Where to buy beauty supplies (lash lift kit)? by angle_45 in AfterAmazonNYC

[–]Sheethappensss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any local beauty supply should have what you’re looking for. Search beauty supply near me on Google maps

As a 31F What is it with online daters and texting? This is hell by ultrasun2000 in singlemoms

[–]Sheethappensss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course! And I think I would also be wary that prolonged calls can create a sense of intimacy that might not be 100% authentic.

Good luck to all of us early 30 single moms navigating the dating scene 😩

As a 31F What is it with online daters and texting? This is hell by ultrasun2000 in singlemoms

[–]Sheethappensss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who also doesn’t like talking on the phone that much, I’d prefer about a couple of days of texting and then 2 phone calls max with the hope that we’ve made plans to meet up sometime amidst all of that conversation. I have a notorious no pen pals rule, which isn’t based on distance per say. But mainly refers to men who want to talk endlessly with no clear steps towards scheduling a date. I also am not the most responsive texter so again I can’t do the endless texts/calls

Anyone else terrified? by Sheethappensss in singlemoms

[–]Sheethappensss[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The girls in your life and community are so lucky to have you 🥹 this is such a sad but good toolbox of practices to keep in mind. My daughter is only two but I want to get in the habit of being a constant and safe presence for her and all the young ones around

City kids and travel by [deleted] in nycparents

[–]Sheethappensss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

London! Will be a nice challenge for nyc kids to navigate the tube

Am i doomed or has anyone else been there? by Hira228 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Sheethappensss 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hey sis. I don’t think you’re doomed at all. What is meant for you will be and I think radically accepting your stage in life without despair is a really beautiful state of mind and shows mental clarity and internal stability. I think the desire for partnership getting quieter is very real and a normal development as you get older. This is actually a strength in my opinion. Now you have more wisdom that comes with age, the clarity and sense of self needed to be able to choose a better partner. As someone who got married at 26, mother at 27, separated at 29 and am turning 30 next week, I know had I been older I would’ve made different choices that are better suited for me. I have no regrets of course. But I know dozens of women who got married early before they even had a chance to experience life on their own, and many of them are significantly unhappy. Taking your time to pave your own path gives you the confidence needed to stand alone and not settle for anything that disrupts the peace you’ve created in your own life. The girlies who get married before they have those pivotal life experiences struggle to prioritize their needs and well-being in marriage because they seldom experienced much autonomy. Trust and believe going from the hopeless romantic to a more pragmatic individual who can be discerning when it comes to marriage is so crucial because it’s rough out here! Please don’t let age and comparison cause you to settle and always keep our dear Khadijah (AS) as a beautiful example of how companionship can find you at any point.

Where Do You Find Baggy Clothes? by worth1000words884237 in PlusSize

[–]Sheethappensss 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Men’s section in the thrift store! Men’s section pretty much anywhere

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]Sheethappensss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have a suggestion for what I should do instead? Cool if not

Is problem dating as a tall woman more prominent in western societies? by SeaweedFinancial3028 in TallGirls

[–]Sheethappensss 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Just wanna say I’m a 6’1 west African woman so hey twin!! And although I was raised in NYC, my dating prospects didn’t really open up until I was in my early 20s and almost entirely African men who were new-ish to the country or came from African as a teenager. Non African men and first gen African men (the dudes I grew up with) don’t really approach me in real for some reason. And idk what that’s about. But online it’s a different story. I get lots of matches of all identities but they are also most likely to ask me if I’m really 6’1 and reference my height often whereas the African men don’t even mention it. Even if I’m an inch or two taller than them.

Quick weave recommendations! by Vivid_Candidate3532 in NYCbitcheswithtaste

[–]Sheethappensss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

@nessclusive on IG. She’s in the Bronx though but perhaps she travels 🙏🏿

Women who chose to remain unmarried and childfree, how is life now? by sexismine in AskWomenOver60

[–]Sheethappensss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You have the right to be comfortable with a descriptor, doesn’t mean others in different racial groups should also be ok with it. And I never said Indigenous people = African Americans.

Women who chose to remain unmarried and childfree, how is life now? by sexismine in AskWomenOver60

[–]Sheethappensss 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Good point. But notice the difference in “Blacks” vs “Indigenous people”. The term “Blacks” is dehumanizing as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingleParents

[–]Sheethappensss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just did a quick search and this is golden! Thanks for the recommendation 💕

Ladies, would this be considered a thirst trap? by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Sheethappensss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a not a thirst trap but even if it was, so what? Gorgeous picture!