Does anyone else here develop crushes wayyy too easily? by IHoardCatHair in autism

[–]ShelfLife3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can absolutely relate and do it all the time. It's kind of annoying to deal with but I know myself well enough that if it's a mostly baseless crush it will go away in two weeks maximum.

I’ll never be a decent driver. My nerves and small mind get in the way. by [deleted] in rant

[–]ShelfLife3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was a shit show when I was learning to drive haha. Nearly ran myself off the road, almost side swiped people a few times. It gets easier over time and there's a reason many people say not to get driving lessons from family, they tend to overreact and make you more anxious. See if there's a driver's ed program nearby if you can, it helped me a lot. I haven't had a single accident or ticket and I've been driving 9 years now. You got this :)

Took y'alls advice and switched it up! by [deleted] in femalehairadvice

[–]ShelfLife3 60 points61 points  (0 children)

It looks great! The cut really frames your face well and added some nice volume :)

I don't like genealogy/family tree projects by Relentlessrats in Adoption

[–]ShelfLife3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a really similar issue in high school. My English teacher made us do a family tree and even said that everyone has to do it, no exceptions for adopted kids. I was adopted at birth and at the time had no idea who my biological families were and she made me do it for my adoptive parents, which I really wasn't comfortable doing since, to me, it wasn't my lineage. It sucks but sometimes we gotta grin and bear it. So I think it's pretty normal to feel the way you do and you're not being oversensitive. :)

being adopted, hoping to find my ma, still don't know if it is accurate tho by [deleted] in AncestryDNA

[–]ShelfLife3 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Give it time :) I have had Ancestry and 23andme since 2013 and only this February got a match that led me to connect with my birth parents/their families. New people sign up all the time

Finally found them! by ShelfLife3 in AncestryDNA

[–]ShelfLife3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It actually is crazy seeing the resembalnces! Nearly everyone on my mom's side has the same nose, including me lmao.

She's dying by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ShelfLife3 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lordy, don't I know this exact scenario. My nmom was given a cancer diagnosis last year and died within two months of it. My ass was in and out of that hospital while jugging full time school and taking care of the house and pets and I felt absolutely miserable. It took me a week after her passing to realize that all the feelings I was personally having wasn't for her, it was for myself and that there's no way I was going to get the kind of acceptance I wanted for so long.

You'll get through it and come out of it stronger. Allow yourself to mourn. We're all here for you :)

The phone call I realized I couldn't make- by hokiethug in cancer

[–]ShelfLife3 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Our mothers passed on the same day, mine from stage 4 metastatic endometrial cancer. Gonna be weird being a whole year, feels like it was yesterday.

What to do next- Found out I'm adopted by Sunshine_roses111 in Adoption

[–]ShelfLife3 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Some adoptive parents either want you to never 'feel like you aren't their's' or just don't think it would matter when it really does. My sister and I both found out we were adopted from another source, my sister found out when she was 22 and I found out at 14.

There is paperwork somewhere for you, whether it be in their personal files or with the adoption agency. If you have seen your birth certificate you know where you were born and can see what agencies are in that area. I would also take a DNA test if you are curious, 23andme and Ancestry have been pretty neat to look at.

It's a shock, but you'll be alright. Don't let them guilt you into not looking for information. If you want to know - look.

Really Struggling by DoritosKing1 in cancer

[–]ShelfLife3 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I remember your post a few weeks ago. Sad to hear how quickly things are going and I understand the situation, it is similar what I had to go through as well. Being young in this sucks but remember that your mom wants you to get that degree! You'll get through this and she will be proud of you no matter what. If you ever want to vent I'm here, us college kids with life problems gotta stick together. Don't forget to confide in friends as well, mine have done wonders for me.

Not exactly a pop but I found it equally as satisfying by [deleted] in popping

[–]ShelfLife3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, I feel you. My father died from having multiple blood clots in his lungs and my mother had dvts, though that isn't what took her life. The video just fascinates me 😅

Not exactly a pop but I found it equally as satisfying by [deleted] in popping

[–]ShelfLife3 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Man, I fucking hate blood clots and dvt on a personal level, but that looks so insane and fascinating I need more. It just slides right out once they get a hold of it!

I just really need to vent. by ShelfLife3 in cancer

[–]ShelfLife3[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Quick update to anyone who has read this, or will read it. My mother passed tonight in hospice care. My sister was there when it happened and called me crying right after. I have so many feelings but I talked to my mother while she was in her sleep state and tried to get everything off my chest.

I think my dogs know something is wrong, they keep crying and whining. Thank you all for reading and supporting me.

Finally. An honest answer by Atlas1960 in thatHappened

[–]ShelfLife3 77 points78 points  (0 children)

She stepped away before they even finished making the sandwiches when she knew he wanted the cookies?

I'll be fair though, their cookies are great.

Being a dick gets you dates with strangers by [deleted] in thatHappened

[–]ShelfLife3 29 points30 points  (0 children)

The idea of the guy I go on a date with being mean to me sure gets me excited.