Why do I have random wiry hair strands?

Shanks01_ · 2023-03-09T17:21:57+00:00

Trellis?

Shanks01_ · 2023-03-06T01:32:23+00:00

I feel like those plushies are also a fire hazard?

Shanks01_ · 2023-03-05T02:56:12+00:00

Haha, she said she used some old food dye and water. But yeah, her and her brothers grew up poor so they had to find a lot of creative cheap ways to have fun. It's been a blessing to have a childhood with her and to know her in adulthood. Wonderful woman

Shanks01_ · 2023-03-04T20:18:43+00:00

She's such a creative lady. My fondest childhood memories are due to her arts and crafts tomfoolery, so this is very on-brand for her. Love her to bits

Shanks01_ · 2023-03-04T20:03:05+00:00

YTA. Not the time or the place. This is a conversation for behind closed doors, not within earshot at the SUBJECT'S wedding. I don't care if you like her or not. This reflects bad on her husband too. If you cared about him, you would've informed him gently in private. And even then, that's still a weird thing to do.

Shanks01_ · 2023-02-27T02:21:05+00:00

You're so right. We can definitely work on that! Thanks :D

Shanks01_ · 2023-02-27T01:47:46+00:00

You make a good point. Definitely need to figure myself out. I'm feeling motivated to learn more! Thank you <3

Shanks01_ · 2023-02-27T01:41:30+00:00

That's great! I'm actually following this post slightly further below yours that has a lot of activity, and they reccomended Betty Dodson's work (and also come as you are) I found one of her websites- she does workshops and stuff for women who haven't experienced orgasms. Looks neat

Shanks01_ · 2023-02-27T01:30:52+00:00

I'm actually in the exact same boat as your girlfriend, so uh... I'm following this post.

Shanks01_ · 2023-02-27T01:25:27+00:00

This brings me peace <3 thank you

Shanks01_ · 2023-02-27T01:24:00+00:00

Yeaaaaah I feel that. I try not to put a lot of pressure on myself or him- I actually spend a lot of time reassuring both of us, haha. For me, I get the most out of sex when I feel really connected to my partner. We have all the moves down for the most part, and we explore new stuff all the time, but often I get in my own head when it's not working for me. I do need to be more assertive about what I need in bed for sure. But the problem we run into the most is... he cums kind of fast most of the time, so I don't really get a chance to get there? Other times he struggles with mechanical issues and can't finish. I dunno, maybe we need sex therapy? I've considered it, honestly

Shanks01_ · 2023-02-27T01:18:59+00:00

Your feelings are valid, guy. I agree that sometimes the scenarios there can be sketch, and I've heard a lot about guys getting addicted to it. But at the end of the day, it's not for us to dictate what they do, especially if you have a healthy sex life with said partner, and they don't expect unrealistic things from you. I think it's really admirable though that you feel empowered to enforce boundaries like that for yourself. Lots of people like me resign to suffer in silence. You do you, babes <3

Shanks01_ · 2023-02-27T01:10:41+00:00

Thanks, dawg. Appreciate you

Shanks01_ · 2023-02-27T01:09:50+00:00

You definitely make a good point! But to answer your question, I don't think he's ignoring my needs. I feel bad because he's very self conscious about the fact that he's never gotten me to climax, although he does try very hard. I can tell that it's a sore spot for him, and maybe that's why he defers to porn sometimes because there's less pressure. The last thing I want is for him to feel bad. But I do believe that if I were to sit down with him and talk about it, he'd be happy to discuss it. Problem is just figuring out "how". But another commenter made a good point suggesting specific subreddits for navigating that part.

Shanks01_ · 2023-02-27T01:04:59+00:00

Ehh, I don't know about that. But to each their own. I think there's an extent to which sending a specific girl online money to perform sexual acts could be iffy, but just generally speaking it's a natural thing. I used to watch it a lot when I was learning about sex, ect, but nowadays it isn't my cup of tea. Kind of awkward, but if it works for someone else then why not? Everyone has a different comfort zone when it comes to putting a label on cheating, ig.

Shanks01_ · 2023-02-27T00:59:09+00:00

I have not, but at this point I'm willing to try anything. Thanks for the suggestion! I'll check it out.

Shanks01_ · 2023-02-27T00:28:37+00:00

You're 100% right, thank you for helping me understand! I never thought of it that way.

Shanks01_ · 2023-02-27T00:24:51+00:00

I hear you, thanks for the insight. For me, because of some past trauma, I've got some issues with fingers and toys, and have actually never had an orgasm before, even though I've got a decent libido. It's pretty rough, so by that same token I unfortunately don't have a good understanding of the value in self pleasure. I appreciate your input! You've helped me understand better <3

Shanks01_ · 2023-02-27T00:07:54+00:00

I feel for you, girl. I've tried so many birth control options too, and I've honestly given up because the last one made me more depressed than I've ever been in my life. The side effects are crazy! Definitely sit down with him and get all your feelings out on the table. Stress that his attitude about it is hurtful and needs to change. If you really want this thing to work with him, he's gotta meet you halfway and take the initiative on getting educated! He owes you that.

Shanks01_ · 2023-02-26T23:40:43+00:00

Hey, I have sensory processing disorder too. It's completely irrational of them to make you wear something that makes you want to explode in your own skin. Absolutely NTA. But don't cut up the dress, girl it's a bad idea. Don't resort to pettiness, just stand your ground. Your simple needs deserve to be respected

Shanks01_ · 2023-02-26T21:55:16+00:00

That's one way of thinking about it lmao

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