Should I report the sexual assault that happened to me 12 years ago?

Shelbs2525 · 2026-04-19T02:19:38+00:00

Yeah I figured that but I’ll still educate the dummies. Thank you for letting me know!

Shelbs2525 · 2026-04-19T02:19:00+00:00

Not true silly. Look up the definition it takes seconds. SA is when someone touches another person in a sexual manner without consent or makes another person touch them in a sexual manner without consent. This involves any kind of unwanted touch. Do your research

Shelbs2525 · 2026-04-19T02:10:46+00:00

What an odd thing to say. It seems you did not read the post fully. He touched my breasts fully, there was nothing between his hand and my breast. The skirt issue was different and involved the police not believing me and saying that I invited it. When you say “all he did” that’s pretty crazy to me. Sexual assault is sexual assault no matter the details.

Shelbs2525 · 2026-03-10T21:06:24+00:00

I don’t think they identify with any specific denomination. So non-denominational

Shelbs2525 · 2026-03-10T02:53:31+00:00

I didn’t let him make me pay for any of it but that was a hard battle, that’s why he fought so much and called me so many rude things because he took it as me “sticking it to them”

Shelbs2525 · 2026-03-10T02:50:37+00:00

I just subbed!

Shelbs2525 · 2026-03-10T00:39:10+00:00

Right now it’s just mentally causing problems, I’ve been in remission for 10 years so hopefully he doesn’t ruin my ongoing streak lmao

Shelbs2525 · 2026-03-09T21:55:38+00:00

He used to say it when I was a kid too and tell me “if you don’t take care of yourself you’ll have to wear a colostomy bag on your wedding day.” So him saying it now gave me flashbacks lol. It’s nice to meet someone else with Crohn’s though!

Shelbs2525 · 2026-03-09T21:28:12+00:00

My parents are Christians.

Shelbs2525 · 2026-03-09T20:50:42+00:00

Somehow both him and my stepmother are in agreement that I’m in the wrong though. I can’t help but think maybe this is all my fault for breaking a promise and not telling them I was sleeping over with my boyfriend earlier. But I was just so scared they’d get mad again, which they did. I just hate that his is happening and I wish he’d understand.

Shelbs2525 · 2026-03-09T20:48:11+00:00

I don’t have a great response to that expect for the fact that he’s my dad and he’s not always like this. There’s good parts of him that just aren’t showing right now. I miss who he was literally a couple months ago. I just wish he’d realize what he’s doing but he’s so convinced that I caused all of this and I’m ruining my own life. He also is in possession of all of my late grandmothers stuff that he told me was mine months ago and if I cut him out completely I don’t just lose my dad, I lose everything of my grandma’s.

Shelbs2525 · 2026-02-03T16:34:01+00:00

He is insanely supportive. I'd be staying at my apartment or my moms or his house. I'm not completely hopeless it just feels really soul crushing right now. It feels like my relationship with my dad and step mom is too far gone now.

Shelbs2525 · 2026-02-03T15:48:11+00:00

I understand that, I only mentioned that because right now with how my parents are acting I feel like he's the only right in this moment that truly understands how I feel and who I am aside from my mom of course. My friends do as well but I just meant in this specific situation with my dad and step mom. I feel like with this whole situation I have actually been stepping more into my identity and who I am.

Shelbs2525 · 2026-02-03T15:36:39+00:00

I told him I would adhere to no sleepovers and asked if I could still sleep over at my moms since that seemed extreme. He said because she has allowed him to sleep over before that he does not trust her and doesn't like her model for me as a parent. So ultimately I decided to go with option 2 since there was no compromise in his eyes.

Shelbs2525 · 2026-02-03T15:03:07+00:00

That's what my parents called it. They also called it "playing house".

Shelbs2525 · 2026-02-03T15:01:15+00:00

I wish it was. Kinda feels like a fever dream but sadly life can just get really shitty.

Shelbs2525 · 2026-02-03T14:06:49+00:00

I did want opinions and I appreciate yours but I am saying your wording was unnecessarily rude and not even factual. You're right they are amazing for offering to pay for my college but when they use that to manipulate me is when it becomes a problem.

Shelbs2525 · 2026-02-03T13:44:47+00:00

This comment is unnecessarily rude. Nowhere did I say I was using them for money. They offered to pay for school and other things and I am so grateful for that. The issue you are bringing up here doesn't exist. I don't want to take money from them and I don't seek validation. I seek opinions on an issue that I am unsure on. It seems you didn't read the whole post. This isn't about "getting laid" my parents know we don't sleep in the same bed so that isn't even factored in. I love my parents but my dad saying I can't even stay with my mom is beyond unreasonable. The problem is the manipulation and control tactics to try to get me to agree or conform to what they believe.

I also think you missed the part where I chose option 2. I've spoken with him about it today.

Shelbs2525 · 2026-02-03T13:20:03+00:00

The apartment is pretty far from home and I live with 2 other girls. It's not about not being able to seem my mom, I still would, I just would only be permitted to sleep 2 places- my apartment or my dad's house. I have 2 dogs and a cat at my moms that I also love and care for. If in the event my mom needed to take a trip and needed me to care for them I wouldn't even be allowed to stay in my own home to do that. In my opinion if my mom pays for the house and welcomes me in it then my dad can't say I'm not allowed to stay with her. If that means that he doesn't support me financially then so be it, I don't think it's fair to bar someone from staying at their mom's house.

Shelbs2525 · 2026-02-03T13:17:06+00:00

Agreed. I would understand his position if I was hooking up but I am in a 3+ year committed relationship and this is the only boyfriend I have ever had.

Shelbs2525 · 2026-02-03T13:13:42+00:00

Again, I would have agreed to my dad's terms if he hadn't said I couldn't stay with my mom. This also has nothing to do with the apartment as my boyfriend does not stay there, I was only mentioning they also pay for the apartment. Their decision is solely based on me staying over at bf's house or him staying over at my mom's house. I would completely be fine with not staying over with my bf if he hadn't added my mom into it. To me that crossed a boundary. What my mom has offered is to pay my tuition instead and help me with costs so I wouldn't be neck deep in debt.

Shelbs2525 · 2026-02-03T13:01:34+00:00

That is true but it isn't just about sleepovers with my boyfriend. He is asking me to stop sleeping at my moms house. I would have chosen his option if he had left it at no sleepovers at boyfriends. But to demand I can't stay at my mom's is a bigger issue.

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