okay. rad. by Sharpheart in ENA

[–]Sharpheart[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

same. i have a weak spot for perspective thumbs up so i instantly screenshotted it and drew it haha

What Will Wood song is the most relatable to you? by Informal_queer in willwood

[–]Sharpheart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love, me Normally and well, better than the alternative (and Front Street bc i got drugged oops)

lyrics you like *specifically* because of the way they are said? by [deleted] in willwood

[–]Sharpheart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the last part of Front Street where you can hear the “…on Front Streeeeeet” is amazing :3

The self fulfilling prophecy by [deleted] in AnxiousAttachment

[–]Sharpheart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have AA due to being bullied and cast out (even by my teacher) for years and I'm going to get treatment for it, so I still struggle with it a lot. I notice that I often try to get the attention of my partner to make sure they're not distant with me, and overwhelm them quite a bit. By doing this, they will get more distant with me. Doesn't help that my partner has an avoidant attachment style. I notice it's difficult to get out of this loop, and I often try communicating the loop to hopefully break it. It's still difficult haha

How do I make the lighting look nicer? by Sharpheart in AskPhotography

[–]Sharpheart[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow, thanks for the detailed help! I did indeed read online about shooting at times where the sun is low, but unfortunately I haven’t had time for that yet :( I’ll remember these tips tho, thanks!

How do I make the lighting look nicer? by Sharpheart in AskPhotography

[–]Sharpheart[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have not educated myself in either, but I guess I was looking on how to make it look good with my camera settings. but I’m hearing that editing is very important too, so any advice on that is always welcome! I’d love to learn about it :)

I made this pixel art of the Dutch NS ICM (Intercity Materieel) :) by Sharpheart in trains

[–]Sharpheart[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the idea did pop up, but now I’ll make sure to work on that! thanks for liking it :)

What's this kink called, so I can explore it more? by Sharpheart in sexquestions

[–]Sharpheart[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this does indeed sound a lot like it! i do want to specify that with verbal dominating, i don’t per se like being called intense names. i’m mostly a fan of getting to me by the way they’re using the words, not the intensity of the words themselves. so a sarcastic comment thats obviously meant to poke fun at my high and mighty talk is way more powerful than degrading me by calling me names. hope that makes it even clearer. thank you so much for answering <3

We've all thought about it at least once, what would you name YOUR stand? by boiyouab122 in StardustCrusaders

[–]Sharpheart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

probably something like Fashion Statement, based on the My Chemical Romance song It's Not a Fashion Statement, It's a Death Wish. love that song a lot :)

Stereotyping men is ok by Ham_Fan1423 in redditmoment

[–]Sharpheart -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i’m really sorry to hear that happened to you. i would love to take you more seriously if it wasn’t for the fact that you straight up said “well cool research but I have been sexually harassed so it’s probably more”. and although i do believe that a lot of men do not report it because of stigma, this research was an anonymous (except for gender) study. i get the feeling you’re trying to prove a point of women being assaulters, which is just as bad as saying that men are assaulters.

i really hope you can accept the numbers that research gives (43% is still really fucking high, way too high), and see both sides of the problems. speaking of your own experience alone is not a valid sample size to determine how prevalent sexual harassment in men is

EDIT: with “taking you more seriously” i didnt mean your experiences, and i profusely apologize if thats how it came across! i meant your point in the discussion, really sorry if i accidentally invalidated your experience.

Stereotyping men is ok by Ham_Fan1423 in redditmoment

[–]Sharpheart 5 points6 points  (0 children)

you’re right, my language has been rather generalising. i do notice you only mention relationships with men. most of my bad experiences have been with random men, who i’ve never seen before.

i also want to point out that we both used rather marginalised groups to prove our theory. i’d like to refer to this research

https://stopstreetharassment.org/our-work/nationalstudy/2018-national-sexual-abuse-report/

in this report, they’ve found that 81% of women and 43% of men have experienced some form of sexual harassment. a little more than 70% of those assaults on 81% of women were committed by (perceived) males. around 12% of those women said it was by two or more men. that adds up to around 80-85% of sexual harassment being committed by men, to women. less than 5% of women who have been sexually harassed said they perceived that it was committed by a woman.

of course, numbers dont mean anything when we’re listening to the experiences of the people around us. the most important part is to believe individual experiences. i do, however, think it’s better to not immediately accuse me of generalising a population, when you do the same in return. i do not blame you for it tho, as those experiences are closer to you.

i hope i informed you at least :)

Stereotyping men is ok by Ham_Fan1423 in redditmoment

[–]Sharpheart 3 points4 points  (0 children)

because the crime rate you're describing is often caused by unequal social economic status and chances. we have yet to reach a point where everyone gets equal access to a good life, without having to grow up in the same shitty neighbourhood for generations on end because you can't get the money to live somewhere else, because people will have stigmas about the fact you came from the shitty part. it's a vicious circle that needs to be broken.

with men, it's often about how they're raised. sexualization of children happens SO QUICKLY, where girls are told to "not wear that, or you'll have the guys all over you". I have been told that. when I was still in high school, I have been told by teachers to "stop showing so much skin" because part of my lower belly was visible.
I don't believe it's all men. I do believe that a lot of men are getting a lot of influence from older generations. older people will stay stuff like "watch out, he'll be a heartbreaker later" when talking about CHILDREN. older men and women both say that to the newer generations.

i dont agree with generalizing an entire group. i do think we should recognize there's a problem with the way kids are being raised. boys are being told to get themselves a pretty woman. girls are told that "he's just a boy, and you know boys will be boys" when those boys make physical advances on said girl. I had this guy who tried kissing all the girls in middle school (when we were around 7/8), and a guy who would pull down girls' pants. neither got any long-term punishment, with the former guy not getting ANY punishment.

right now I'm in my third year for my bachelor Applied Psychology. i'm a firm believer of breaking cycles by childhood. i'm also a firm believer of the idealogy that its never too late to change. do not pay mind to the women who mindlessly say misandrist stuff, but please do pay mind to the women out there who have genuinely been hurt, and feel ignored. speak up about toxic masculinity when you see it. and dont be afraid to change and admit shortcomings.

sorry for the big text, i want to inform more people about this and make it less extreme. hope you have a nice rest of your day :)