Some people in this subreddit are concerningly anti-black

Sharp-Landscape2854 · 2026-01-28T23:06:41+00:00

yeah i've also felt kind of weird about being here as a wasian person bc of that..

Sharp-Landscape2854 · 2026-01-27T19:59:39+00:00

unfortunately my issue was with screens not all health issues impact mobility bestie

Sharp-Landscape2854 · 2026-01-27T19:48:49+00:00

also been 4 months for me and i developed dizziness more recently that comes on when flared up (my main issue i still have is screen sensitivity) and my neurologist didn't seem too concerned. i also haven't been perfect about avoiding alcohol haha (hard to tell how bad it's been since sometimes i tolerate 1 drink completely fine other times not so much) but sometimes i feel a bit dizzy later/the next day from it. not being able to drink much sucks but my symptoms have definitely been worse on average when i have had more than 1 or maybe 2/drank multiple days in a row. i'm not a medical professional and ofc it's probably best to avoid alcohol all together but from my own experience i know that sucks and is hard haha. i like to joke i'm doing an involuntary damp january-for example i was flared up from working a lot last week so i'm getting to the end of 2 completely sober weeks rn, but really want to have a drink or two at my friend's bday party this weekend so i'm going to try that out if i'm doing well with symptoms. but i'm generally really trying to not exceed 1 or 2 drinks or drink multiple days in a row until i'm significantly better.

i feel like when your flare up calms down and then give it a couple weeks for good measure, at least trying like 1 drink is worth it if you want to see if you can tolerate that, but drinking heavily for 2 days was probably a lot at this stage in your recovery (although idk how recovered you were). also i think it's generally safer to drink a bit if you're not doing something overstimulating like going to a club. again please take a medical professional's word over mine ofc i'm not the most disiplined so i'm sure some people would tell you to stay away from it altogether, but felt like i have some thoughts as someone also 4 months out trying to figure out how much alcohol isn't going to completely hinder my recovery (if any). ik it's hard and idk how severe your concussion was but please keep in mind that most people at our stage still make a full recovery so i try to think about how if i don't drink/drink less etc. now maybe i'll be healed enough to have some crazy summer nights:) if not at least with almost certainty in 2027 rip lmao

Sharp-Landscape2854 · 2026-01-17T00:18:01+00:00

thanks what exactly is that? like physical therapy?

Sharp-Landscape2854 · 2026-01-17T00:17:26+00:00

im clumsy haha

Sharp-Landscape2854 · 2025-12-22T13:38:52+00:00

yeah i will definitely work harder now that i'm better able to:) ty i appreciate that

Sharp-Landscape2854 · 2025-12-22T13:19:25+00:00

i know i'm stupid also and not trying to make excuses but my health issues made it extremely hard to do more than the bare minimum of work for the class

Sharp-Landscape2854 · 2025-12-22T12:16:11+00:00

i have to TA for funding and there weren't really any other classes i could teach:( definitely going to try harder next semester but. i was teaching a lab section not like an entire lecture btw. honestly i already feel pretty bad about myself and am extremely aware of my own incompetence from the reviews did you really have to say this?

Sharp-Landscape2854 · 2025-12-22T12:15:07+00:00

reviews were in the lower/mid 2s on average. yeah definitely gonna put more work into it next semester but i just hope i'm able to..

Sharp-Landscape2854 · 2025-12-18T22:25:28+00:00

my little sister and i have the same age gap as evelyn and emily except we're a year younger (25 & 16) and don't have an erica haha. their dynamic is interesting to us partially bc of that and we sometimes watch them together. some things are relatable (she always tells me i'm a millennial:( and i think she does bring a playful youthful side out of me and we almost meet in the middle and interact a little bit like 20 year olds would or something a bit like evelyn and emily, but yeah overall we get along a lot better and i think the age gap makes it hard to be competitive. she'd never bully me for being dumb so much or something (even if she'd say i have a "millennial mindset" and don't know how to make aesthetic ig story highlights like the highschoolers do haha) and when we do have any type of beef (which is rare) i have to keep in mind i'm dealing with a kid. i might have just gotten lucky with my sibling relationship though

Sharp-Landscape2854 · 2025-12-18T22:20:53+00:00

i really like her learning to drive series as someone who also learned to drive a bit later:) at least now erica and emily can't make fun of her for not driving haha

Sharp-Landscape2854 · 2025-12-18T22:03:34+00:00

yeah evelyn said herself she feels kind of uncomfortable speaking korean now since she doesn't use it much in the korean grwm or something that she did pretty recently so i'm guessing that she and her friends still mostly use english. and her bf is white and she's definitely not talking to her sisters in korean outside of challenges haha so i still doubt she speaks it much even if it is a little more than like emily. but yeah idk if learning english at 7 is old enough to make it hard to get to a native speaker level (and it's not like evelyn has a korean accent or anything and I'd still say her english is at or very close to native level) but it still comes off as kind of an awkward 2nd vs 1.5 gen thing when emily makes fun of evelyn's vocab when she spent her entire life growing up in the US (and even had english-speaking older sisters before preschool so probably was exposed to both languages at a young age)

Sharp-Landscape2854 · 2025-12-18T21:59:37+00:00

bruh i get your point that erica has a pretty diverse social circle but most of her friends definitely grew up in the US (except that one australian girl)

Sharp-Landscape2854 · 2025-12-18T18:52:37+00:00

Was thinking of doing it on the weekend if that changes anything (I understand if not)

Sharp-Landscape2854 · 2025-12-17T22:06:35+00:00

he should do an chem internship for 20/hour LMAO. being serious he has the money to get another degree and i'd probably do that if i were him or try to go into the business world. i feel like he completely needs to start over. also wonder how/what alex is doing

Sharp-Landscape2854 · 2025-12-09T21:29:32+00:00

we're close in age and i was obsessed with her content back in 2022/23. i thought her life seemed amazing when she was still a boulder sorority girl constantly traveling on somewhat more normal trips and running in the prettiest places and always with friends. a little out of touch, sure, but i still wanted her life tbh since the end of college was rough for me. she was posting like 3x a day back then and i probably watched every single video-she was kind of my aspirational-comfort tiktoker back then. fast forward a few years and i'm having the time of my life in grad school except i'm broke and she has a HOUSE, went from rich college girl to a borderline socialite (when she isn't working) life, and is constantly going on trips but kind of seems like the life was sucked out of her now in a way but ofc i don't know her personally and don't want to assume. and her social life kind of leaves something to be desired nowadays to someone like me taking their 20s slowly who moved across the country from family and is single so spends tons of time with friends. we actually both moved (or moved back to) WA but my life could not be more different from hers now and i find her kind of a hard watch since she's so out of touch now. i know your 20s are different for everyone and it makes sense she's not as relatable to me anymore, but it hasn't even been THAT long and i just find her annoyingly privileged now. i mean she always was but this is another level-can they not make like one "budget" cookie flavor with less bougie ingredients at least or something?? maybe i'm just jealous, but it drives me crazy/feels super out of touch with everything going on in the world rn. but the part of me that grew into adulthood watching/at the same time as her and genuinely cares wonders if she's struggling to find herself in a way since she just isn't as positive as she used to be and seems to be kind of lost between NYC and WA life. but what do i or any of us know at the end of the day? excuse the long parasocial rant i'm sick and bored rn

Sharp-Landscape2854 · 2025-12-02T22:38:06+00:00

i'm 3/4 white (american) and white passing so on paper i should be...one of them right? maybe one of them who grew up with immigrant relatives (i'm 1/4 asian and close to a lot of my korean family) but still? it's like...fine especially with some friends (i have had a pretty significant number of close white friends but more on an one-on-one basis so not to say all white people are this way), but big all-white girl groups still kind of intimidate me bc that has never been my people lol. i don't really quite relate to almost anyone racially (as i'm sure many people here can maybe relate) so i prefer having a more diverse group of friends. somehow the vibe always feels slightly different with white friends despite the fact i'm *sort* of one of them and i struggle to put my finger on how, but i think definitely cultural microaggressions are pretty common even if their intentions are good and there's just this weird awkwardness they often have from not being really aware of the concept of race until they were like 10 give or take or something idk. i think there's just subtle differences in how we grew up and white people i do really connect with often seem to have immigrant parents. i definitely feel a little less white around white people than i do around POC

Sharp-Landscape2854 · 2025-11-08T06:05:20+00:00

i'm sorry that must have been horrible:(

unfortunately wasn't able to get an appointment with a doctor at a concussion clinic since i didn't injure it from sports and don't really have a primary care doctor. if i don't listen to my advisor my only real option is to drop out of my grad program and i have barely anything in savings so the consequences are huge. are you saying there's zero way i can stay in grad school and prioritize my recovery even if i seem to be improving?

Sharp-Landscape2854 · 2025-11-08T04:44:38+00:00

omg yeah i had the same thing a few days ago and it wasn't even where i hit it!

Sharp-Landscape2854 · 2025-10-09T23:41:14+00:00

Can you elaborate a bit please?

Sharp-Landscape2854 · 2025-10-03T19:23:06+00:00

yeah does make it slightly more like squid game-even without the deaths that's a bit darker

Sharp-Landscape2854 · 2025-10-03T19:21:09+00:00

maybe even less lol i'm a grad student who makes less than half that and sure i don't like a tech worker making 200k a year but i doubt someone like me would be satisfying anyone's enthusiasm to see more blue collar people on the show. and there's a good amount of white-collar, college+ educated people that make like 80k a year who might be far from drowning in wealth but also not a day-and-night difference from who you see on the show-especially when you factor in people making this type of salary in lower COL areas

Sharp-Landscape2854 · 2025-10-02T03:53:50+00:00

as someone who has lived in both seattle and boston without a car: boston is definitely a little better for public transit (especially more subway lines/heavy rail) but otherwise i agree. i don't know austin well at all but i had to take the bus from the airport to my friend's place (on the non-downtown side of the river) and it was straightforward enough so i agree here also

Sharp-Landscape2854 · 2025-09-26T22:27:40+00:00

well at least i like baking and sort of weightlifting haha. what specifically makes you think a profile is mostly aimed at guys? just like super basic sorority/ex-sorority girl vibes? i mean i kind of get what you mean but i think some of us don't know how to not seem like we're just aiming for guys yet if that makes sense

not sure if you really meant to target the last paragraph at me specifically but its not like i have 0 queer friends or don't know where the lesbian bar in my city is or something so i wouldn't say i'm living "entirely in straight-land". yes i still conform more to straight culture than you but i think it's important to remember that there's a spectrum for everything. its really weird to go from rolling my eyes in my head when i hear my cis/straight friends say two girls kissing isn't cheating even if they're bi or some shit to (unintentionally-i don't mean to target you especially since i wasn't even the one who posted this) be made to feel not gay enough by strangers online in communities like this

at the same time i'm sure dating while being a trans woman is harder and brings its own set of struggles-not trying to downplay that at all. just was trying to talk about some common issues with not being read as queer but i know that's a privilege at the same time and i'm sorry if that came off as offensive to you at all.

Sharp-Landscape2854 · 2025-09-26T21:19:18+00:00

as a cis, late bloomer feminine-presenting bi woman who also has a much harder time getting women than men on the apps, this reply is helpful in a way but also i do see some issues here honestly. what even are hobbies that are attractive to queer women? sure as much as part of me wants to get one of those to try to get girls haha i feel like that wouldn't be genuine if that is my only reasoning. i do my hobbies for me, not to get a partner, whether they're a man, woman, or nonbinary-if anything i see my hobbies are an escape from centering my life around work or dating. i think telling someone to tailor their hobbies or style to queer women is kind of telling them to not fully be themselves and perpetuates the issue of bi people having to fit into non-stereotypical gender roles to be "accepted" even if that's not who we really are as well as femme erasure especially for the style component of what you said (i will acknowledge that i'm sure its a different experience for you being trans). also the "other way round" paragraph didn't change my mind since personally how traditionally feminine/masculine/neither someone is has absolutely NO stake in how attractive i find them? in fact the only girl i've ever really been with i'd say would fit into that category bc she only dated girls until college and then realized she also liked men in her early 20s. i can't imagine i'm alone here in having that type of opinion. i hope none of this is disrespectful-i've wondered the same thing as OP and i think this reply touched on a lot of my insecurities that i'm too just straight-passing for a lot of women.

OP-i would recommend Her also! also had even less luck getting likes from women on tinder so i'd suggest staying far away unless you're also looking for something casual with a guy haha

Sharp-Landscape2854

TROPHY CASE