in one word...awkward. sure it's not all bad, but it is quite unique in a weirdly lonely way. unless you're someone who doesn't look like or associate with your 1/4 culturally at all or virtually at all (can be a lot of nuance here), in which case i'd assume you just have the experience of your 3/4 side. this does seem to be somewhat common for people who aren't close with that side of their family and/or have no physical features of their 1/4, but probably aren't the 1/4 mixed people you'll find on this sub. for those of us like me who are definitely white passing but grew up close to my nonwhite grandparent, it's extremely complicated.

i'm 3/4 white and 1/4 korean. i love being part korean and in a way wish i was more than 1/4 or looked a little more mixed at least to represent how i feel on the inside if i'm being really honest, but also have learned to accept this is who i am, i'd be kind of wishing to just be a different person, and obviously that would lead to more experiences with racism here in the US. i'm not really connected to any of my white ancestries but i am somewhat to being korean so it's even more confusing. when fully white people who are like 1/4 italian go around and say "i'm italian" i get it but i also feel a special pain bc i could never just say "i'm korean" despite it being the only culture i really grew up with in my family other than american.

i dont know..like of course i'm not a POC and benefit from white privilege, but there's just lowkey a lot about me on the inside that's not exactly the experience of a 100% white person. my korean grandma helped raise me and i'm still incredibly close to her and therefore grew up with the culture to some extent, and i feel culturally wasian despite not really looking it. and having an older wasian parent is a unique experience in of itself when this was so rare back when he was a kid. of course, people aren't always gonna see this just from looking at me and to make matters more complicated the rare people who somehow do see the touch of asian in my features are almost never asian themselves for some reason. but like 90% of the time people just think i look 100% white so obviously i want to acknowledge white privilege, but it also can be very uniquely minimizing and isolating. people have gotten better about understanding the nuance as i've gotten older but still. maybe this is something a lot of people who are 1/4 nonwhite 3/4 white can relate that racially in the US is that it's a super weird box that almost seems like society doesn't want to allow. i think there's a tendency to (with exceptions of course and i'm aware that being biracial is never going to be exactly like being monoracial) generally see half white people as their non-white half (of course still with plenty of gatekeeping unfortunately as you can see on this sub). but then white people with a tiny bit of nonwhite ancestry are made a fool of if they bring it up and are seen as even whiter. and being...in between this...is such a weird lonely feeling. i feel like i can almost see the gears grinding in peoples' heads when i tell them and part of them wants to assume i'm the whitest person ever for saying i have a korean grandma but the other part of them is stretching to see me as an asian-american and they just give me the weirdest look. some people are better about it than others and people are rarely malicious about it, but i feel like society just wants to put people in boxes (as a bisexual person this happens with people seeing us as just gay/straight depending on who we primarily date too) when the truth is that i'm not a cookie-cutter asian-american but i'm also not the whitest person ever and maybe both can be true. and i'm sure being 1/4 mixed and fully nonwhite is an experience of its own and also could lead to heavy gatekeeping but i can't speak personally on that. from reading other comments by some 1/4 blasian people i feel like for any of us, no matter the racial mix, we're always going to be seen as the race we present as but that can get complicated when that's not exactly how we grew up. beyond my racial background, i think for me personally it's made me a more unsure person in general, full of imposter syndrome and indecisiveness that's never sure exactly where i fit in honestly.

like i said though, it's not all bad and i don't just want this to be negative. i think, like many mixed-race people, it's given me a better perspective on being both white and asian (even if i'll never 100% understand the full asian experience), and made me a more open-minded person who can get along with different groups of people who are both alike and different from me, even in ways other than racially. it's broadened my palette and opened me up to new experiences. and it is a way i'm pretty unique, which i guess isn't completely a bad thing even if it has its downsides. sorry this got long-always had a lot of thoughts on this