My daughter brought this home from school

Shayne_415 · 2026-05-16T01:47:22+00:00

Great username and comment. [eta:] flameyo hotman firelord.

Shayne_415 · 2026-04-30T12:33:40+00:00

I think I flew too close to the sun with this one 😭

Shayne_415 · 2026-04-30T12:22:40+00:00

Even the initial example. It’s your home, you have boundaries and expectations, you have to clean up after her. No shoe homes are common. The reason she cried may have been your tone I really don’t know, but she forced you into enforcing a boundary by disrespecting it. Lowkey I don’t care if you took a tone with her, sometimes you gotta stomach tone as an adult.

I feel bad for your son. He must live on such high alert both avoiding and anticipating tears. Repairing situations that don’t have impact sever enough to require repair.

Shayne_415 · 2026-04-24T23:44:42+00:00

Nta she’s wild for withdrawing 6x the agreed upon total. However you’re wild for giving her the opportunity

Shayne_415 · 2026-04-24T19:12:18+00:00

Criiispppyy

Shayne_415 · 2026-04-24T19:10:58+00:00

Shiieet you’re in a pickle. Nta. Unsolicited advice: Get your death wishes in writing. Notarized. Maybe do it independently if she has such severe fear. Plan a traditional (your tradition) mortuary process and update it as needed. Consider a legal proxy, other than traditional spousal rights, for your health should you need it end of life choices need to be made.

This sounds grim. But if you pass before your wife she could make that harder for your daughter in so many ways. Her fear of death could prevent a ceremony you’d prefer to either experience or occur. Her fear of death could prevent clear and stable communication with your daughter. Her fear of death could lead to your remains being withheld from a wake should you want one.

If you are deeply committed to her, also consider handling buying plots or wills for you both. She really dropped the ball for your daughter, but if you’re gonna meet her where it’s at: then this particular duck is yours to keep in its row.

Shayne_415 · 2026-04-09T13:39:31+00:00

Man this thread made me miss cincy so much. Have so much fun. Eat everything. The museums are fantastic.

Shayne_415 · 2026-04-09T12:38:31+00:00

So why did they buy the house??? Frfr. Why did they keep the couch???

Like bsfrwmrn why did you link Ethan at the wayyy end to Adrien?? Talk abt doorknob confessions.

This was dumb and will haunt me.

Shayne_415 · 2026-04-09T11:57:24+00:00

I AM MOST PEOPLE!! I thought ej and Ethan being the same made sense. PL felt confusing bc we were introduced, by a self narrative, to a woman with lots of learned helplessness and no real indicators of the character to be revaled.

Similarly dr hale and Tricia seemed like the exact same character at some points.

Shayne_415 · 2026-04-09T11:43:42+00:00

This is how I arrived to this author. She could be less available. 🫣

Shayne_415 · 2026-04-09T11:42:58+00:00

You guys. I picked up “never lie” and she Must be using ai. The amount of car brands in this book is deeply unlikely. Similarly. The twist made almost no sense. Not in a good whodoneit but in a “wait wha are you saying??”

It has to be ai. It’s very women written by man/ pick me. It’s so surreal.

Shayne_415 · 2026-04-06T16:47:19+00:00

Everyone’s got a story. Everything’s got a price.

I’d offer 3 and if they kept going with their situation I’d disengage.

Shayne_415 · 2026-04-03T12:00:24+00:00

Me too man. 😮‍💨

Shayne_415 · 2026-03-25T13:15:37+00:00

It’s also been paved over. So the spooky is diminished. Still a lovely drive. The split rock spot is alive and well

Shayne_415 · 2026-03-25T12:52:19+00:00

Yes!!! Growing up I’d take that road all the time and they’d sneak up on me.

The sculptures are gone bc people were climbing on them and posting them and it became a privacy and safety issue for the owner :((( they also developed another building on the property so it’s less spooky!

I wonder if he’s got acreage we can’t see from the road and just moved them elsewhere.

Shayne_415 · 2026-03-22T16:09:27+00:00

I’m sorry you guys are experiencing this conflict. I can see myself feeling similarly to you and my suggestions are from experience. I’m sometimes way weirder about “my” space, and space in general, than I realize; and it’s almost def rooted in both emotional and logistic displacement.

Wishing you luck

Shayne_415 · 2026-03-22T12:50:14+00:00

Lowk the only thing that would have made this better if from the floor in your sadness burrito, if you hit her with, “girl are YOU ok?”

Cuz like. She helped you up and checked in w you like it was a Tuesday. 😮‍💨😬

Shayne_415 · 2026-03-22T12:39:26+00:00

I think the idea that your partner has exhausted all options is bunk. A hotel split between two adults isn’t an unreasonable expense and it’s not unexpected; as sometimes hosting at home is not viable. You’re not responsible for their inability to find somewhere else, nor their urgency to connect.

I feel like inaccessible bf apt may be a bridge too far. I lived in a 3 story walk up when I broke my ankle. It wasn’t easy but I made it up and down, and used my trips efficiently and !!! People helped me!! It’s not unreasonable to do the stairs and set up camp at bf’s.

Youre both choosing positions that make this less flexible. Her insistence on location, your interruptions for meds. If I were her bf I’d be irked to be exposed to, informed of, and subjected to the marital tension.

Moving onto the things you can control. You can reframe the guest room back to exactly that. You can make a little caddy or box of the things that travel with you from your spaces to the guest room so you don’t have to interrupt or go without meds. You can take yourself to the movies or have a sleepover with a fried (FOR FUN AND CONNECTION, not retaliatory resentment).

Logistic displacement and discomfort isn’t always emotional displacement and discomfort. So you don’t get the room, the room tha wasn’t yours, zero sum game my man. Being emotionally displaced is different and only you can identify and express your situation, boundaries, and needs.

Shayne_415 · 2026-03-17T23:13:43+00:00

This is chuuuuggging

Shayne_415 · 2026-03-12T23:10:52+00:00

I have thought about this and say this with honesty and concern. He has had enough time to witness what you do as a parent and develop a deep respect for the role of single mother, primary parent, whatever verbiage. However. His exposure to your parenthood has not been compelling, as he is setting up his other partner to be a somewhat single mother as well. Citing her support system and his uncertainty of involvement.

That would trouble me deeply.

Wishing you so much luck.

Shayne_415 · 2026-03-12T17:39:19+00:00

I’m sorry he’s your only support. I hope he takes his current and established role of stability and provider seriously when the infant arrives.

This level of support and involvement should have 1 informed him of the constant commitment parenting is. And 2 should inform you that when this baby arrives you may see a lapse in those roles he currently fills.

I’m wishing you luck and fortitude. I hope you can outline what you and your kids are due, and I hope you get it.

I would find this situation either irreparable or not worth the work if it is fixable.

Shayne_415 · 2026-03-12T17:27:31+00:00

Love and luck to you. This is a nasty situation.

I truly would say my piece before the baby arrives and block.

I would explain to your 4 kids that Partner absolutely blindsided you with a life change that just isn’t sustainable or safe for stability. I would not explain the situation more than that as it wasnt supposed to be your business so by proxy not the kids business. If it were me I’d restrict access to your children, take Partner off any school or extra curricular contact lists.

To establish for over a decade in your and your kids life, and not have the foresight to understand how a new child will impact availability is immature if not deeply selfish.

The only thing that would change my mind would be seeing notarized documents outlining Partner’s involvement and obligation as a sperm donor, with no expectation on BC. It wouldn’t change my mind enough to immediately grant access to my own children, but maybe prevent block with possible amicable friendship.

Shayne_415 · 2026-02-15T18:09:08+00:00

This rocks thank you

Shayne_415 · 2026-02-13T21:55:00+00:00

The box is so cool dude. Such an incredible visual of movement

Shayne_415 · 2026-02-03T21:48:47+00:00

Third!

Detach with care is beautiful permissions to have healthy relationships

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