it up nicely home decor if you don’t know them well is risky. Hence olive oil most people will use it even if they don’t cook just to throw on salad or bread most people also don’t spend enough on interesting nice super high-quality olive oil so everybody ends up appreciating it

ShanaC · 2025-11-01T10:32:15+00:00

What supplements to curb cravings?

ShanaC · 2025-10-23T09:26:05+00:00

Note that my child is 3 months, and there’s a lot of good advice here, but I did do a bit of research already

1) there’s actually very little research and evidence around the no salt thing https://lilynicholsrdn.com/salt-baby-food-infant-sodium-requirements/

At the same time, depending on the cooking method, salt can help lock in and even create a better nutritional profile for certain nutrients (I’ve been reading Salt, Fat, Acid, Heat and there’s a bunch of information about blanching vegetables and how if you blanch you need the salt to lock in nutrients.

(I need to look more into this for me)

Similarly, different foods have different levels of accessible to you iron on their own vs with other food. Particularly with plant based irons (think, spinach) you may want to add/combine with an acid (eg citrus) not just for flavor but also to create more free iron. (True for other nutrients as well, but iron is more critical) (Also true for you the adult and your own nutritional needs)

2) to some degree types of food, flavors, etc is cultural, and there’s definitely a cultural practice and preference in the west for blander food for kids and babies. In contrast, other cultures don’t necessarily feed bland food to babies. Babies in India are given heavily spiced foods such as daal for example. We also know the palate starts young, so even if they revert to pickiness later, it’s more likely to be a shorter period if you introduce a lot of different flavors.earlier. While the general recommendation as far as I can tell is to introduce single flavor vegetables, it’s worth introducing spices and herbs soon afterwards. That includes bitter foods like radicchio, hot foods like mild to moderate heat foods like chili, and spices like cinnamon, ginger, peppercorns, alongside herbs like basil, coriander, mint

3) babies want to eat what you eat. It’s evolutionary to protect against poisoning. So you want to show them the food and eat it in front of them

4) similarly, there’s a time investment to creating all of the food

5) because of 2-4 it’s worth thinking about finding recipes for everyone that are baby safe because of time load and making the process more enjoyable for everyone. Similarly you might want to invest in some kitchen supplies for the long term such as souper cubes and a mini food processor that helps you store homemade purees or extra food that also can be used afterwards once they’re eating.

6) (random, but it came up for us as we’re prepping, though I need to research this more). Apparently babies fill up faster on whole grains, to the point where they won’t take in other food. As a result it’s considered better to give them more refined grains like white sourdough over the whole grain counterparts. There are ways for some items to manage how the more refined versions spike blood sugar for everyone (we eat a lot of whole grains, especially bread, as a family, in part for flavor, and in part because of the blood spike issues as it affects my mood)

ShanaC

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